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Asalamu alaikum! Time for a change of page don't you think? Kinda gettin' tired of scrolling down so far to get to the last message, so here we are:) If you want to comment on past hijablogs you can click the button of at the top of the page to read past entries. To have an encore I will post a nice message a sister posted on "10 excuses people make to not wear hijab". Happy reading and wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
March 28, 2005
I started wearing hijab a week ago , i always wanted to wear hijab but i coudnot do , i was hesitated , then a friend of mine sent me an article and i got the solution of all my reasoning for not wearing hijab . i just want to share that article with the ppl who want to wear hijab but r hesitated to do so .
Top Ten Excuses for Not Wearing the Islamic Hijaab
By Dr Huwayda Ismaeel
Among the pictures that point to the distance of society from the right path and that make clear the level of its deviation and separation from it is the open spread of women not just uncovering their faces but enhancing and making a display of their beauty. We find that this is manifested regretfully, in Islamic (Muslim) society despite that Islamic clothing is also widespread. So then, what are the reasons that have led to this digression?
We put this question to a varied group of women from whom we derived ten major excuses and upon examination and scrutiny, the frailty of the excuses became evident to us. Stay with us dear Muslim sister in these few lines so that we can know through them the reasons for turning away from the hijaab and then discuss each.
Excuse One: I’m not yet convinced (of the necessity) of hijaab.
We then ask this sister two questions:
1: Is she truly convinced of the correctness of the religion of Islam? the natural answer is: Yes she is convinced for she responds "Laa ilaaha illallah!" (There is no god but Allah), meaning she is convinced of the aqeedah, and then she says: "Muhammadun rasoolullah!" (Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah), meaning by that that she is convinced of its legislation or law (Sharee’ah). Therefore, she is convinced of Islam as a belief system and a law by which one governs and rules their life.
2: Is the hijaab then a part of Islamic Law (Sharee’ah) and an obligation? If this sister is honest and sincere in her intention and has looked into the issue as one who truly wants to know the truth her answer could only be: Yes. For Allah ta’aala, Whose deity (Uloohiyyah) she believes in has commanded wearing hijaab in His Book (Al-Qur’an) and the noble Prophet (alayhe salaat wa salaam) whose message she believes in has commanded wearing the hijaab in his Sunnah. In summary: If this sister is convinced of Islam, how then can she not be convinced of its orders?
Excuse Two: I am convinced of Islamic dress but my mother prevents me from wearing it and if I disobey her I will go to the Fire.
The one who has answered this excuse is the most noble of Allah’s creation, the messenger of Allah (SAWS) in concise and comprehensive words of wisdom: "There is no obedience to the created in the disobedience of Allah." [Ahmad]
The status of parents in Islam, especially the mother, is a high and elevated one. Indeed Allah ta’aala has combined it with the greatest of matters, worshipping Him and His Tawheed, in many aayaat. He stated:
"Worship Allah and join none with Him and do good to parents." [Soorah An-Nisaa 4: 36]. Obedience to parents is not limited except in one aspect, and that is if they order to disobedience of Allah. Allah said:"But if they strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not." [Soorah Luqmaan 31: 15]
The lack of obedience to them in sinfulness does not prevent being good to them and kind treatment of them. Allah said afterward in the same aayah: But behave with them world kindly. In summary: How can you obey your mother and disobey Allah Who created you and your mother?
Excuse Three: My position does not allow me to substitute my dress for Islamic dress.
This sister is either one or the other of two types: She is sincere and honest, or she is a slippery liar who desires to make a showy display of her "hijaab" clamoring with colors to be "in line with the times" and expensive". We will begin with an answer to the honest and sincere sister. Are you unaware my dear sister, that it is not permissible for the Muslim woman to leave her home in any instance unless her clothing meets the conditions of Islamic hijaab (Hijaab shar’ee) and it is a duty of every Muslim woman to know what they are? If you have taken the time and effort to learn so many matters of this world how then can you be neglectful of learning those matters which will save you from the punishment of Allah and His anger death!!? Does Allah not say:
"Ask the people of remembrance (i.e. knowledgeable scholars) if you do not know." [Soorah An-Nahl 16: 43]
Learn therefore, the requirements of proper hijaab. If you must go out, then do not do so without the correct hijaab, seeking the pleasure of Allah and the degradation of Shaitaan. That is because the corruption brought about by your going out adorned and "beautified" is far greater than the matter which you deem necessary to go out for.
My dear sister if you are really truthful in your intention and correctly determined you will find a thousands hands of good assisting you and Allah will make the matter easy for you! Is He not the One Who says:
"And whoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty) and He will provide him from sources he never could imagine." [Soorah At-Talaaq 65:2-3]
With regards to the ‘slippery’ one we say: Honour and position is something determined by Allah ta’aala and it is not due to embellishment of clothing and show of colors and keeping up with the trendsetters. It is rather due to obedience to Allah and His Messenger (SAWS) and holding to the pure law of Allah and correct Islamic hijaab. Listen to the words of Allah: "Indeed, the most honourable amongst you are those who are the most pious." [Soorah Al-Hujraat 49: 35]. In summary: Do things in the way of seeking Allah’s pleasure and entering His Jannah and give less value to the high priced and costly objects and wealth of this word.
Excuse Four: It is so very hot in my country and I can’t stand it. How could I take it if I wore the hijaab?
Allah gives an example by saying: "Say: The Fire of hell is more intense in heat if they only understand." [Soorah At-Taubah 9:81]. How can you compare the heat of your land to the heat of the Hellfire? Know, my sister, that Shaitaan as trapped you in one of his feeble ropes to drag you from the heat of this world to the heat of the Hellfire. Free yourself from his net and view the heat of the sun as a favor and not an affliction especially in that it reminds you of the intensity of the punishment of Allah which is many times greater than the heat you now feel. Return to the order of Allah and sacrifice this worldly comfort in the way of following the path of salvation from the Hellfire about which Allah says: "They will neither feel coolness nor have any drink except that of boiling water and the discharge of dirty wounds." [Soorah An-Naba’ 78: 24-25]. In summary: The Jannah is surrounded by hardships and toil, while Hellfire is surrounded by temptations, lusts and desires.
Excuse Five: I’m afraid that if I wear the hijaab I will put it off at another time because I have seen so many others do so!!
To her I say: If everyone was to apply your logic then they would have left the Deen in its entirety! They would have left off salaat because some would be afraid of leaving it later. They would have left fasting in Ramadan because so many are afraid of not doing it later…etc. Haven’t you seen how Shaitaan has trapped you in his snare again and blocked you from guidance?
Allah ta’aala loves continuous obedience even if it be small or recommended. How about something that is an absolute obligation like wearing hijaab?! The Prophet (SAWS) said: "The most beloved deed with Allah is the consistent one though it be little." Why haven’t you sought out the causes leading those people to leave of the hijaab so that you can avoid them and work to keep away from them? Why haven’t you sought out reasons and causes to affirm truth and guidance until you can hold firm to them?
Among these causes is much supplication to Allah (du’aa) to make the heart firm upon the Deen as did the Prophet (SAWS). Also is making salaat and having mindfulness of it as Allah stated: "And seek help in patience and the prayer and truly it is extremely heavy except for the true believers in Allah who obey Allah with full submission and believe in His promise of Jannah and in His warnings (Al Khaashi’oon)." [Soorah Al-Baqarah 2:45]
Other causes to put one upon guidance and truth is adherence to the laws of Islam and one of them is indeed wearing the hijaab. Allah said: "If they had done what they were told, it would have been better for them and would have strengthened their faith." [Soorah Al-Baqarah 2: 66]. In summary: If you hold tight to the causes of guidance and taste the sweetness of faith you will not neglect the orders of Allah after having held to them.
Excuse Six: If I wear the hijaab then nobody will marry me, so I’m going to leave it off until then.
Any husband who desires that you be uncovered and adorned in public in defiance of and in disobedience to Allah, is not a worthy husband in the first place. He is a husband who has no feeling to protect what Allah has made inviolable, most notably yourself, and he will not help you in any way to enter Al-Jannah or escape from the Hellfire. A home which is founded upon disobedience to Allah and provocation of His anger is fitting that He decrees misery and hardship for it in this life and in the Hereafter. As Allah stated: "But whosoever, turns away from My reminder (i.e. neither believes in the Qur’an nor acts upon its teachings) verily for him is a life of hardship and We shall raise him up blind on the Day of Resurrection." [Soorah TaHa 20: 124]
Marriage is a favor and blessing from Allah to whom He give whom He wills. How many women who wear hijaab (mutahajibah) are in fact married while many who don’t aren’t? If you were to say that ‘…my being made-up and uncovered is a means to reach a pure end, namely marriage’, a pure goal or end is not attained through impure and corrupt means in Islam. If the goal is honourable then it must necessarily be achieved by pure and clean method. We say the rule in Islam is: the means are according to the rules of the intended goals. In summary: There is no blessing in a marriage established upon sinfulness and corruption.
Excuse Seven: I don’t wear hijaab based on what Allah says: "And proclaim the grace of your Rabb" [Soorah Ad-Dhuhaa 93: 11]. How can I cover what Allah has blessed me with of silky soft hair and captivating beauty?!
So… this sister of ours adheres to the Book of Allah and its commands as long as they coincide with her personal desires and understanding! She leaves behind those matters when they don’t please her. If this was not the case, then why doesn’t she follow the aayah: "And do not show off their adornment except only that which is apparent" [Soorah An-Noor 24: 31] and the statement of Allah: "Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks all over their bodies." [Soorah Al-Ahzab 33:59]
With this statement my sister you have now made a Shari’ah (law) for yourself of what Allah ta’aala has strictly forbidden, namely beautification (at-tabarruj) and uncovering (as-sufoor), and the reason: Your lack of wanting to adhere to the order. The greatest blessing or favor that Allah has bestowed upon us is that of Eemaan (faith) and hidaayah (guidance) and among them is the Islamic hijaab. Why then do you not manifest and talk about this greatest of blessings given to you? In summary: Is there a greater blessing and favor upon the woman than guidance and hijaab?
Excuse Eight: I know that hijaab is obligatory (waajib), but I will wear it when Allah guidance me to do so.
We ask this sister on what plans or steps she will undertake until she accepts this divine guidance? We know that Allah has in His wisdom made a cause or means for everything. That is why the sick take medicine to regain health, and the traveller rides a vehicle or an animal to reach his destination, and other limitless examples.
Has this sister of ours seriously endeavored to seek true guidance and exerted the proper means to get it such as: Supplicating Allah sincerely as He stated: "Guide us to the Straight Path." [Soorah Al-Faatihaa 1: 6]; Keeping company with the righteous good sisters - for they are among the best to assist her to guidance and to continue to point her to it until Allah guides her and increases her guidance and inspires her to further guidance and taqwaa. She would then adhere to the orders of Allah and wear the hijaab that the believing women are commanded to wear. In summary: If this sister was really serious about seeking guidance she would have exerted herself by the proper means to get it.
Excuse Nine: It’s not time for that yet. I’m still too young for wearing hijaab. I’ll do it when I get older and after I make Hajj ( Pilgrimage to Macca)!
The Angel of Death my sister, is visiting and waiting at your door for the order of Allah ta’aala to open it on you at any moment in your life. Allah said: "When their term comes, neither can they delay it nor can they advance it an hour (or a moment)." [Soorah Al-An’aam 7:34]
Death my sister doesn’t discriminate between the young or the old and it may come while you are in this state of great sinfulness disobedience, fighting against the Lord of Honour with your uncovering and shameless adornment. My sister, you should race to obedience along with those others who race to answer the call of Allah tabaaraka wa ta’aala: "Race with one another in hastening towards forgiveness from your Lord and Paradise the width whereof is as the width of the heavens and the earth." [Soorah Al-hadeed 57:21]
Sister, don’t forget Allah or He will forget you by turning His mercy away from you in this life and the next. You are forgetting your own soul by not fulfilling the right or your souls to obey Allah and proper worship of Him. Allah stated about the hypocrites (Al-Munaafiqoon): "And be not like those who forgot Allah and He caused them to forget their own selves." [Soorah Al-Hashr 59: 19]
My sister wear the hijaab in your young age in opposition to the sinful deed because Allah is intense in punishment and will ask you on the Day of Resurrection about your youth and every moment of your life. In summary: Stop presuming some future expectation in your life will indeed occur!! How can you guarantee your own life until tomorrow?
Excuse Ten: I’m afraid that if I wear Islamic clothing that I’ll be labeled as belonging to some group or another and I hate partisanship.
My sister in Islam, there are only two parties in Islam, and they are both mentioned by Allah Almighty in His Noble Book. The first party is the party of Allah (Hizbullah) that He gives victory to because of their obedience to His commands and staying away from what He has forbidden. The second party is the party of the accursed Shaitaan (hizbush-Shaitan) which disobeys the Most Merciful and increase corruption in the earth. When you hold tight to and adhere to the commands of Allah, and among them is wearing the hijaab - you then become a part of the successful party of Allah. when you beautify and display your charms you are riding in the boat of Shaitaan and his friends and partners from among the hypocrites and the disbelievers and none worse could there be as friends.
Don’t you see how you are running from Allah and to the Shaitaan, trading filth for good? Run instead my sister to Allah and follow His way: "So flee to Allah (from His Torment to His mercy). Verily I (Muhammad) am a plain warner to you from Him." [Soorah Adh-Dhaariyaat 51: 50]. The hijaab is a high form of worship that is not subject to the opinions of people and their orientation and choices because the one who legislated it is the Most Wise Creator. In summary: In the way of seeking the pleasure of Allah and in hope of His Mercy and success in His Jannah and throw the statements of the devils among people and jinn against the wall! Hold tight to the legislation of Allah by your molars and follow the example of the striving and knowledgeable Mothers of the Believers and the female companions (radhiallahu anhum ajma’een).
In Conclusion
Your body is on display in the market of Shaitan seducting the hearts of men. The hairstyles, the tight clothing showing every detail of your figure, the short dresses showing off your legs and feet, the showy, decorative and fragrant clothing all angers the Merciful and pleases the Shaitaan. Every day that passes while you are in this condition, distances you further from Allah and brings you closer to Shaitaan. Each day curses and anger are directed toward you from the heavens until you repent. Every day brings you closer to the grave and the Angel of Death is ready to capture your soul. "Everyone shall taste death. And only on the Day of Resurrection shall you be paid your wages in full. And whoever is removed away from the Hellfire and admitted to Al-Jannah, is indeed successful. The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception (a deceiving thing)." [Soorah Aale ‘Imraan 3:185]
Get on the train of repentance my sister, before it passes by your station. Deeply consider my sister, what is happening today before tomorrow comes. Think about it, my sister - Now, before it is too late!
Maliha
on
March 28, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! I don't know if any of you are familiar with Canada, but I think it has us all confused! When is spring coming so we can wear our lighter weight hijabs. Just yesterday I went out with my daughter to run some errands and it seemed cold outside but unfortunately the hijab I was wearing was too hot for the temperature. I can't wait till sunny spring weather arrives so we can start wearing our wonderful abayas and jilbabs. I know quite a few of you are waiting for us to launch a line of abayas and jilbabs, and we will very verrry soon inshallah. We will send out a mass new arrivals newsletter so you can be first in line inshallah:) Happy shopping! Wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
on
March 29, 2005
Asalamu Alaikum sisters! Jilbabs and Abayas are finally here @ The Canadian Muslim, formally known as ISHARS Online. They are not launched as of yet, but you'll get a great preview, we will be adding new editions over the next few days and will be officially for sale and pricing will be available on April 1st, 2005. Stay tuned! Wa salaaaam!
Sister Deneer
on
March 29, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters! We will be launching a new product line of jilbabs and abayas early this afternoon inshallah and we will be sending out a mass email run to those who have signed up for our new arrivals newsletter. Stay tuned! Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
April 1, 2005
As Salam Aleikum sisters,
All praise is due to Allah, the Most Merciful and the Master of the Day of Judgment.
My name is Mariam and I live in the Uk. I became muslim few years ago. In the begining, it was a bit hard wearing the hijab. Until, the day I undertood why Allah wants all muslim women to wear it. Subhaanallah...Then, I started wearing it.
Every muslim devotes his life to God.
Mashallah...
Salam sisters
Sister Mariam from United kindom
on
April 1, 2005
Assalam-o-Alaikum sisters,
Alhamdollilah i was born a muslim however never thought how fortunate us muslim really are. Very recently i started getting into Islam and started wearing full hijjab Alhamdollaih, and it is one of the best things a muslim woman can do. Its compulasary on us mulsim women just like Salah. May Allah SWT help all us mulsim women to protect ourselves from fitna and cover ourselves the way Allah has commanded us too. Remember me in your prays, W'Salaam.
Firdous
on
April 4, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! It's funny when we begin to study how business is done in the middle east compared to how business is done in North America. In the Middle east, customers who deal with reputable companies don't expect them to be as polite and as responsive. Simply, if the customer sees that you are too nice, they will feel something shady is goin on, and would be skeptical of your business. As for North American Companies, we do the exact opposite and customers expect the opposite. We feel that customer service is highly valued in these parts and to neglect this is also to neglect the customer and the business, and everything goes downhill from there. Weird eh' All in all, we feel customers should be respected and not be mistreated for their views no matter the situation. Wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
on
April 4, 2005
See, now I just bought a car here in Kuwait (a little red BMW--Mashallah! I found quite the opposite to be true, the customer service was extraordinary! AL Humdillilah. They were VERY nice, invited me to sit and chat and drink tea, you just don't get the same in America buying a car, I think. They also take care of EVERYTHING, all you do is basically show up and point to what you want! LOL!
BTW, I am very disappointed. I was holding off ordering anything until your abaya came in and I can't find a single one long enough. I need at least a 58 length and the longest one I've found thus far is 55 inches. Too bad! Will you do special orders? I love the Navy blue one.
Khalissa
on
April 4, 2005
Wa alaikum salam Khalissa:) Red bmw eh'..woow Nothin' wrong with a little bling:)) hehe
You're in luck! I have one that is 58 inches long at this link http://www.thecanadianmuslim.ca/catalog/item/1576734/1297619.htm There is only 1 of them...left. This is actually one of my favorites;) Wasalam!
Sister Deneer
on
April 5, 2005
Asalamu alaikum all sisters in the world! We have now launched THE 1ST HIJAB TUTORIAL VIDEO ON THE NET! Wow! Finally a true visual, more helpful than pictures and more helpful than any text can describe. Inshallah You'll learn something that will make your wearing hijab much easier! Wasalaaaaaam!
Sister Deneer
on
April 5, 2005
Wasalam. I was so excited i forgot to give yawl the link! www.thecanadianmuslim.ca/wear_hijab_video.html
Sister Deneer
on
April 5, 2005
Assalamualaikum sisters how are you? i was browsing for hijabs when i came across this website and it is beautiful from the advice you give to all the pretty hijabs you have avilable.may Allah swt reward you for this good ded and keep it up!!! i will definately be telling my friends about this website!
Alhamdullillah i am a born muslim but subhanallah wasnt practising before. i have recently started wearing the full hijab and i think like most sisters at first i did find it hard as im mainly surrounded by non-muslims at work. sometimes i feel kinda down and begin to think about the days i wasnt covering but i knw thats just the shaytans whisperings but i am so glad i am now covering. I tell you its the best feelin you can have! You feel so safe and protected. i think teh key is to hang aroundI pray to Allah swt to guide everyone to the right part and give all the sisters the strength and courage to cover up.Ameen :D
sister safeena (UK)
on
April 6, 2005
Asalamu Alaikum sisters! I figured that today I would give a short tutorial to the new muslims on how to say the Islamic Greetings. Now repeat after me "Assa", "Lamb", "oo", "A-Lay", "Comb". Repeat this phrase slowly at first and speed up until you're comfortable with it. For experts, instead of saying "A-Lay", you will say "3-Lay", where the 3 stands for the 18th letter in the arabic alphabet which is [aye-een]. You'll need to speak to someone who knows arabic so they can pronounce this letter for you because it can't be explained in words. It is always better to try to greet a muslimah before they greet you first, and in Islam it's counted as suddaqa(charitable giving) on your behalf inshallah. Now for the end greeting..so please repeat after me...."Wa", "A-Lay", "Comb", "Sal", "Am", and repeat until you are comfortable to say "Wa alaikum Salam". And for experts will replace "A-Lay", with "3-Lay" as mentioned above. Inshallah you found this lesson helpful, and now whenever a muslimah greets you, you will have the confidence to say your answer and be heard, and end it with a friendly smile....so...Wa alaikum salam!*smile*
Sister Deneer
on
April 8, 2005
Salamaat.
Your comments are very warm and your efforts to provide pretty hijab items are appreciated.
For myself and my fellow Euro- and African - North American converts, however, the flashy sparkles and the artificial fabrics of so moch of the world's hijab clothing today (unfortunately including your offerings) are not attractive. I am sorry to have to say this, sisters, but the copycat fabrics and gaudy designs we see so often are attempts to lure us into coverings that are supposed to say, "Look at me! I am modern and just as flashy and trendy as you kuffaar ladies! I can look like the Gulf woman, too, who can afford to have the same outfits done with real jewels and even gaudier polyester fabrics."
Please forgive me but I see it as part of our overall malaise in the Ummah for us to reject our own cultural history as Muslims and to ape the west in this way. It is not traditional Muslim, it is not even, pardon me, tasteful western imitation to wear these outifts. Please remember that until colonialism in the Muslim world, we were producing the most beautiful fabrics, jewelry, designs, leather goods, etc. in the world and the Euro's were begging us to sell to them..
Is it not sad that we now pay top prices to use cheaply produced artificial (and flameable) fabrics that make us sweat like crazy even in winter and we sew them up in imitation of the colors and tv styles of the west? WHy? Where are the gorgeous silks and Egyptian cottons and pure wools of the real Muslim clothing, just plain or in tasteful harmonious Muslim designs. To see, I hope, what I mean, go to Morocco. Go to Bangladesh. Go to Turkey outside the cities. Go to Afghanistan (a beautiful colored silk burqah is miles prettier than poly "designer" hijabs).
And I think perhaps the Prophet (SAW) would find it discouraging to see what we wear around nowadays - even if we are draped all over, we show off our consumerism and poor taste when we market and wear such artificial dress. Poor villages are rich with beauty just because the people (men, too) wear local and lovely clothing. Is it the advent of oil? Isn't poly actually petroleum in its makeup?
Sorry for the tirade. I mean only to suggest to the company and anyone reading this that we need to be proud of our religion and our own positive culture practices: let us get real, let us get pretty inside AND outside again, for this world and the next, bi-idhniLLah.
Haniyah
on
April 8, 2005
Asalamu alaikum, and thank you for your insight. Our aim here is to provide hijabs that are appropriate for the workplace, outside the home and school, for a conservative look. So with this in mind, our focus is not to sell flashy sequined fabrics and in Islam non-sequined fabrics are preferred over the latter. Yes it is true that the major fabric of hijabs provided today are in polyester, but benefits outweigh the disadvantages by far, which is why other muslimahs including myself continue to buy and wear them. Summer is coming fast, and now is the time for our dear friend Georgette and Chiffon. Georgette & Chiffon, also polyester types, are common fabrics worn in the middle east, because they are strong, breatheable, and affordable. We believe when sisters buy their hijabs online, they want to buy from a professional source they trust, get their shipment fast, at a look suiting their personal tastes, and not have to pay top dollar for it. We will be providing more hijabs in cotton for those with sensitive skin and perhaps in the future we will provide more Islamic clothing in more natural fibrers as soon as we find a reliable source.Jazakallahu khairan and wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
April 9, 2005
Asalamu Alaikum sisters and tall ones too;) We will be posting more plus size abayas and abayas for those who are taller in height. So stay tuned! Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
April 9, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters, this is a little blog to provide correct information on the islamic term "Jazakallahu Khairan". Sometimes the term "Jazakallah" is used but it is not correct actually and could mean something else you mean not to say. The correct way of using this prase which means "God Bless you" is to say "Jazak-allahu Khai-ran" to say God bless you to one person, or to a bunch of people is "Jazak-oom-allahu Khai-ran". Inshallah you found this helpful and Jazakumallahu Khairan! Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
April 12, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! Generally, with all hijabs and shaylas, always hand wash or use delicate cycle and cold water and little or soap for delicates. This will maintain the color and embroidery and patterns inshallah. If you can, do not wash them with your regular clothing that can increase friction while in the washer. Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
April 12, 2005
Asalaamualaikum wr wb. The Article was excellent! Insha'Allah all sisters please take the time to read it if you don't already wear hijaab!
AllahsSrvnt
on
April 14, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! As a rule of thumb for online shopping, no matter how large your order may be, never "Assume" your order includes tracking. This was a big mistake I made at one large purchase I made with an online retailer who advertized only $10.00 shipping for any sized order. So I ended up placing an order for almost $300 US, only to realize that the large shipment was not sent with tracking nor was i informed of it till much later. I never received the items. As a result of this learned lesson, we make it our goal here to advise if your order includes tracking or not, before you accomodate the cost of your beautiful items. Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
April 16, 2005
Headscarf Row Mars Turkey's Birthday
ANKARA (AFP) - Turkey celebrated the 81st anniversary of its foundation, but the festivities were marred by an embargo that President Ahmet Necdet Sezer slapped on women with Islamic headscarves at a reception in his palace...
Out of the 368 AKP parliament members, only about 20 -- including four ministers -- turned up at the presidential palace...
Some had said earlier in the week they had sent back their invitations to the president in protest at the snub of their spouses.
The wives of most members of the AKP, a conservative party with Islamist roots, wear the Islamic headscarf, seen by many here as a symbolic declaration against the Muslim nation's strictly secular order...
Women legislators from both the AKP and the opposition Republican People's Party (CHP), none of whom wears the headscarf, and wives of AKP members who do not cover their heads were invited...
Women wearing the headscarf are banned from attending universities and working in public offices in Turkey...
Brief article about hijab in Turkey
on
April 17, 2005
SIS Daneer, I have to tell you I got my order from your store today and I AM SO THRILLED!! Jazak Allah Khair, the abaya is beautiful and WAY higher quality than most I've seen. Thank you so much and for the rest on this board, order with confidence, this stuff is BEAUTIFUL!
Khalissa (brenda)
Khalissa
on
April 19, 2005
*Salams sisters, i absolutley love this website, its really nice mashallah, but i have one question for any of the sisters, do any of you all know anything about the Crusade, and who were the Crusaders? where did they originate from? i was doing some research .. thanks
your sister in Islam Aminah
*masalam
Aminah
on
April 19, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister. I have no idea eh'. Sisters, drop by anytime between 7-9pm EST in our HijabChat and say asalamu alaikum! wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
April 20, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! hope everyone is enjoying the coming of this hotter weather. Canada's Wonderland here we come! wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
April 21, 2005
Assalam-O-Alai visited this web site at the end of March and since then i have been regular site member. Beautiful stuff MASHALLAH!. im almost ready to make my first order. i have a question though? do i get any discounts in shipping if my order amount exceeds $50? Please notify as soon as possible
Thanx a Bunch
MASALAAM
Iram
on
April 21, 2005
SALAAMZ...1 more thing...I can't play ur how to hijab video tutorial...any suggestions???
M'ASALAAM
IRAM
on
April 21, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister and I'm glad you're pleased with the items we have to offer here;) These are the current promotions we have goin on for our Canada/USA customers. The first and the best one is our Frequent-Buyer Program. The benefit of this program is that you do not have to wait for a sale to save. In addition, we offer discount tracked shipping rates on a regular basis at only a rate of $12.99. So if you would like to get more value for your dollar, we would suggest placing a larger order and you can have peace of mind you'll get your items and fast. In canada it's as little as 1-4 days. As a member of our frequent buyer program, for ever $100 you spend with us, not including shipping you can redeem 1 free shipping credit. We have a special going on for our accessories too. How it works is that, as long as your order, only includes either underscarves, or pins, a minimum total quantity of 4, then we postal ship it for FREE. If you do decide to join our Frequent-Buyer Program by clicking on the prompt below, you'll need to reply to the confirmation email to be considered an official member. Otherwise, the status of your membership will remain in "pending" status and your accumulation f purchases would not count. We've created a poll this week to increase awareness on this issue inshallah.
As far as the video, it plays well for those with faster internet or perhaps its a problem with your PC. If you have access to a library, or school, you can try playing it there, because they use fast internet inshallah. Or right click on the link for the video and save it instead of playing it directly. These are my suggestions and inshallah one will work for you. Jazakallahu Khairan and wa alaikum salam:)
Sister Deneer
on
April 22, 2005
W.S ( sorry i cannot spell it very well )
I have been trying to wear my hijab but with much frustration as i wear a hearing aid in my left ear. Each time i put it on, ppl tells me that they can hear my hearing aid "squealing" and it hurts their ears. Any suggestions on putting on the hijab without causing it to squeal .. My husband is hearing but when I am alone with him, I don't wear my hijab, only when we have friends and family for a visit. I like to wear it but people tells me it hurts their ears when I have hajib covering or any women who wears a hearing aid . Your suggestion would greatly appreiciated
Blessings
Eisha
Eisha
on
April 22, 2005
Wasalam sis, this is very interesting and thank you for your question. From a scientific point of view we must know, what is it about the hijab that is causing your hearing aid to squeal. Perhaps the material..or perhaps the covering in general. Please do not stop wearing hijab for this reason but what you can do is ask your hearing aid doctor about this as it is their profession. In the mean while..try to do experiments with this issue. A few suggestions are try different materials of hijab, try wearing it looser over the ear, cover your ear with your hand as an experiment to see if the same result happens, or try wearing a georgette hijab and just wear it simple by pinning it under your chin. Perhaps the hearing aid needs air circulating around, which is why we would recommend georgette or crepe chiffon. Good luck sis, and keep us up to date... Anyone else have any other suggestions for this sister? Jazakallahu khairan, and wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
April 22, 2005
Assalamu Alaikum Sisters
i would like to know about the difference betweem shaylas and hijab.
siraj
on
April 22, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister, and thanx for your question. The difference between a shayla and a hijab is that a hijab is shaped like an even square of material, and a shayla is shaped like a long rectangle of material. Hijabs are normally anywhere from 36" to 45" squares and shaylas are anywhere from 60" x 18" more larger. If you look at our hijab page and our shayla page..you can see that shaylas involve a little more wrapping and achieve a different elegant look compared to hijabs. You can also look at our "Learn to wear hijab" video, the 1st on the net, to see how a shayla is wrapped inshallah. Personally, shayla's are my fave because you can achieve many looks with a shayla compared to a hijab, and materials. Check out the Trendy Middle Eastern Shaylas in the pretty shaylas section of the site..and also the crepe chiffon shaylas, ...love em all;) Happy shopping and wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
April 22, 2005
Assalamu Alaikum sister,Thanku for the information.Wassalam
siraj
on
April 25, 2005
I have visited this website for the first time and honestly speaking, i really like it. the way you Islamic sisters have discussed abt different topics and especially the article pointing ten excuses on wearing hijab is fabulous. good effort, keep it up !!!
Ramla
on
April 25, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters! Got any questions about Islam or are you looking for advice. This is your community where you can get and give advice to other Muslim sisters like yourself. Make new friends inshallah:) Join our Islamic Forum and offer your thoughts and inspire other muslims inshallah. See you there! Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
April 26, 2005
Asalamu alaikum, my sisters. I am new to Islam (21-Apr-'05)to be exact. I need some advice on how to start wearing hijab, my work place have men and women and I do feel the need to cover myself. What do you suggest a new sister to start with as far as clothing, hijab etc. Thank you all.
Aisha
on
April 27, 2005
Why is it, that Hijab is one of the most contested subjects
for women in islam. If Hijab is sunna for women and the beard is sunna for men. Then could we not say , women and men look hijab and the beard in similar ways. Some women wear Hijab some don't. While some men grow a beard and others don't. Sallams. Sister Aminah.
Aminah
on
April 27, 2005
Wa alaikum salam Aisha! Mabrook! Congratulations and we welcome you as a sister in Islam. As my advice to you the easiest way to change how you dress for the work place is the Jilbab. It is an excellent conservative way to dress for the Muslim Women and it is actually highly recommended in the Quran for woman to wear them. As for your journey in wearing hijab, practice practice practice! It's going to take patience and perseverence. Make sure that you are in a room with sufficient lighting when you are doing this as well. We have 3 nice pages on learning to wear hijab on our website and you can start here www.thecanadianmuslim.ca/howtohijab.html . Page 2 shows how to wear 1 and 2 piece shaylas, and 3 shows a video, the 1st on the net! The 1 and 2 piece crepe chiffon shaylas are highly recommended for workplace because they are not hot to wear and look nice and conservative too. Many colors available! Jazakallahu Khairan (God bless you) and wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
April 27, 2005
AsSlamAlikum,
Dear Sisters, this is my first visit in this site, I stay in Dubai, I was just going through the commnets that were posted in this page... reading some comments I was very happy and reading some I really felt sad (I will not name whose comments it is) but i am really surprised to say some of us dont know the meaning of Hijab.... My dear sisters Hijab is not fashion that you change it with climate and days.. well I have even noticed many of the women wearing hijab which doesnot look like a hijab.. I am sure you understood what I mean.. I being a guy let me tell you some thing Hijab is to protect you from the dirty eyes of people but the present day hijab is like it pulls the attraction of people.. anyway If i get time i would like to tell you few more things..which i will try to do it later..
WS
Brother - Aamir Quraishi
on
April 28, 2005
Brother, I disagree with you. I think most of the sisters here ARE aware of the meaning of wearing hijab. You don't wear one, obviously, so don't be too quick to judge. I think wearing a stylish color or more comfortable fabric is FINE, you're still wearing it and obeying GOD's command. The Koran itself says that covering identifies you as a believing woman, so if you're in a country where it draws attention, there are somethings you have no control over. IT is STILL covering your beauty from all but your husband and family.
On another note, Sister Daneer, I LOVE your video. I have watched it and shown it to a few of my friends, very cool you put it on her for us to see. Thanks!
Khalissa
Khalissa
on
April 28, 2005
My sentiments exactly sister Khalissa. The brother should not make such comments. It is very intersting how quick men are to judge women when it is the women who are faced with such issues. Brother, please refrain from making such comments. You don't wear hajib so it is easy for you to say that. Women have a right to choose what type to wear be it the color, fabric etc.
Amran
on
April 29, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters! Thank you for for participating in this HijaBlog and inshallah you can make new friends! Feel free to place comments in our Islamic forums as well. Have you wondered about a new easy way that Canadian Residents can pay from their bank accounts? It's called Certapay. As long as you bank online, its possible as long as you bank with a major bank in Canada such as, TD, CIBC, Scotia, Royal Bank e.t.c. This method of payment is known as an Email Interac Money Transfer and it only costs $1 each time you send money no matter what amount. The payments you make to the recipient are received instantly. The way the recipients are identified are via email address; for example, our certapay email address is identified with inquiries@thecanadianmuslim.ca. So for example, lets say your purchase is $50.00 US. You just log into your online banking account, chose the email money transfer option, enter our email address and the amount you want to send and its that simple! We then receive an email letting us know that you're sending funds to us and we accept it and your items are paid for. This is much better than sending a cheque or a money order which can get lost in transit. Call the customer service number on the back of your debit card to ask more details on how it works! Jazakumallahu Khairan and wa alaikum salam;)
Sister Deneer
on
April 29, 2005
Wasalam...hey p.s. the reason why I address myself as "Sister Deneer" is so you know that I am female. Some are confused by the name "deneer" which my father named me, and are unsure if it's a female name or not. oh well...if I were to have an arabic name..i think i'd name myself a word similar to the pronounciation of my original name..but i won't coz my dad would be crushed..anyway...wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
April 29, 2005
Salaam alaikum to all! This message is for Eisha who recently posted a message asking for help on the matter of her hearing aid that squeals when she wears the hijab. I know all about hearing aids -- I wore hearing aids in both ears as a child, then lost a lot of my residual hearing, and so could no longer get any sounds from hearing aids from age 8 to age 20, at which point I got a surgery to have a cochlear implant. Now I can hear a quite good range of sounds, though of course it is a machine and can never be as effective as real hearing. And like you, Eisha, I have a big problem with wearing hijab AND the cochlear implant together! It doesn't help that I also wear glasses. It's very frustrating and I've started dreaming up an idea to make hijabs just for deaf muslimas -- hijabs that have a very sheer panel right on the part of the head where the hearing aid or cochlear implant would be. Or perhaps install in a standard hijab, a stiff sort of netting that would be placed directly over the ears - it would curve around the ear, thereby making room for the aid/CI as well as being porous enough to permit sounds to come through clearly, but would be colored so no one can see through it.
But until that invention comes true (I'll work on making it come true), my advice to you is this: based on my own years of experience with wearing hearing aids, the problem is, when you put on your hijab, you are making it too tight. It is pressing on the hearing aid, and this in turn dislodges the ear mold just a tiny bit. It takes only a slight dislodging to make the whistling sound happen. The reason the hearing aid makes that sound when the earmold is dislodged: A hearing aid works by taking in all the environmental sounds and MAGNIFYING the sounds and the sounds get funneled through your earmolds directly into your ear. When the earmold is dislodged even slightly, all that highly magnified sound is escaping into the environment, and that sound is so high pitched and LOUD that it seriously hurts the hearing people's ears. It annoys them.
Trust me on this... just do as sister Deneer herself suggested -- loosen the hijab around the hearing aid. If that alone doesn't solve the difficulty, then try this: Go to your audiologist and find out if you need new earmolds. Sometimes the shape of the ears changes inside. could be from aging, could be from an injury, could be because a person is still developing (in the case of a child, new earmolds are made every year as they grow. If this has happened that your ear shape has changed even just a bit, it might be affecting the proper fit of the earmolds. Personally, I think it is really just a too tight hijab (or perhaps a too-tight underscarf, like the kind for al-amira hijabs) that is causing your whistling problem.
I hope my advice helps! I promise, I will definitely try to develop hijabs for deaf muslimas. :)
May Allah bless you all.
sweet muslima
on
April 29, 2005
walikesum salaaem
i will defintely try that .......please do let me know if you can come up with a design for the deaf muslimiahs....it would be a blessing for you! my earmold and aid are fitted properly and my ear is smaller than an average ear( i m adult) ...the audiogolist cannot change my hearing aid as "in the ear" hearing aid does not help me. My hearing is progressively getting worse at the point where i maybe qualify for the implants. its correct that the hearing aid do ampfy sounds ...i don't wear my hijabs tight, its the way i put it on.... i m gonna try differnt ways to put it on with out making it squeal...my husband is a great support in this as he wants make sure that everyone else is comfortable .....
as for our brother in dubai , he may not realize that there are women in islam isn't confined to the middle east region but he also have to understand that where hes from, the women may have worn ligther material to keep cool where it may not be helpful for those who are in colder climes, my hubby realized that i have to use " heavy" cotton to stay warm ..
we are not wearing the hajiab just out of fashion, it shows that we are submitted to allah by obeying what allah wishes us to do ....we also like to co ordinate our outfits and also according to our climates ...the clothes that the women wear in dubai may not be benefitial for women in colder climates.....my mother in law gave me 1 abaya and i find it very thin and unable to wear it in the canadian climate ..maybe in the summer but i cannot wear it in the fall/winter. he may need to reconsider what he says.....
Blessings
Eisha
Eisha
on
April 30, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! HijabChat on Now from 7-9PM EST! Chat now and make a new friend inshallah;)
Sister Deneer
on
April 30, 2005
would it be a good idea to politely ask brothers to refrain from using this blog as it is concerning sisters somewhat private clothing concerns?Would a brother feel comfortable w/ a sister entering a blog on a man's "choice of briefs" discussion or some such concerns?Personally I feel somewhat violating having a man's comments on this blog. He can talk to his immediate women relatives about their clothing choices but perhaps it owuld be prudent to stay out of stranger womens discussion about their personal clothing. My hijab.My choice.
saida
on
April 30, 2005
Asaalaamaleikum
Just wanted to say this is a great site and really helped me.. you exude a sweet loving sisters energy..God Bless you forthat..
All the Best,
duas and salaams..
LZaidi
on
May 1, 2005
Right on, SISTERS! I was afraid I'd step on some toes when I answered the brothers' comments right away, it's comforting to know that other's feel the way I do. I love it, Saida, I've seen the Tshirt but don't know where to find it, "MY HIJAB, MY CHOICE!" That covers it all!
Jazak ALLAH Khair
Khalissa
on
May 1, 2005
Salaam! This is directed to Khalissa :) You were saying you don't know where to find the t-shirt that says "My Hijab, My choice". My response to that is: You don't need to find that t-shirt! You can go to any crafts and fabrics store (like Rag Shop, Jo-Ann's Fabrics & Crafts, or whatever there is in your area) and buy fabric paint. It is not that expensive and comes in several colors. It should be possible to machine wash items that have been painted with this fabric paint.
You get a brand new shirt or shirts (for best results, it should be of pure cotton) of any kind, and you can paint any designs you like onto the shirt. In fact you can do the same on pants or skirts as well, so long as the material is the right kind for the paint to hold to (cotton). But one note, sister Khalissa. I do not know if the slogan "My hijab, My choice" is copyrighted or not. So to respect the person or persons who came up with that slogan and marketed it on t-shirts (which means, very probably also copyrighted it) and would lose money if people apppropriate the slogan willfully without buying the products it is printed on, I strongly recommend that you paint on the t-shirt, your own version of the slogan, i.e. "This hijab was my choice!" or "Why should I lose what I choose?" I'm sure you can come up with an alternative that isn't known to be copyrighted. Feel free to use the ideas I just now made up. I'm not seeking to copyright those! :)
wa alaikum salaam
sweet muslima
on
May 1, 2005
Alaikum Salaam,
Great advice, but I am in Kuwait (not exactly crafts central) AND I'm not the artsy/crafty type. It wouldn't be pretty.
Wasalaama,
Khalissa
Khalissa
on
May 1, 2005
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Sister Deneer
on
May 2, 2005
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Sister Deneer
on
May 2, 2005
As salaamu Alaikum, my sister. I converted to Islam about 2 weeks ago and I placed my first order yesterday to start wearing hijab. It is truly my choice and insha'Allah it is best for me. Thank you for the video, it really helped and I look forward to posting more often. I'll update you when my order is delivered, insha'Allah.
A'isha
on
May 3, 2005
Salam sisters, i know this topic is kind of old but i also agree with the sisters on the fact that men shouldn't be going through out blogs, actually it sounds kinda perverted to me. lol . anywyas what i really dont understand is .. why do men put on restrictions for WOMEN as to wearing the hijab, i dont't mean personally (at home an all)..but politically in public terms, i feel offended when that happens. Men do not know the burden women have (and vise versa)... its sweet how other men love hijabis ;) lol...
you HIJABI sisa in Islam
'masalam
Anise
Anise
on
May 3, 2005
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Sister Deneer
on
May 6, 2005
Asalamu Alaikum sisters! We wanted to let you know that we appreciate your support and participation on our website! For those of you who have decided to shop with us we value your business and confidence and trust in our company. We are aware that many reverted muslims visit our website elhamdulilah and we hope that you have found the information helpful and inshallah made new friends:) When I first reverted to Islam almost 5 years ago, there several resources available currently listed in our Islamic Forum under the "Educational resources for New Muslims" topic, but I couldn't help but wish that there were more. Even for existing muslimahs we hope that you found our video helpful and If you've had problems playing the video, you can try playing it at a friends house or at the library or your college or university where the internet operates at much higher speeds.Cable internet is preferrable. If you have any questions, we are available via several methods of communication. If one is unavailable, another is inshallah. Either way, you will have your inquiry answered within 1 hour or less than 24 hours inshallah. Again we appreciate your taking the time to visit our website and we love referrals so be sure to tell your friends about us;) Jazakumallahu Khairan and wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
on
May 12, 2005
Assalamu alaikum sister Deneer and everyone else. This is a very cool website, I tend to come here when I've got spare time on my hands! I've been to the hijab chat room a few times, and alhamdulillah I've made some new friends. The clothing on this site is also gorgeous! Mashallah! I will be buying soon inshallah, I just wanted to know if there is a refund or exchange policy.
Sister Nadia
on
May 12, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister Nadia and thank you for your polite comments:) You can find our policies on the following page below the menu, as well as on the main page of our website: http://www.thecanadianmuslim.ca/new_arrivals.html (a.k.a. on the abayas and jilbabs page) Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
May 12, 2005
Assalamu alaikum everyone, this is a brief and interesting paragragh defining the modern muslimah. Enjoy.
assalamu-alaikum
who is the modern muslimah?
the modern muslimah strives to show her devotion to her creator through the study and practice of His Deen. She respects the scholars of Islam as inheritors of the blessed Prophets (may peace be on them all) and asks knowledgable people for guidance in practicing Islam. She works to assist her family and community whenever required, and works hard to raise her family, cares as much about social justice as she does about homemaking.
She has a voice, but also has 'SHARAM and HAYAA' ie. modesty. The modern muslimah isnt AFRAID to wear Hijab, and she isnt about to APOLOGISE for it either. She integrates Islam into a contemporary life style, works if need be, cares for her family and husband without sacrificing the integrity of her Deen.
Sister Nadia
on
May 14, 2005
Asalamu Alaikum. One thing I noticed when shopping in the Middle East is that the skirts are often sold with a pants to wear underneath it. These pants are wide-legged and have a length past the knee area. I'm sure the reason is for security purposes. So to follow the same suit, it is recommended to wear a pants underneath when you wear skirts, abayas, jilbabs and garments of the sort when outside of the home. Jazakallahu Khairan and wa alaikum salam:)
Sister Deneer
on
May 14, 2005
Asalamu alaikum visitors! Service means a lot to us at ISHARS Online. Feel free to reach us inshallah at our toll free number and if there is no answer, please leave a voice message and your call will be returned in less than 24 hours inshallah. We value your efforts to reach us and we will reciprocate your efforts by answering in return. Please do not hesitate to ask any questions because we are here to help;) Jazakallahu Khairan and wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
on
May 15, 2005
Sister Daneer, that's true and I love it. Here in Kuwait, they aren't sold WITH the skirt, but you can find very light weight pants that you wear under your skirt, abayas. I call them "bloomers" or "I dream of Jeannie pants" LOL! But they are very pretty, help you keep your modesty in case of wind blowing, getting out of the car, etc. and are kind of fun to coordinate with your shoes, underscarf; whatever. Any chance you'll be carrying them here? :)
Khalissa
Khalissa
on
May 16, 2005
Wasalam Khalissa:) Great suggestion actually. I will definately keep your suggestion on file and if we have a dependable supplier we would gladly supply this. Nice idea about coordinating with the underscarf;) Take care sis & wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
May 16, 2005
My mom in law is making me a few pairs of salwar kameezs for my work ..i find those outfit more roomy than the typical scrubs outfits... u should try those outfits sometimes some of the outfits are just simply gorgeous..i was hoping that u would put some salwar kameezs on ur site as they do meet the requirements of the islamic outfits
Eisha
on
May 16, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister, and thank you for the suggestion.
Sister Deneer
on
May 17, 2005
To Admin, assalamu alaikum, i noticed that on the islamic forum, my last entry was edited by u'rself. was there anything inappropriate there, sister.
Nadia
on
May 18, 2005
Wa alaikum salam. Thank you for your inquiry and the reason it was edited was due to the shortening of the Islamic greeting "Asalamu alaikum". I don't quite remember what it was exactly. We did not mean to offend you in any way. In order not to set a precedent...we like to encourage the Islamic greetings not to be abbreviated or replaced with single letters such as Asalamu Alaikum=asak or aa, or something like this. This way the meaning can always be remembered as "Asalamu alaikum = peace be unto you" or "Asalamu alaikum wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatu = peace be unto you and Allah's mercy and blessings".. and vise versa for the Islamic Goodbye "wa alaikum salam or wa alaikum salam wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatu". Being that new muslimahs are entering this religion and existing muslimahs are refreshing their faith in this religion...its always great to set a good example to them by being formal in our words and greetings to them. I.E. Using the wonderful words that the God gave to us to address our sisters and brothers, such as Subhanallah, Elhamdulilah..e.t.c. Wa alaikum salam.
Sister Deneer
on
May 18, 2005
Assalamu alaikum, thank you for correcting my mistake sister. because i spend a lot of time chatting online, i've grown used to the habit of abbreviations like asak,jzk etc. but inshallah i'll try my best not to use them anymore!
Nadia
on
May 19, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister. Jazakallahu Khairan. Wasalam;)
Sister Deneer
on
May 19, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! Did someone say "Denim"? Well we heard ya'! Check out the new selection of denim jilbabs and skirts in the Jilbabs & Abayas Section. Wasalaam!
Sister Deneer
on
May 20, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! You know when you think about it there are so many types of hijabs one can wear. Making the slightest change can encourage a new kind of look whether it is to change the underscarf, or material of the hijab..or go from hijab to shayla. There are also 1 piece hijabs and 1 piece shaylas that are there to make things a little easier inshallah for those starting to wear hijab. Inshallah you will find the resources we provide on our website, such as step by step pictures and description and now video very helpful inshallah. If I only had this resource available when I started wearing hijab. For me..I prefer to wear the shaylas because I like how there is more material to wrap with to create elegant look. I've been having a ball with the "Trendy Middle Eastern Shayla" and in fact I'm wearing one now..with a nice black abaya, in combination witth a cotton underscarf and neck cover so nothing sees through. I like wearing this kind because, no doubt, it's a younger and nice look. So to wear it..I place the shayla on my head at 30% of its length and wrap it around and pin one end at the back of my head. And with the other side of the shayla i bring it across to the opposite shoulder and pin it:) You can also leave it hanging if you like. Depending the style you choose to wear whether it be a square hijab or a shayla, of a certain type of material, you will find certain styles fit certain face shapes. If you've just recently started wearing hijab and are looking for advice, you can email us so we can answer within 24 hours inshallah at inquiries@thecanadianmuslim.ca. Happy Hijabing & Wasalaam!
Sister Deneer
on
May 21, 2005
OOoh, I love the denim Jilbab! I'll be ordering one soon. Thanks for continuing to keep us sisters in the latest fashion!
Khalissa
(:
Khalissa
on
May 22, 2005
Wa alaikum salam Khalissa. Inshallah sis and You'll love it. I have one for myself heheh. We are on limited stock so don't let your "size" get away eh'. Jazakallahu khairan & wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
May 22, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters! Those of you who are not married yet are inshallah hoping to have the perfect husband..but of course no one is perfect. The kind of husband who takes the duty of being kind to his wife as seriously as he does his salat ...is a very good sign that he will be the one that will be in your life for life inshallah. Elhamdulilah the Quran reminds brothers about the importance of being kind to ones wife..and subhannah it is truly the only guide in this life. Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
May 22, 2005
Assalam-O-Alaikum
I have a question. How come you don't have AL AMIRAH hijabs in your web site. I found those VERY VERY comfortable. It would be very nice if you could carry them.
Jazak Allah
Iram
on
May 23, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister. Thank you for your suggestion. If you could elaborate on the type of amira hijabs you found very comfortable, that would be greatly appreciated. We do carry a small selection of amira hijabs in our Lovely hijabs section. Jazakallahu Khairan. Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
May 24, 2005
The kind of Al Amira I like are called "Leila" have you heard of them? Are they are brand name? The ones you have here are wonderful, I like them for early morning prayers--or covering in a hurry! (like when someone comes to your house unannounced or you have to run down the car or ?) LOL! I'm looking forward to seeing what you find.
Khalissa---
Khalissa
on
May 24, 2005
walikesum salaam
plz forgive me i ordered some products from ur site and i went to fax the amount of the money but i lost the order number is there a way i can find it again so i can fax the order number
eisha
on
May 24, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister. Unfortunately it is not showing that we've received an order. You can print out the blank order form page found here: http://www.thecanadianmuslim.ca/hijabs_order_form.html or just click the top menu that says "Fax/Phone Order in Here". Manually fill in what you would like and fax it to us 1-866-334-7585 along with a copy of a certified cheque or money order if you wish to pay via that method. We look forward to serving you. Wa alaikum salam :)
Sister Deneer
on
May 24, 2005
Asalamu alaikum 2 all! If you didn't see the video for "The Ultimate Board Game: Mecca to Medina" make sure that you don't miss it. I personally have a copy of this game and playing it is really loads of fun. My husband really enjoyed it alot. The point of the game is that you have to be the first person to complete 4 Trading Routes and to do that..you gotta make bargians, and trades, and go through unfortunate events to make it where you need to go. Unfortunately my husband is not much of a trader :p..so i basically had to go it alone. Out of my favorite specialty cards it is the Mujahid because if you ever get invaded by evil crusaders, the Mujahid will protect you from being robbed and killed and dies for you to save your life. It's really cool and a game you'll definately enjoy! To order, all you need to do is place a separate order including only the game, and it wil be delivered in less than 5 days for Canada or USA inshallah. Other locations can take 10 days;) Get your copy today! http://www.thecanadianmuslim.ca/mecca_to_medina_game.html Jazakumallahu Khairan & Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
May 26, 2005
As salaamu alaikum. We are launching a 100% Halal grocery store and would like your feedback as to what you would like to see in Halal stores. It is very important that as many Muslims participate in the survey so that we can improve, and so we can make the store as suited to the Muslims as possible. Please fill the survey here and email it to all your friends please! As well, let us know that you found the link at this site. Any questions/comments, email amisra@zumzumsuperstores.com. Jazak Allahu khairun.
Zum Zum
on
May 27, 2005
Asalamu alaikum all! We've just sent out a new arrivals notification newsletter so that you don't miss the latest scoop on what's new at ISHARS Online. Be sure to add yourself so that you don't miss the next one. We add new products every month. Happy Shopping & Wa alaikum salam;)
Sister Deneer
on
May 29, 2005
Finally! someone has written and illustrated a way to wear hijab! Do you know how long I have waited for something like this? Not only do you have books on the subject, but you have colorful pictures and descriptions. I only discovered your website by accident and have been hooked.Keep up the good work sister!
Inayah
Inayah
on
May 29, 2005
Sister Deener...
I just tried to put an order though to you but it didnt go through I dont think. My computer seemed to mess up. Did you get the order? or should I do it again? Thanks :D
Valerie
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May 30, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister valerie;)Unfortnately we didn't receive your order. Please email us the product numbers and quantities and your telephone number so we can complete your order via telephone inshallah. Alternitavely you can call us at 1-877-457-4277 or 1-905-592-0218 and leave a message including the same information so we can return your call. You can also fill out our order form, print it and fax it to us @ 1-866-334-7585 We look forward to serving you! Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
May 30, 2005
Asalamu alaikum. For those of you who wish to send in fax or email orders and pay through the mail, we've created a new manual order form in which you can email to us. Happy shopping;) Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
May 31, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters. A sister is in a little bit of "Jihad" about hijab. She left her email address in her posting. Please reply or email her for support. Thank you. Wa salam
Sister Deneer
on
May 31, 2005
Assalamu Alaikum!
I have posted here today to see if a few reverted or born muslim sisters could share their stories about how and when they started wearing Hijab. I have such a strong urge to do so, yet something keeps me from just jumping in and doing it. Also, how long did it take you to "convert" your wardrobe for your new life as a muslim sister? It is a challenge that each time I browse any kind of store (online or otherwise) that I am always aware of. I am embracing all of these changes in my life, but would love to hear from others about any of these subjects....Thank you so much, Sister Lyse.
Lyse
on
May 31, 2005
Wasalam sis, for some it is a step by step process. The first step is modifying your woredrobe, but stop showing bare arms and legs. Our modern styled collared or hooded jilbabs are a great way to start;) You can do it sis... Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
May 31, 2005
Assalam-O-Alaikum
hmm...HOW did I started wearing Hijab??? what really got me thinking was this following incident. I am born muslim ALHAMDULILLAH. I am employed as a banker. one day, the district manager of the bank was chatting with me. and all of a sudden she pulls a question saying:
"Iram, are there different categories of muslims? i believe you are muslim. My (district manager's) sister converted to islam 30 yrs ago (ALHAMDULILLAH) but she covers her head. and you don't. what's up with that??"
BAMMM!!!! that felt like a slap on the face...That was the start for me. and then I listened to few lectures from a very intelligent ALIMAH. and finally ALLAH gave me strength to cover myself up!
Jazak Allahu Khairan!
Wasalaam
Iram
on
May 31, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sis, MASHALLAH! I could imagine exactly how you felt at that moment sister because a similar situation happened to me. I was at work sitting with 6 people at a call center, and they were talking about religion and Islam happened to come up. And someone said "yeah Deneer is Muslim"...and even I dressed modestly with arms and legs covered and wore layers so that my figure doesn't show..this unbeliever that was there too..and male said "yeah, but she's not a real Muslim"...and i was Shocked this was coming from a person who probably didn't know hardly anything about Islam, but they know that Muslim Women wear the scarf for modestly. So when he said that I paused for a short while, with a sad look on my face feeling in shame actually and said "you know what..you're right..i should be wearing it". At that point I was already thinking of wearing the scarf but I didn't know how to go about it..but mashallah that gave me the extra push I needed. So..elhamdulilah within a week, I was wearing the scarf. Jazakallahu Khairan, wasalam;)
Sister Deneer
on
June 1, 2005
how are you doing last days. bro and sis. iam just find. i visit this web salda this time so i looking a lot of dresses so good.
rod
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June 1, 2005
Why is it so hard to tell the truth...yet so easy to tell a lie, why do we sleep in the Mousqe..but when the salah(namaz/prayers) is over we suddenly wake up?, why is it so hard to talk about ALLAH...but so easy to talk about nasty stuff?, why are we so bored to look at a Islamic magazine...but so easy to look at a nasty one?, why is it so easy to delete a religus offline messages ...yet we forward the nasty ones? why are Mosques getting smaller...but yet bars and clubs are growing??.....think about it....are you going to forward this or delete it? Just remember ALLAH is watching you if u love MUHAMMAD (PBUH) then send this to everyone on your list
Esma
on
June 1, 2005
Salaams Yal'
I must have been living in the past or something. I saved this blog on my favorites, but I saved the old post page ooops. A hand full of sisters and I have been posting in the wrong area.:) If you go to the link below, by typing it in your url section you can see what some of us have posted. http://www.thecanadianmuslim.ca/hijabs_blog.html
I knew I felt lonely out there(lol)
Administrator: You're not alone sis...i'll move your message over to this page. We're heading to page 3 soon inshallah;)
Tawba
on
June 1, 2005
or easier yet, go to page one of this blog
Older Posting
Long-time-no-see, just reading older posts for the first time. I saw that you all were talking about the hijab contradiction. When women cover their hair, but then dress in immodest clothing. I know some girls like this and I have known them since they were kids. They are now dressing this way. I think its because there was too much of a grace period after they started to cover. Meaning that at around age fifteen the parents did not give them the full description of hijab b-cause they were just happy that they were covering. On the girls part, they want to be stylish. So they hit the malls like every other girl and try to peice together some modest stylish items. What they dont know is that the designers are against them. The designers will find a way to make it an attractive item to the opposite sex. Either by making it slightly see through (of course you cant tell it is at first). Or else its a skirt that they put darts at the waist to make it fit a little tighter at the waist. Another trick is the 1/3 sleeve, looks long sleeve till you git it home. The worst offender is the innocent straight leg work slack that cuts at the hips. You dont notice that untill you sit sunnah to eat with friends and you get embarassed. Eventually they had a whole wardrobe that does not fit modestly. It happened to me once, a faux wrap skirt had a built in slip (which i wore a slip on under that). I caught a glimpse of myself in the wrong lighting and it was almost completly see through. I bet we all have some stories to tell...which makes sites like this more valuable. Sis Deneer has a good intention when she designs.
Tawba
on
June 1, 2005
Correction! Page two:):) I need to get some more sleeeeep
Tawba
on
June 1, 2005
Assalamu Alaikum,
Wow! Thank you for all of your stories about wearing hijab....I know that eventually one day I will have the courage to "just do it". Maybe the 'excuse' of being a revert and being afraid to expose your new and special innermost feelings about your new life is not a good enough reason not to wear it. (I hope that made sense). Anyway, All the stories and support that we can offer eachother in here is wonderful and will possibly just I (or others as well) need to make that final leap.
Thank you so much, Sister Lyse
Lyse
on
June 1, 2005
Wasalam Sis Tawba.. This is the new updated page eh' I'm going to add a page 3 soon. Its kind of annoying to have to scroll down so far. I'm going to move the messages from page 1 over here to prevent confusion inshallah. We are on page 2 now elhamdulilah and 3 coming soon;) Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
June 1, 2005
essellamu allejkum wE rahmetullahi teala WEberekatuh! You guys made me cry after i've read some of your writings. Wow mash'allah this is really beautiful. I just realized how beautiful it really is to wear hijab...essellamu allejkum my sisters may Allah reward you all insh'allah!!!
sabera
on
June 1, 2005
Asalamu-Aleikum to all my muslim sisters. When I finally made up my mind about wearing the hijab I was 13 years old. To most people I was very young to be wearing it but in my heart I knew I should have started a long time ago. I felt like I could have done better even though I was born in a non-muslim country in Europe. Now, about 4 years latter, I have people around me saying i should take it off because I'll feel better and freer if I do. I know I shouldn't believe them, and I don't, but what should I do? When I hear them saying that I regret wearing it in the first place. I know most of you are thinking, 'You should hang out with muslim people' but the muslim friends I had treated me so badly that I can't even think of having another. Those were the worst days of my life!! If anyone has some advice for me please e-mail me at preety_gurrl@hotmail.com. Thank You!
Emma
on
June 1, 2005
Emma, Thank you for posting. You are a prime example of why hijab should wait until you are in puberty. The mere fact that you are guilty for not covering early than thirteen shows that your idea of hijab was corrupted. Hijab is not for children. We wear hijab to cover our physical appeal as a child the physical appeal is not there. Also when you are actually of age to cover is when your mind is more fit to make a perminent decision for you life. Now the result is you dont even know why you started when you did. Alot of non-muslims have tried to tell me how fun a free it is to be covered. I know what it is like to be uncovered walking around, I had a guilt free childhood and spent most summers at the beach ant the pool. If you missed out on this type of childhood, try not covering. Yes, I said it. Go to an all womens gym, get a free week membership with your friends. Go to the gym: swim, run excersize (all without hijab). What you will find is its really no earth shattering feeling. You are having fun but its not a jinnah on earth or anything. You are now a grown women and you should not dress like a ten year old child. As we become women we should change and become more aware of our own modesty. We are not children anymore and to dress like children in public is to fool ourselves.
Tawba
on
June 1, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! Sister Emma is looking for some help, if anyone can help her out and offer advice that would be great. She's wearing hijab now, and is getting discouaged. Jazakumallahu Khairan.
Sister Deneer
on
June 1, 2005
EMMA!!! I sent you an email, hang in there and know that you're beautiful when you're obeying GOD's commands. Get some really beautiful scarves and underscarves and wear it with pride. I am the only American who wears hijab and you wouldn't believe the comments/dumb comments. HANG in there and know that a lot of us are praying that you keep the strength and keep it on your head!
Khalissa.
Khalissa
on
June 2, 2005
OH, and I REALLY, really don't need it, but I love the baby lavendar abaya AND the blue tie dyed one.....VERY beautiful--keep up the good work.
Khalissa
on
June 2, 2005
I think hijab is a wonderful thing that women should take seriously and when they do its even more wonderful.
Hijab makes us women uniqe from other women!!!ALLAHUAKBER
samiah
on
June 2, 2005
Thank You so much sisters you have been great! Inshallah the shaitan will stop telling me these things.
Emma
on
June 3, 2005
Asalamu Alaikum. You're welcome Emma. Just know that the shaitan has no physical power over us..his only power is to "whisper ill things to us". I learnt this from a khodba on www.islaam.com And we always are given the choice whether to listen or ignore his whisperings. Ask for the God help in "Giving you the strength to wear hijab"...we can never do something without Allah s.w.t. help. Jazakallahu Khairan. Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
June 3, 2005
Asalamu alaikum. I was born and raised in Ontario, Canada, and I never would have imagined ever getting the opportunity to go to the middle east. I have a friend named Rania who is now living in Dubai and working as an accountant elhamduliah and knowing her had me intrigued about the Middle Eastern Culture. She is originally Egyptian. In meeting my future husband I finally got the oppportunity to visit a Middle Eastern Country, Jordan actually...what an experience that was. It was around the time where there where the USA was thinking of going to war with Iraq so my family was very nervous about that. I convinced my father and sister to accompany me there..and my family thought that all three of us were just nuts. Anyway..we did get there safe and found that there was actually nothing to worry about...no smoke...no violence...just every day life going on there. I enjoyed my stay there, the shopping, the food was all wonderful elhamdulilah. But there is just one thing that till this day has me nervous...yes and thats the driving! Its crazy, and unorganized, and scary there. You can be driving in a street that is only designed for 3 lanes..but some how it ends up being 5..its just crazy! I would be more comfortable taking a bus rather than a car actually... Taxi' drives are cheap which is a plus..and there are so many places to shop..i love it! I'll visit again soon inshallah. Even visiting India has me intrigued too. Wasalam;)
Sister Deneer
on
June 4, 2005
Assalamu alaikum, Sister Deneer, you've been to Jordan! wow Mashallah it's been my dream to visit Jordan, Inshallah Allah will send me when and if the time is right! I know exactly what you mean about the driving being scary, and let me tell you, it's worse in India! My family and I visit our family there every other year and the roads are simply appauling! Filled with cars, trucks, buses, taxis, motorcycles, bicycles (basically every type of vehicle ever made!) But India is a beautiful country once you get off the roads! Inshallah you will have a chance to visit it one day. Wassalam
Sister Nadia
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June 4, 2005
I used to me a muslim woman, but I'm no longer muslim person. I just found out that Muslim is not a real religion because it was written by men. Muslim men treats me unfair and disrespect. Right now, I'm glad to be a part of christian and everyone treats me NICE and EQUAL. I suggest all of muslim women to think twice about equal by jobs and etc. I felt sorry for all of you. May God change your mind and join Christain path. Praise to God.
Ex-Muslim gal
on
June 4, 2005
Dear x-muslim gal. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us and your experience as a muslim, no doubt has me curious and im sure alot of other muslimahs who have read your posting are wondering "what really happened"?. I'm sorry to hear that your experience was unpleasant and with the right supportive people in your life whether it be a fiance, friends, and the muslim community, it should not have been. Most importantly, it really depends on the reason you decided to revert to Islam, and I have a feeling it was because a fiance, who led you to have a bad experience, and I'm sorry about that. One must be very careful in choosing a Muslim husband and not base that on other things other than piety. It is recommended to choose a fiance for piety(strong faith) than for looks. One who fears Allah s.w.t. would be cautious in the way he/she treats his/her wife, and people and family. One who does not fear Allah s.w.t. and who does not pray, and read Quran, and do his/her best to follow the Path that the Prophet s.a.w. wanted us to lead, would endure a life of unhappiness and go astray. If you have read the Quran you would understand that it does not condone mischeif, disrespect and unkindness and other unfortunate things one may experience in life. For the muslim husband, kindness is mentioned several times in the Quran of how important it is for him to be kind to his wife, and not harsh in admonishment. In Islam, the woman in general is seen as a delicate flower and to be treated with care and kindness and loyalty. When one is new to Islam, one must educate themselves on what their rights are in marriage so that they are not taken advantage of. Such as the husband who would non chalantly say that he can marry 4, and gloat about that. But one who educates him/herself will know that the Quran says "marry only one" because he can never be fair to all of them. Being a reverted Muslim myself, from Christianity, coming to Islam has given me a Moral Structure to my life, and a clear guides to follow in Quran and Sunnah. With christianity, they say the only way to God is through Jesus, but what's annoying is that "There is no structured way to be a Christian". Because of the lack of structure, you find music and dancing in pentacostal churches, inappropriate wear, and disobedience of rules that are outlined in the Bible. The bible clearly says that the women are to cover their hair, be modest in how they dress, not drink alcohol, and not act with men as if you are married to them and premarital relations. But I could say the majority of Christians do not respect these rules and there is alot of disobedience. Jesus (Esa alaihi salam) quotes in the bible that "if you love me then do what I have told you"...but most don't. And Why? Because there is no structure. No doubt there is alot of good advice in the Bible, but little take it seriously. And that was one reason why I left it. The other reason was because of the signs in the Quran, about (how their are two bodies of water, one salty and one sweet and they never mix), another is that the (earth is shaped not like an even sphere), another was (the stages of birth in the embryo), another was (how mountains stand on pegs from the earths crust), (the floating rock in Jerusalem), (how the black rock in Mecca is in the centre of the earth), and lastly but not least (the Quran itself because it is a brilliant piece that can never be reproduced) and there is more... As some advice for new muslims always make it an effort to educate yourself more about Islam by reading the Quran to appreciate how beautiful Islam really is. Download a free Quran reciter software in English from our Polls/links page. Jazakumallahu Khairan, Wa alaikum salam.
Sister Deneer
on
June 4, 2005
As'salaam'u'alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatu all Sisters
Muslim Sis
on
June 4, 2005
Asslaum akayakum
Oh not only visit India, also Pakistan too. I have lived in Pakistan for 8 months til my husband made the decision that we will move to Canada I had enjoyed my stay in Pakistan and yes I have seen all kinds of vehicles but sadly many cannot handle the vehicle skillfully. Even the traffic being designed for 2 or 3 lanes and finds 5 to 7 lanes and unorganzied and chaotic. My husband refuses to let me drive a car as he knows that I can handle the traffic but he told me that I would" run over " people ...He had heard "road rage" in Canada and USA. LOL
I have stopped in Dubai but couldnt see the city as some of the airport employees told me that its very hot outside and must have a man with me to look around. Some of the airport staff had shown me pictures of the city and they suggested that the next time to visit Dubai with my husband. One airport staff told me that if he had 1 hour left on his shift, he would treat me to the city but he couldn't take me as he has 7 hours to do the shift.
As for the other sister who had left Islam . I am sorry to hear that she was "mistreated" by Muslim brothers. I have been treated with upmost respect from the Muslim brothers and my husband who treats me like a queen and constantly asking me if I m doing fine. As former Christian lady, i fell disenchanted with the Christian faith because as Sister Deener had mentioned that many do not follow the bible which is true and many churches are changing to suit the needs of the todays lifestyles including the alternate lifestyle. I may not agree what they do but its their life and I cannot judge them but I feel its the church's responsiblity to teach them . I think they had failed miserably. Some Chrisitan brothers as same as much as the Muslim brothers do mistreat the women . I think its depends whom u meet . Only once I met one Muslim brother who treated me horribly and I told him where to do which he didn't and he figured I needed to learn a lesson. He decided to spread nasty things about me til my husband stepped in and told him to leave me alone ( I would have walked up to the man and slapped him but my husband refrained me from doing that so he did the talking)..Again it has to depend on whether a man of Christian faith or Muslim faith , it has to be their understanding of the holybooks and the upbringing they were brought up in .
As Always, Peace be upon everyone
Eisha
Eisha
on
June 5, 2005
WA alaikum salam sister Eisha and thank you very much for your input. I am also intrigued by Pakistan as well and inshallah My family and I will visit one day, even if it be for business purposes. You also raise good points and one being "it really depends on who you meet". Some who deside to revert to Islam make the mistake of having the expectation that their non-muslim families will accept their decision with open arms and its in many cases, not the case. Also they also expect to convince them as to why their decision is the right one, but by true blindness they will never be convinced that Islam is the truth. I remember when I left Christianity and stopped going to church every sunday with my dad because i truly saw it pointless. I agree that there are some good advice given in the churches but do you see the churches implementing what they are being taught? There was this preacher, a woman, wearing a all leather outfit with fur on the sleeves and collar on television, and preaching what they call "the word"...but by how she dresses you can see she has no concern for female modesty. Mother of Esa (Jesus) alaihi salam was the best example of a woman in those times, and yet most Christians refrain from following her example. People also talk about being "a good person"...but how do you really be that? Giving charity and not cursing and treating people kindly defines being a good person? no. It's all about being righteous inside and out, how you act, how you speak, how you dress, how you are perceived, are all supposed to communicate modesty. The reason I bring this point is because in being a Muslim, you are taught how to be a good person, in all aspects of yourself, in how to act, what to do, how to speak, and everything else. Just to show how even some Christians favor how Muslims favor modesty, some Mormon Christians wear hijab! and Catholics too!
So remember when you make a decision to either wear hijab or revert to Islam, remmeber that it is a decision for you and you only, not for others to approve, or an effort to revert the rest of ones family. Always make it a goal to keep reading about Islam and the best source for that is the Quran. Download the lovely english Quran reciter from our polls/links page. Jazakallumallhu Khairan. Wasalam.
Sister Deneer
on
June 5, 2005
I'm sorry to hear that you left Islam, "ex Muslim gal" but I think your post here is uncalled for. There are quite a few of us who are ex-christian and we know the facts and are VERY well educated in our religion. Please don't come on here spewing hate, there are plenty of Christian sites you can go on and get support, work your "da'wa."
Khalissa
Khalissa
on
June 5, 2005
PS Beautifully put, Sister Daneer. You've been an inspiration to me for quite some time! :)
Khalissa
Khalissa
on
June 5, 2005
Speaking of travel. Have any of you been to Dubai and visited or stayed at the Burg Al Arab. For those of you that may not know its tge hotel that looks like a sailboat.I saw it on the travel channel and fell in love. Please post if you know any yummy details:)
Tawba
on
June 6, 2005
Asalamu alaikum ya tawba:) My husband has been to Dubai and saw it from the outside actually. It sits on its own island and it cost like $10.000/night to stay in a hotel room there. It's not even open for the public to have a look inside. Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
June 6, 2005
Assalamu alaikum, I just came back from Dubai a few months ago. The Burg al-Arab is gorgeous! We stayed with my uncle whose house was a few blocks away from the hotel. So we used to eat out on the balcony where the view of the Burg al-Arab was magnificent. And the masajid (mosques) in Dubai are breath-taking! Has anyone seen the al-Jumeirah Mosque?The azaan there is so beautiful it makes you feel like you never want to leave!
Nadia
on
June 6, 2005
Asalamu Alaikum~! Our new order form now allows you to email your orders in for those of you who wish to pay for your order with a bank money order or a cheque.Click here to email your order in inshallah...Jazakallahu Khairan and Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
June 6, 2005
Thanks for all your replys, I am very suprised that they do not even let any visitors in to tour the place. In most places even if you are not staying at the 'posh' place you can atleast go there for brunch, tea, etc.
Tawba
on
June 7, 2005
Has anyone ever purchased gold from any websites out if India? Do you know what I can expect? Have you found them to be reputable? Are there any risks?
Tawba
on
June 7, 2005
Wasalam ya tawba;) What is the website?...let us take a look
Sister Deneer
on
June 7, 2005
I just placed my order ..... I'm excited ...can't wait to see them!!!
Eisha
on
June 7, 2005
Remember I am posting this at Deneer's request. I love that this is a non-soliciting area:) This site is 22k jewelery from India. I want to order some..but I am sooooo nervous...
http://www.totaram.com
Tawba
on
June 8, 2005
Wa alaikum salam ya Tawba and yes for this link you have our permission. I had a look at the site and yes they have very beautiful Gold items. However, there are a few things that have me worried about being a potential customer. 1. They have not outlined their shipping policy and how shipping is done in detail. What if items are lost, how long does it take.. e.t.c 2. They do not have a FAQ section. 3. They have a section for feedback but to promote credibility they have not publicly posted the comments that they have received. 4. They ship to USA and India only....not sure why not Canada... My advise to you is should you decide to purchase from them, call them to make sure that the company is legit..and get all your questions answered and in writing should something unfortunate happen. Good luck! Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
June 8, 2005
Deneer,
Thank you for the thorough critique,I don't think I will order from them. Its too mirky for my taste.
Tawba
on
June 8, 2005
Wasalam ya tawba, I've personally never ordered from India before..not to say that I would never..but there are alot of things I look for in a website before I order. I have to feel the trust, you know what I mean? Do you have family in India?
Sister Deneer
on
June 8, 2005
No, I do not have any family there, but I have some muslim sisters I know from Hyderabad. I really love there ways; they are really articulate, independent, yet do there household responsibilities. On the whole in the muslim communities I have seen these sisters have some of the most middle ground views.
However this is not the reason I go to there sites. It basically for lack of choice when it comes to purcasing 22k Gold. They really have the monopoly. Arab sites that sell gold are few and far between. I think that it may be because Arab jewellers have not tapped-out the home market. There is one arab gold site and they seem not to care about being profitable. They have a gallery but no prices, details, or shipping information is provided. Oh well..
Tawba
on
June 8, 2005
You think Muslim people are honest people. I don't think so. What's happened in Iraq, Middle East, US, anywhere in the world? They treated other people unrespectable. I'm disappointed with those situation. That's why I'm fed up with Muslim religion.
Administrator: Please do not post hate links on our website. Please do not connect violence to religion because no religion condones agression or violence. Thank you.
Ex-Muslim gal
on
June 9, 2005
Who cares what you think?
Tawba
on
June 9, 2005
Ex-Muslim gal, we know that you are only repeating what you've been told by your family who are Christian. And I know exactly that you are purposely making yourself blind because you want so much to believe that Christianity is the truth... Your experience as a Muslim, because it was unfortunate, you are trying to find some excuse to be Christian again. But the God gives us a mind to ponder and wonder for ourselves to ask the question "Why"? Being a former Christian, there is no such thing as predudice in the Bible. The God does not want us to hate anyone and you know how much the Bible speaks of Love. So when you come here talking about "Muslims" in general..it is wrong... Christians who have a dislike for Muslims, they quote ayats from the Quran make a weak attempt to prove that Islam is a violent religion. But because they are blind..and choose not to read the ayats that come before and after it, fail to realize who the Quran is talking about. With an open eye, one would realize that the God does not condone the behaviour of those who persist to make mischeif in the land..and it says to defend yourselves in the agression, NOT to agress others with violence. Download the Quran Reciter in English, your language, so you can hear for yourself. If you read the Quran at all, you will see how many times it says that "God does not favor those who transgress beyond the limits that has been set for man" and "he does not favor those who make mischeif".
Let me provide some examples of mischeif.
The killing and beheading of innocent civilians in Iraq
The killing of innocent by standars in suicide bombings
The 9/11 bombing and more...
Any form of agression, that is not in direct self defence is mischeif or transgression.
Do you think hundreds of thousands of women and man reverted to Islam because they believe it condones violence! Ofcourse Not. Because we know and we read in the Quran that it does not condone mischeif and does not favor transgressors.
If you read the Quran you will see many times it is mentioned
That it is better to counter evil with good actions
To be patient and unlike the disbelievers because surely they want us to transgress and be like them
To hold fast to Islam, a religion that has been perfected for us...and more
Ex-Muslim Gal, if you feel your belief in Christianity is so strong and can withstand any challenge, Listen to the Quran in English here, and prove that what you think about us is true or not
P.S. I have a really strong feeling that this is the woman who posted the topic "Lost Everyone" in our message board.She posted her message and complaint but never replied back for support. I was worried she may have given up on Islam.
Sister Deneer
on
June 9, 2005
my first posting :-) just find out this web.
for ex-muslim gal..if you're really find christian as the truth/right religion and way of your life, than I'm sure on your new-path is teaching you to respect other people faith/believer. So why you still keep posting and saying that things. It seems 2 possiblity:You regret with your new decision and try to convience yourself that you did it right, by disfigure Islam Or You're really kind of person who doesn't know how to respect and living in harmony with differensity....Lakum dienukum Walliadien...Wallahualam..
deena
on
June 9, 2005
Thanks..personally I am not a jewellery buyer but I have been reading your blog for a while now and thought of letting you know something I already know as an Indian :) Just love your site..and the confidence it gives..Alhamdulillah..You can also post article about Muslim women, esepcially hijabis in the news,like Laleh Rageh of Iran who became is the national motor racing champion and a hijabi ..or the first Muslim women to climb the Everest in the news recently etc.wasalaams..LZaidi
LZaidi
on
June 10, 2005
Assalaamu alaikum, I'm looking for a special prayer covering that I've seen from Malaysia and Indonesia. It comes in an embroidered bag. I'd love to give them to my daughters as an Eid gift. Masalaama.
Administrator:Wasalam sister, and I'm sorry but I do not know where to find this nor am familiar with the product. Good luck in finding that perfect gift!
P-J
on
June 10, 2005
Asalamualaikum sisters. I'm married to an arabic male, who I met on the internet, and brought to Canada and i truly thought he was my dream. I've reverted to Islam before I met him..and i was hopeing that i could learn from him, because he seemed to be a religious person. Only to realize now..that he's influenced by how he grow up in an Islamic Country, but does not solely do something just for religion. We've been married for 3 years now..and we have a child, and unfortunately I realize now he's not the one for me. He expects me to be a "yes woman" or a door mat and I feel I am not allowed to disagree with anything or express myself. I feel If i remain with him..i will develop very low self esteem or even chemical depression. Deep inside I still love him, but I truly believe now..especially now that he is in Canada and has opportunity at his fingertips, he won't change. Based on the poll of the dream husband, my husband is not religious, unkind..and forces me to share expenses or he will resent me. I don't want to waste 10 more years of my life living like this..and I would like to marry again and do things right,and make sure the man takes his religion seriously. I want to hang on...but you can't force someone to change if they deep inside don't want to change. oh well, God help me:( Waalikumsalam
Salam
on
June 10, 2005
Asslamu Akaylum
There is a LOT that needs to be answered
r u Muslim?
Do u pray 5times, everyday, on time?
Were u Muslim when u got married?
Were u praying five times, everyday, on time when u got married?
Is ur husband Muslim?
If u r NOT Muslim, what is ur religion?
What was ur religion when u got married?
Does ur husband pray five times, everyday, on time?
Was ur husband Muslim when u got married?
Was ur husband praying five times, everyday, on time when u got married?
Where did u get married (country, masjid, court, etc.)?
Was ur father, brother, son, a valid wali(ee) present at your marriage?
Were their two male Muslim (praying five times daily and on time ) witnesses at ur marriage?
Were u given a dowery (mahr) at ur marriage?
Do u have children with ur current husband that u seek divorce from?
Those are the questions after what u had mentioned. it is easily to be smitten by someone who was born in a muslim country and take u in . Many are smitten thru the internet messenger and while others think they can paint themselves someone else who are not. I think ur husband just wanted to marry to an European, an American or a Canadian just to get out of Saudi Arabia to seek a better life and at the same time, he fulfilling his obligation as a Muslim if he is a practicing Muslim. Unforunately, many women do fall into that trick thinking they would change the husband. Sad to say the fact, the latter of the thinking doesn't apply nor work. Many feel lost or disenchanted ..If you do seek divorce or looking ways to maintain ur marriage, consult with the mullah who married you& ur husband. For you, do not lose faith , you accepted Islam wholeheartedly and hold it close to ur heart. You embaraced Islam for urself, not for ur husband. He has to be one to make an example for the family as much as you do. Perhaps there is a problem in the family you may not know or he didn't tell you about. It could be anything ...Perhaps he needed a wife who isn't a Saudi to be his ticket out of the country and may have some plans of his own. Talk to him, find out before it is too late. The last thing you don't want to be is "being burned"
Always be aware of Muslim men especially thru internet messagner. I have met my husband thru the internet messenger and he has been wonderful to me and he does pray and tries his best to follow the qu'ran and the sunnahs
If you are worried about the next "wasteful" years, it is time for you and your husband to sit at the table to discuss this before it gets worse. If u would fall into depression, get in touch with a mental health counsellor or feel that the marriage hit the low , see a marriage counsellor with or without your husband .
These are just suggestions. If your marriage is married Islamically then you must talk to ur husband about it. Don't be fool but let your heart and your head do the talking. Watch how ur husband behaves when you bring up the topic.
Not all Muslims who are born into the faith practice their faith. My husband practices his on a daily basis but it is not easy as it looks but once u get into the routinue, it is uplifting experience.
All the best for you.
Eisha
on
June 11, 2005
Greetings, Ex-Muslim Gal:
I was deeply moved by the messages that you have posted on this blog. This is my first time posting (I love this site, alhamdullilah!) and pray that I do not offend anyone with what I will attempt to say. Anything that is seen as offensive is from me, not the word of Allah(swt) and I apologize in advance.
Ex-Muslim Gal I gather that during the early times of your reversion to islam, you had some very negative experiences. I am very sorry that those experiences were so difficult for you and that you perhahaps lacked a true sisterhood of support during this time which perhaps made it feel necessary for you to leave the deen. It is not easy to be a new shahadah, I know as I have been muslim now for almost 7 years (alhamdulilah!!). I was a christian before my reversion, and one thing that I do know having been christion for 27 years is that the bible does not condone belittleing of anothers faith, even if you are trying to teach them or show them "truth."
Ex-Muslim Gal, I truly understand that being muslim for you was a very difficult and perhaps painful time, but I ask that you please bear with me and aknowledge a couple of points I wish to make. I am not trying to convert you or anything, but in concern, I do with to aknowledge and respond respectfully to your statements and beliefs.
Understand,, Ex-Muslim Gal, that it is the responsiblity of each individual to gain as much correct knowledge about the religion of islam as she can through her existence in this world. We can not simply rely upon other - be it a friend, husband, ect., for they are human just as we are and may have been given misinformation. We are warned in the Holy Qur'an that many among us within our own ummah may not always have our best interst at heart and may be hipocrites of the religion (as is the case in other religions including christianity). Allah (swt) has given us all free will, and this world is merely a test through which we will either grow stronger in our spirituality or weaker. We can not escape trials as believers, Ex-Muslim Gal. It is trough trials that if we hold fast to our faith, we grow closer to Allah (swt) and stronger in our deen. Some of these trials are most difficult upon submission to Islam. Although it is the fastest growing religion in the entire world (this is by no accident, Ex-Muslim Gal), it is still not the norm in many European, Canadian, and United States families. I live in the U.S. and am the only muslim in my family. Upon embracing Islam, I lost a few friends, but for the most part I remained steadfast in the face of this adversity and, alhamdulilah, I am still a muslim and my quality of life continues to improve! I have had my trial. We will be tested, Ex-Muslim Gal, by loss of family (death or abandonment), friendships, wealth, prestige, etc. But if we truly love for the sake of Allah(swt), and make seeking His pleasure our top priority, Allah will replace those things eventually with that which is better!
I was truly impressed with the caring beautiful messages that Sister Deener has posted for you. Surely after reading those you do can not make a blanketed statement about all muslims being rude, etc. May Allah (swt) bless Sister Deener for her efforts in communicating and being concerned with you as she is.
Ex-Muslim Gal, forgive me for being presumtious, but if some of your decision to leave the deen was due to the way that a person or group of people who may have been muslim behaved toward you, I pray that you do not give them power or authority over your spiritualy destiny. Allah will deal with any individuals such as that in the best way.
Ex-Muslim Gal, I will be making duaa' for you. I truly saddens me when I hear of a sister leaving this beautiful deen over unfortunate circumstances. You will be in my duaa', sister.
Again, I ask forgiveness if I have offended anyone with any statements made. Truly I ask Allah's (swt) forgiveness as well.
Umm Zaria
on
June 11, 2005
Assalamulikum everone! althought im in canada sisnce 6 years i think its important to wear hijab where ever u go! some muslim girls who dont wear hijabs look really bad in my opioin. so where ever u go wear a hijab always and forever!!!!!!!
Majda Nazir
on
June 11, 2005
Walaikum salam Eisha and thank you very much for your answer to me. Unfortunately we were not really practicing Muslims at the beginning of our marriage. Because my husband stopped praying..and he is Palestinian actually, I eventually stopped praying and I know I'm ignorant for it. Its like...i just want him to step up to the plate and be a man and be a religious leader for this family and set the good example. Maybe I'm being childish? I feel that If i improve myself religiously then I will become even more annoyed by him not being religious...like yesterday..he missed Jumu3a purposely to buy an Air conditioner!...like..i have an anger problem and I need help with that too. I remember when I prayed before and we got in a fight...I would behave so badly that i would feel so guilty to go back to Allah s.w.t. to pray...I have to start praying again and make it a vow to never ignore him no matter what..even when I'm in wrong..its just that I feel so ashamed that i don't deserve teh gift of salat:(...If i work to increase my iman inshallah ..i will get tired of advising my husband..and i know if i do not advise or remind him..that i am a partner to his deeds.. What i really need is a calm mind and way of dealing with things....I know it is a test that Allah s.w.t. filled me with this kind of rage..I guess i can blame it on growing up as a non-muslim and using bad habits. Sometimes I hate myself u know...and i just want to be better...but ..its so hard to have the patience to see me be better...oh gosh...either way...in regard to prayer..i got to pray again...If you know any islamic lectures on prayer..please let me know. I love this site and the support it provides for muslimah's. Jazakumallahukhairan, waalikumsalam.
Salam
on
June 11, 2005
salam akoium !!!!!
I had joined here , I m deaf musilmah as well , I ve wearing hijabi for 8years alhamdulillah same time I converted to islam , mahsallah!! :) I would like to chat in hijab chat but I dont know what time , I went in hijab chat but no-one there....becuase I living in australia, sydney..I saw those hijab are sooo beautiful , mashallah!!I m lookin for one piece of hijab/shaylas. I tell you I have problem with my hearing aid , when I added underscarf and two headbands but it was so loud whistle but It was abit tight underscarf ..any tips???wasalam akoium hijab_deaf_muslimah
Administrator: Wa alaikum salam and thank you for your inquiry. Inshallah with increased popularity of our website the chat will eventually be a success. Elhamdulilah the amount of visitors are increasing every day and inshallah when we reach 1000 visitors per day, hijab chat will be a success inshallah. The one piece shaylas we have are teh crepe chiffon shaylas which can be wrapped as loosely or tightly as you desire. Ya salam
hijabi_deaf_muslimah
on
June 12, 2005
Asalamu Alaikum Sisters! Fashionable Denim Shirts are now available now! They're long so that you maintain that modest muslimah look. Happy Shopping;) Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
June 12, 2005
Assalam-O-Alaikum I have seen your video of how to wear hijab. It worked perfectly for shaylas but unfortunately it didn't work out for the square turkish hijabs. I have posted the message regarding this matter before too...Some one please please tell me a stylish way to wrap square hijab ( whick i make into triangle). I like my hijabd neatly, nicely, and tightly wraped. i put the center of triangle on my head and pin it under the chin. and then after that, i don't know what to do with two hanging corners. if i wrap them criss cross, i don't get the neat look and i also get lot of material under my chin, which makes me uncomfortable. I have seen muslims sisters wrapping it nicely, i REALLY REALLy wish i could get that look. Lately the fact that i can't get nice and stylish look with the scarves is making me kind of depressed...please help!!! P.S. I don't want the style where u pin one hanging corner on the head. It doesn't work out for me Jazak Allah Ma'Salamz
Administrator: I'd be happy to offer some assistance in this regard. Is the look you are referring to shown anywhere on this website? I also have a few questions to ask. How many inches square is your hijab? Are you wearing a high or low ponytail when you wear your hijab? Are you using an underscarf to aid in friction? Are you making an even triangle and placing your head on the center portion of it? To get a look with a square hijab it does involve wrapping the 2 hanging tails across your shoulders, head or a combination. The difference in a certain look depends on on what portion of that tail your pin is placed. For example, when you wrap your hijab, it is not necessary to pin it your hijab on your head where that tail actually ends. If you can provide some insite on those questions above, perhaps I or another experienced hijabi can help you out:) Jazakallahu Khairan, and wasalam
Iram
on
June 12, 2005
Sister Daneer, I just got my denim Jilbab today-- it is beautiful, thanks! WOW! We're getting political on here--LOVE IT! Khalissa
Administrator: Wasalam, and woo hoo ! glad you loved it..i got one for myself hehehe... Love that denim eh'
Khalissa
on
June 12, 2005
salaam sisters
wow jus saw the collection of jilbabs and must say they are beautiful keep up the great work inshallah!may allah swt reward u for ur good work just 1 query do you not do UK siz 10 say bust 34"?? please let me know
jazakallah khair
Administrator: wa alaikum salam sister and thank you for your inquiry. I would say that the only abayas for petite sizes we have are the following: Burgundy, Black or Brown embroidered abayas. Thank you. Wasalam
sis safeena uk
on
June 13, 2005
Salam All! Sister Deneere I just received my order for a jean jilbab and the trendy shayla you've recommended to go with it in the color navy and black and it makes an amazing duo! I've gotta admit it takes a few years off too <*grin*> /waslam
Mariam
on
June 14, 2005
salaam
oh what a shame had my eyes on others will you be getting any in small sizes or do you take orders for made to measure??
Administrator: Wasalam sis, and that's okay. We will look for small sizes as soon as they become available inshallah. Be sure to add yourself to our new arrivals newsletter to know when:) Salam
safeena uk
on
June 14, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters:) I was talking to a nice sister on the phone today in Hamilton, Ontario who brought up a good point. When ever we walk outside we never notice any reverted muslims! And as I went over it in my mind..all the Muslims I see in Burlington here running errands n' such, they are either of Arabic, turkish or east indian decent. So my question is...where are the canadian reverted muslimahs??? If you are a reverted Muslim...let us know what city and country you are from...and perhaps you'll make a new friend;) Wasalaaam!
Sister Deneer
on
June 15, 2005
Salam Alaikum, I am a newly reverted sister here in Ottawa Ontario. I have not yet started to wear Hijab, and perhaps I am not alone in that...maybe that is a reason that you/we/others dont notice some reverts to Islam. Perhaps despite all of the wonderful support and positivity in regards to Hijab, some reverted muslimahs are still hesitant/nervous/worried etc. about the leap of faith (pardon the pun) I myself can only remember twice seeing a muslimah in Hijab who appeared to be non-arabic etc.....(does that make sense???...hope so) Anyway, just thought I would throw that out there as a little observation.
Administrator: Wa alaikum salam sister. I've noticed that a lot of the Muslimah's who visit this website are reverted and it would really be wonderful to meet them all don't you think?;) I too am reverted and myself, along with a lot of other muslimahs, went through that hesitant stage. This is why I admire new muslimah's who decide to immediately wear the hijab, subhanallah..it is the best thing. I understand that you're looking for that extra push, and some of us got more than we bargained for (if you read towards the top of this HijaBlog). Even though you may do your absolute best to dress modestly, by wearing unrevealing clothing and covering your arms and legs or even wearing abayas, it's really not enough. Why? Because the hair, in my opinion, is half of a womans beauty.Prayer is also the best way to receive that genuine push to wear hijab inshallah. Just ask Allah s.w.t., with true sincerity, "For the strength to wear hijab". After you do this, inshallah you will notice a strong urge come over you to wear hijab, despite your nervousness;) Listen to a khodba on hijab. Jazakallahu Khairan and wa alaikum salam
Ottawa, Ontario CANADA
on
June 15, 2005
Assalaam Alaikum sisters, its nice to read all the past comments by other sisters regarding the issue of Hijab.
Allah SWT has laid down in the religion of Islam a very simple and righteous path for all to follow. it is left for us to make the best of our lives and the religion of Islam is the best and complete way. Hijab is very important as it portrays us as modest women and it doesn't give out negative messages. I thank Allah for being born in Islam.
assalaam alaikum.
Sister Hadiza from Nigeria
on
June 16, 2005
walikseum assaluma everyone
for the sister who lives in australia, hajibi-deaf-muslimah
if you read the article that was dated on april 29th it was written by another deaf muslimiah and i have tried her way and i m also deaf and from canada , i tried to her way to see if i can stop the loud whistle from my aid ... i had to experiment to get it stopped...
just read APRIL 29TH written by SWEET MUSLIMIA
Eisha
on
June 16, 2005
Salam Alaikum, Thank you sister Deneer for your response to my posting about being a new muslimah in Ottawa. Yes, I have started to feel the real urge to wear hijab...I agree with all that you say. I think it would just be wonderful if somehow we could all form a e-mail list for further support or even to arrange to meet in the Hijab chat once in a while...I certainly feel that I receive great benefit from any support or discussion as we all know it can be a challenge to enter into a faith that is so misunderstood by many. I would love to have sisters to talk to, to get advice from on how they handle issues etc. Sometimes I feel quite isolated because I do not know any sisters and would just love to have that kind of a friendship.... Anyway, this section of the site is just wonderful, and if you think that there is any way that an e-mail list, or a meet up in Hijab chat would be possible...please let me/us know...I would be the first one to get on board! Once again, thank you....
Administrator: Wasalam sister and that is a great idea! Inshallah we will form a "Hijab Support Group", where people can join the email list to correspond via email in help on wearing hijab or any advice. We will sit with this idea for a bit to decide on what the features of this group will be inshallah. Thank you again for your insight and hopefully the feedback from the other sisters who have participated in this blog will be an inspiration for you as well. Jazakallahu Khairan sister, and wasalam
Administrator: Asalamu alaikum sister! Your excellent idea is now in effect and a Hijab Support Group has been created;)
Ottawa, Ontario CANADA
on
June 16, 2005
Asalamu Alaikum! We've now added a convenient search box so it makes finding what you want even easier! Enjoy! Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
June 17, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters just starting to wear hijab or are not yet and thinking of wearing one! Long intro eh'..hehe. We have just created a "Hijab Support Group" here at ISHARS Online. Click here for more information Wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
on
June 19, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! I've been wearing the hijab for almost 3 years now..and I can say that I've switched from many styles because there are so many to choose from. I find the type of hijab that offers the most kind of variety is definately the Shayla. You can get shaylas of different materials, lengths, beads, no beads, embroidery , fringes, no fringes..its like almost the possibilities are endless. Right now i'm wearing my Middle eastern trendy shayla in black and i gotta say that its my absolute fave!. Instead of wearing the shayla that normally comes with the abaya, i wear this shayla..and i guess thats all i've been wearing this summer..i really like it..for the style. I was looking at a show on ART where Amro Khaled was doing a khodba in arabic (oh gosh how i wish it were in english)...i noticed the girls were wearing shaylas. It seems that this is the most popular form of wrapping compared to hijab in the middle east because you can change the look of a shayla depending on the kind of underscarf you wear with it whether it be cotton or lace. If any of you are familiar of where we can get access to Amro Khaled's khodbas in english that would be excellent and I'd be more than happy to share it with the world inshallah. Jazakumallahu Khairan and wa alaikum salam!
I just got my package today and i love it ...been experimenting with the hajibs and the shayalas...to my surprise it didnt make my hearing aid squeal!...it has to be the material i was using ( wearing heavier cotton) these are like sheers and oh what a blessing it didnt squeal at all!!! but its a different material than what i m accustomed to using but i have to get the feel of it ..it slipped a few times but gotta keep trying .... i took my chances when i ordered them but ooh when i looked at them and trying different ways to get it to preventing slipping but oh my goodness i have to keep trying but i must say i love the colours and i love you sister deener the quality of the material surpassed what i have expected i m going to keep ordering things from you ... oh allah ( swt) will pour his peace and love upon u Eisha
Administrator: Wa alaikum salam sister and your comments are definately refreshing! I'm glad to see that you're pleased with your items. In regard to your experience with your hijab slipping I'd recommend pinning the hijab under your chin with a good quality oval pin to secure it into place, accompanied with an underscarf as well. After you pin it under your chin, pull with equal pressure on both hanging sides of the hijab and maintain this pressure as you are wrapping the one side over the side of your head and to the back or wherever you decide to pin your hijab. The key to getting your hijab to wrap securely and not loosely is the tugging pressure that comes from your hands as your wrapping the hijab. Don't worry you'll get the hang of it;) Jazakallahu Khairan and wasalam
Eisha
on
June 20, 2005
Eisha, DO you have any underscarves? THe cotton ones are the best and they will definitely keep your scarf from slipping. In a pinch, you can get a wide cloth hairband. Yep, they are cool scarves, al humdillilah! Khalissa
Khalissa
on
June 20, 2005
yes i do i ordered some
Eisha
on
June 20, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! For those of you who understand arabic here is the truth about the recent rumour that the girl turned into a creature..and wow would it be amazing if it actually happened..but unfortunately not. The website ended up appologizing for lying about it and creating the story.Here is the link explaining such Wasalam!
Sister Deneer
on
June 20, 2005
so what is really is just a display at some local museum ??
i think they should remove that display from the public
i don't know what u would think but it "degrades" women in a qrosteque style and it would give ppl the impression that women are "subhumans". i m glad that they apologized but i couldnt read the arabic language . so the whatever or however the rumour started, it should have never started in the first place by not scaring ppl to show dispect to the qu'ran. the qu'ran shouldnt never be used in such a mannder but the damage has been done. after looking at the diplay of pictures , it shows a model of disfigured women.
i certainly hoped that the museum will remove that display and somehow stop the rumours.
sister eisha
Eisha
on
June 21, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! Subhanallah the unbelievers are becoming more aware of the hijab despite some negative publicity. Just as the Turban worn by the sikh's is well known, Muslim women will soon be known for wearing their hijab. Although some may mock us...we can use their curious questions as an opportunity to clarify what ever inaccurate rumors or misconceptions they may have about the hijab. We can also use those opportunities to make a Da3wa to Allah s.w.t. and educate them on Islam. I think non-muslims think we wear our hijabs all the time and even in the home. Maybe this is why they find it hard to understand why we wear it and for what purpose, not realizing that we only dress like this in public. Wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
June 21, 2005
Asalamu Alaikum! We now have a new phone number and it is 1-877-8-BUY-HIJABS
Sister Deneer
on
June 22, 2005
Asalamu Alaikum sisters~ If any of you are contemplating marrying a non-muslim even though you wish him to be muslim, and plan to have children, please think about the future of your children. Do you want them to be Muslim and will he support this decision, will his family be against their grandkids being muslim? How will he feel if you decide to wear hijab one day and will he be truly comfortable with it and comfortable with his children wearing hijab? When one does things for love, it may eventually fade, but when it is to please Allah s.w.t. there is lasting commitment inshallah. Love oneself and do whats best in the sight of Allah s.w.t. Innallah samee3a 3aleem - Allah is all seeing and all knowing. Jazakallahu Khairan and wasalam
Sister Deneer
on
June 22, 2005
AL Humdillilah, we are recognized world wide as Muslim women and it's amazing how women in different parts of the world wear theirs just a little different! LOL! I have green eyes and like the cotton Hijabs and wrap it tight, everyone thinks I am from Egypt. I have a friend who likes a lot of embellishments on her scarves--everyone thinks she is Syrian! We are just a couple of Americans in Kuwait! LOL! Keep that in mind, good attention or bad, you are ALWAYS a symbol of our faith (representative) in other's eyes and it is a potential chance for Da'wah.
Khalissa
Khalissa
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June 23, 2005
Khallissa,
Are you just visiting overseas or do you live there? If you live overseas, I wanted to get an idea of what that is like. I will likely be permanently settle outside the U.S. in a ten years or so(long way from now). I already have a home overseas in my husbands country. Any tips on preparation etc?
Tawba
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June 23, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters! Great News! We will be updating the descriptions of our items because some of the hijabs and shaylas we offer are actually "Cotton" and not "Polyester". Stay Tuned! Wasalam
Sister Deneer
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June 23, 2005
I live in Kuwait and I love it. You can feel free to email me at SakeenahQ8 @ yahoo (or anyone else for that matter) and I'll fill you in, give you some good websites, ideas. OK?
Khalissa
Khalissa
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June 24, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! Before I began to wear the hijab I was already married and I put in my mind that I wasn't going to wear it until my husband told me to wear it. I felt that that way I would feel I'm not rushing into it. I remember how I thought that I would be fired from my job if I wore it too. I guess I was just putting excuses in my head to delay the inevidable. I remember that before I decided to wear it, I spoke to my supervisor about it and fortunately he was Muslim too. He said that I shouldn't worry about what other people think and that I wouldn't be fired for that and found it ridiculous. I also talked to a few other people who also had some encouraging words..and it helped no doubt. I was trying to do whatever I could to encourage myself to take that final step. It was during Ramadan, subhanallah, and I was listening to khodba's in an effort to humble my heart in the face of Allah s.w.t. I guess you can say that I was in training..hehe If you're interested in knowing where to find these Islamic lectures, by my fav, Yahya Adel-Ibrahim, you can find it here. The lectures are in english too! Jazakumallahu khairan & wasalam
Sister Deneer
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June 24, 2005
Salam Alaikum Sisters, I just stumbled on this site today and i am thrilled with what i read.....it is good, keep up the good work and may Allah help us insha Allah.I started wearing Hijab in university - 300 level to be precise and it was interesting cause there were so many other Muslims girls that we move and organise programmes together...it was really fun. When i left school and started searching for work was when i realised that people are not friendly at alllll to Muslim woman especially if they suspect u are practising.I am a Chartered Accountant and wrote about 5 test and insha Allah i passed them but will eventually be dropped at the interview stage once they see that i wear hijab...one paticular one that i remembered was when one of the interviewer asked me that 'what is this bandage on ur head' i felt soooo bad and down and he said they will employ me only if i agree to remove it..Although i didn't work for that organisation but where i am working tooo insisted on me removing my Hijab once i am in the office...i just can't afford not to work..What i do now is to wear the Hijab when coming and going home but once in the office i don't wear it... i am the only Muslim staff in my office...the other lady is a support staff and she doesn't wear hijab..Sometimes i feel guilty about removing it but i do hope to start to do some personal business very soon - once i get the capital so that i can dress the way i want.But i can tell u one thing for sure one gets a lot of respect by wearing Hijab....u will not be molested but respected anywhere u go.Do u ship your products to Nigeria.......?May Allah forgive us all our shortcoming.... sALAM
ADMINISTRATOR: Wa alikum salam sister and thank you for sharing your story with us and we ship worldwide. I'm sorry to hear that you've accomodated the requests of your work and do not wear hijab while in the office. Yes, Inallah ghafooran rahim (Allah is forgiving and merciful), but we must not take this for granted because Allah s.w.t. is always just in his judgement. Not wearing the hijab in public for any reason is a direct disobedience of Allah s.w.t. Perhaps had you decided to not work at your current place of work, the next interviewer would have been fine with it seeing that it will not impede your performance, nor pose a saftey or hygiene issue, nor impede the performance of the staff that would be detrimental to the company. Yes you've mentioned that you want to wait till you have enough funds to start a business of your own, but is it really worth, disobeying Allah s.w.t. for something he has made mandatory for Muslimah's. If Allah s.w.t. wills it, he may never let you earn enough to reach that goal so that you may wear the hijab inshallah. You are also right that one gets respect for wearing hijab elhamdulilah, but when someone asks or gives you an ultimatum in regard to taking off your hijab, then they surely do not respect you. In Canada & USA no employer can not discriminate for religion or race, and it's totally illegal to send the message to a potential employee to "take off the hijab and you're hired". It's a violation of our human rights. I hope that inshallah you can find the time to seek another interview with another openminded and fair company, because you have the education to do your job better or as good as anyone else, no doubt...but hijab has nothing to do with it...Inshallah you'll make the right decision in accordance with the will of Allah s.w.t. Jazakallahu Khairan. Wasalam
Shukrat from Nigeria
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June 24, 2005
Asalaam-O-Alaikum, I am in need of desperate help. I want to wear hijab, but my husband Shezad does not approve of it. What do I do??? I want to wear, but he won't let me... Masha'Allah this is a great site... Wasalaam, Fatima
ADMINISTRATOR: Walaikum salam sister and thank you for sharing your comments with us to offer support inshallah. I'm sorry to hear that your husband does not support you in wearing hijab. In the Quran it says if they advise you to do wrong obey them not. In Islam, the wife commonly asks permission from her husband on many things, but in regard to wearing hijab, she does not require his permission. She also does not require his permission to attend a mosque as well. Do you fear for your life or being hurt by your husband if you wear the hijab? Does your husband react in an irrational or rational manner when you attempt to explain to him why you need to wear the hijab? In the Quran, Allah s.w.t. also says "fear only me". And in Islam when you are encountered by resistance it is better to counter evil with good. For example..if your husband begins to get irrational about the subject or anything, always remain rational with a low voice. So in that regard, my advise to you is do not make any more attemts to ask for his permission sister, just wear it. And when you wear it and he questions you..just say "I'm going to wear the hijab from this point on becauses it protects me from being annoyed and is mandatory in Islam". If he tries to tell you that it is not mandatory and it is a choice or something like the Quran does not say to wear hijab, don't waste time trying to convince him...just keep the answers breif and rational and say "I'm going to wear hijab because it protects me and keeps me from being annoyed"..so whether one thinks its fard(mandatory) or not...that point never changes. It is impossible for any non maharam man to respect a woman who does not wear hijab..you can cover from neck to your ankles and it won't be enough. Personally I think that 50% of a woman's beauty is from her hair..and in slang terms..."it just doesn't cut it in not wearing hijab...". I remember the times after I reverted to Islam, but did not wear the hijab yet..and I was doing my best at the time to be respected without wearing hijab...I was covered, wore loose clothing, and unfortunately "it just didn't cut it.". You still get those "perverted looks" from males, and they approach you with perverted questions or advances, that they would ask the unbelievers. And I will tell you ever since I started to wear the hijab sister, there has been no perverted eyes on me, no perverted questions or advances, and Elhamdulilah rabial-alameen! "wearing the hijab just cuts it sis". When you pray ask Allah s.w.t. for the strength against resistance to wear hijab and just go for it sis and wear it and when asked about it say "I'm going to wear hijab because it protects me by Allah s.w.t will and from being annoyed". My Du3a is with you. Jazakallahu Khairan & wasalam. Please join our hijab support group
Fatima
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June 25, 2005
Assalamu alaikum sister Fatima, Praise be to Allah that He has put in your heart to wear hijab. Many muslimahs who have the desire to wear hijab sometimes find obstacles in their way by the ones they tend to love most, be they their parents, siblings, close friends, or even spouse. The first thing that needs to be known by both parties is that wearing the hijab is a right and a priviledge for the muslimah. It is a means of protecting her from the ever-lasting stares and sometimes even verbal disrespect from the opposite gender. It is a priviledge and no one has the right to discourage or prevent you from following what Allah had ordained for you as a believer. Of course a husband should have a say in his wife's affairs and vice versa, yet when it comes to the affairs of Allah, none has the right to object. This is derived from the very lips of our beloved prophet (s.a.w.): Laa taa'ata li makhlooqin fi ma'siyatil khaliq. There is no obedience to the creation if there is disobedience to the Creator. i.e. if you know that in obeying the creation, you will be disobeying Allah then obeying the creation is not an option, be they the ones you love most, It will be a matter of us and Allah one on one in the end. So sister, this is simply a test from Allah, He tests His believers when it comes to pleasing Him, even if it means not pleasing the ones you love on this earth. Explain to your husband the values and beauty of hijab and what brought you to make this decision. Sister Deneer posted a link to a very good lecture on the concept of hijab, that may be of help inshallah. Allah's wisdom is infinite. Who knows? Maybe by you taking this big step to please Allah, He will wish to please you and your family in this life and the hereafter also. Discussing your views and the reasons for you desire to wear hijab with your husband may even bring you closer together as a couple and also in eyes of Allah, inshallah. Although people may give you advice and encourage you, remember, it is always your call. Allah says: when my servant takes a step towards me, I run towards them. Allah's waiting for you to overcome this obstacle,this is your first step, may Allah guide you along the way. Also I'm sure Sister Deneer has some excellent advice as usual, inshallah, please let us know the outcome of your decision Sister Fatima, our prayers are inshallah with you. Wassalam
Nadia
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June 25, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! I was talking to this sister at the convenience store the other day, and her husband is a practicing muslim mashallah; reading Quran and reciting it beautifully and wishes her to wear the hijab. She's not wearing the hijab yet and her family doesn't wear hijab either because as she put it,her family sees its not the style in Canada. She asked me about myself and was intrigued to see that I was wearing the hijab and had some questions for me..and mashallah she's a nice person. She's looking for a style of shayla's actually, my fave, that would suit her so inshallah i'll be able to provide some assistance. Although her mother does wear the hijab, she says that she wasn't explained the importance of hijab so therefore didn't grow up with the inclination that she must wear it. My du3a is with her that she can find the strength and will to wear hijab. Wasalam
Sister Deneer
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June 26, 2005
Jazakallah for your help, I will start to wear Hijab Insha'Allah. No, he does not act in a bad manner, he asks why I want to wear it and tells me it is not mandotory. I still feel I am required, so Insha'Allah I will satrt. Jazakallah once again for the help.
Fatima
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June 26, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister fatima and its nice to hear from you again. Elhamdulilah he doesn't act badly with you and just as i figured..he would venture in to the arguement that "hijab is not mandatory".. If you attempt to challenge him in that..the conversation would go on forever. I had a similar situation with a brother who was saying that "Music is halal". Anyway...mashallah you will stick to your guns..and say to your husband that "wearing hijab protects you from being a victem of perversion and from being annoyed"...that this is guaranteed sis;) We hope to hear good news from you soon inshallah and remember that when speakign about the subject..the calm and rational approach is always best. Maybe you'll find something on our website that you like and inshallah you'll allow us the opportunity to serve you! Jazakallahu Khairan and wasalaaaam!
Sister Deneer
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June 26, 2005
Asalamu alaikum Sisters! We will be facilitating a FREE Womens/Childrens only Swimming Event in Burlington, Ontario on a bi-weekly basis beginning next Thursday July 7th 2005. The event is being held from 7pm-9pm. The pool area has no windows so that no one can look in or out. We are also looking for 4 female volunteers. It's a great time now that the summer is hot and to meet other muslim sisters, and inshallah reverted muslims too in your area! Email us for inquiries and/or to volunteer See you there! Wa alaikum salam!
Administrator
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June 27, 2005
Hey Guyz... Umm...my mom is a model ( and you know models wear bad stuff and don't wear hijab)...and she used to pray, buh now she don't even d that now...me want her to wear, uh she do't what do i do?
ADMINISTRATOR: Asalamu alaikum sister and thank you for sharing this with us to provide some assistance inshallah. Right now your mom is in a state where she is purposely trying to not remind herself of Allah s.w.t.. The best that you can do is do whatever you can to remind her once again and inshallah it will help. Play a quran recessitation in arabic and or english. Give her things that remind her of Allah s.w.t. Buy things for the home such as ayats to hang on the wall, a picture of a mosque, watch Islamic programs on television so she can see that and hear. Display a Quran on a beautiful stand that could be seen in clear view. It is said in the Quran, that if the God decides to let someone go astray, nothing will ever bring him/her back to the path. Make a du3a for her that this won't be Allah s.w.t. will for her. She may not wear hijab right away..but she may begin to dress more modestly, and question her profession and inshallah make a career change. keep us up to date on your progress inshallah. Jazakallahu Khairan and wasalam
Sandra
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June 27, 2005
Thanks for the help, I will also start to pray so she can also do the same. But first I have to get someone to teach me HOW to pray...
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Sandra
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June 29, 2005
Salaam all, I know this is completely off the topic of hijab-but it IS about Islam-I heard somewhere that the Nike Swoosh Symbol is against Islam because they make it the way The Quran is written-right to left-so, is this true? I would really like to know-Jazakallah, and Wasalaam.
ADMINISTRATOR: Wasalam sister. Personally I think that promoting any non-muslim organization or company is not good. Nike is already trillionairs..why would we muslimahs want to give them our business? I think its important to support Islamic businesses. Jazakallahu Khairan
*Sana*
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June 29, 2005
I wear Hijab now and I feel great-Alhumdollilah-and I am so happy my husband does not even protest now, so I am fully relived of my tensions...Subhanallah, Subhannallah...
Fatima
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June 29, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister! Great to hear from you...wow subhanallah!! I'm so happy to hear that he's fine with it now! Hold fast to your prayer sis..and pray on time, because only with timely prayer can you reep the benefits of it in your heart inshallah. Jazakallahu Khairan wasalam!
Sister Deneer
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June 29, 2005
Asalaam-O-Alaikum,
Yes, I also agree with you Adminstrater, actually I never bought a shoe from Nike, but I know Many, Many Muslims that do wear Nike shoes, and I was wondering if this is true or not...
*Sana*
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June 29, 2005
Salaam
I also forgot to say in my previous message--this is about the Islamic Forum-do you think our members ccould have signatures below their name-I mean Islamic Signatures? I was wondering about this because many forums have it...and I think it is a good idea. Insha'Allah I will also register to the forum...but for now, I am posting my idea here...Jazakallah and Wasalaam.
*Sana*
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June 29, 2005
Walaikum salam sister. Inshallah our hosting company will upgrade their forum feature so that we can have an islamic signature inshallah. As far as Nike shoes..i think thats fine because one should wear good quality shoes for health purposes and they are good for the feet. But as far as letting Nike get at our hijabs, abayas or jilbabs of the sort...we should never let them. I will pass along your suggestion about the forums to our hosting company. Wasalaaam!
Sister Deneer
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June 30, 2005
Asalaam-O-Alaikum,
It's great that you like the idea of an Islamic Signature...since your doing signatures...what about Islamic Avatars? Forgive me if I am getting carried away-I am just giving suggestions for the Forum,
Jazakallah and Wasalaam
*Sana*
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June 30, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sis...inshallah i'll ask about it and see if that is a feature that we will be able to add inshallah.
I was talking to this girl today..and i knew she was christian, born in Egypt, from previous conversations. So i asked her if she goes swimming in the summer..and she nodded her head in assurance like its something she does on a regular basis. And i asked her..is it women only?..and she made this face and said...no its mixed..and she said "why is there anything wrong with that". Not that it was my intent to go into a debate or something like this or to even further conversation on the topic. But when she asked the question is there anything wrong with that..i non chalantly said..in directly answering the question saying that we don't actually. And then she started to explain that there is nothing wrong with it..and that you are going there to swim and not to pick up guys or something like this. And then she went to explain that its the intent you have in your mind...if you intend not to do something wrong there..and you're going to just swim..then theres no harm in it. So listened and paused for a bit and replied..it's not the intent of the female thats important, it is the intent of the male watching you. (This is because when you let a male look at you in this way, you may cause him to have indecent thoughts and he may do something haram because of it. So in order not to instigate these types of situations we are advised to lower our gazes, guard our chastity, and wear hijab) And said that it is in the nature of the male to be tempted by the figure of a woman..especially when so revealed in a bathing suit. She seemed to get annoyed..and just said theres nothing wrong with swimming and pointed out that 'we are christian'... I just ended the conversation saying that everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion..even though in my mind..i know we do not mix with males not for the sake of 'opinion' but because it is ordered by Allah s.w.t., and its also ordered in the bible too. But i just left it at that because i didn't want to come across as being too assertive or agressive or something. Anyway..i hope the point I made to her about the intent..she's thinking about it inshallah. She also made a comment saying "i love Jesus (alaihisalam) and this is the way i am and i'll never change". if you ask me..the statement wasn't sincere and she just wants to hang on to that "good intention guideline" so she can get to do what she wants..even she knows subconciously its wrong. I don't know why is it..but I do call homes in the halton region introducing our business and when ask "May I know if anyone in the home is Muslim?"...they answer rudely or hang up on me..saying "we're christian..byyee"..almost shouting. But you know..its cool..Its advised by Allah s.w.t. to speak most kindly when you encounter this situation. Ishallah they will evaluate how they acted in an unnecessary irrational manner and feel guilty inshallah. I have 3 years experience in this kind of calling..its referred to as "Cold Calling" where you call people you don't know and haven't heard of you..whether it be residences or businesses. I like the challenge..and it sure can be;) Anyway...I can save my blogging for another day...Jazakumallhu Khairan & wasalam;)
Sister Deneer
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July 1, 2005
Salaams Sisters
There was an disturbing article on the NEt.. posted all over decrying hijab and calling it 'slaughter' of girl chidlren. Its quite painful to go through it.
Its by Soraya Shahabi.. its more distrubing thats its on a site for middle eastern women.
She also calls for the banning of 'Islamic environments'!
I dont think we are allowed to post links here.. but this is the kind of stuff which should be repsonded to. Its a carefully thought out and planned article.
QOute:
"It is argued that there are some adult women in Europe who 'choose' to wear the hijab. In real life, however, few veiled adult women ever get to taste any degree of freedom of choice in any respect of family, married and social life, be it in clothing, social life, behaviour, or even a simple thing like food. Few adult hijab-wearing women have not experienced the fear and terror of Islamic environments hanging over their lives. They are not citizens with freedom of choice but human beings fearful of jack knives, deprived of social rights, subjugated, and alienated by the atmosphere of terror existing in Islamic patriarchal environments.
Choosing the hijab as a mode of dress by adult women is no more 'voluntary' than, for instance, the 'choice' to stay in family relations that abound in terror and torture.
NB: NOte the use of the word 'terror'.
ANd the worse:
In Islamic environments where even women's breathing is measured,(*!!!) there are some adult hijab-wearing women who stop attempting to bring about change. They say that the hijab is the 'free choice' of these women. This choice is made as 'freely' as the choice made by a European woman to remain in an abusive relationship!
etc.etc.
This is article has been reproduced on many sites across the NEt:
LZaidi
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July 1, 2005
Asalaam-O-Alaikum Sisters!
Jazakallah Sis Deneer for passing on my idea of the signatures and avatars! Insha'Allah it will be a new feature...and as for the disturbing article, Astagfirullah!
What a terrible article...Hijab is definetely not slaughter! Astagfirullah! Anyways, I must leave now. Jazakallah, and Allah Hafiz.
*Sana*
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July 2, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters! As you've probably gathered inshallah, we are not only a retail business, but a community, where we focus on helping others as well as providing products and services. It is our goal to also help muslimahs to increase their confidence as well as encouraging a well-groomed appearance. I cannot stress enough how important it is for a muslimah to dress in a well-groomed manner, whether it be all black, denim, or traditional wear such as abayas and jibabs. If you have hijabs that have a worn out appearance or seriously need to be replaced..donate them to a mosque where others can use them and are in need. It is better to wear a plain black, cream, white, maroon, brown, or baby blue pain georgette hijab for only $9.99, than a hijab that is tattered or where the colors have almost disappeared. The same should apply to any skirts, or shirts you decide to wear. I understand how casual is comfortable, and if you're looking for a more casual look then may we suggest the casual 2 in 1 abayas we're offering which are great for the "on-the-go" muslimah. So it's not about being vain..but rather being well-groomed and in Islam this is important, and it is apparent when we are asked to make wudu before every prayer. So...we hope that you are enjoying this website, inshallah and are inspired to feeling good about ones self as a muslimah and being well-groomed. Happy Shopping;) Wasalam!
Sister Deneer
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July 2, 2005
Assalamo Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh. I highly request/appeal to you please use your personal efforts for disallow the use of mobile phones by installing jammed system in the premises of Haram Sharif (Makkah and Madina) for avoiding any disturbance due to musical ring tones. The area should be free from the noise of musical sounds no matter emerging whatever source. The pilgrims use mobile phones during the Tawaf of Kaba, Saee (between Saffa and Marwah) and Roza- e-Rasool (Peace be upon him) which in my view is serious contempt of Holy places. I humbly request for an early and effective step in this regard. May Allah help you and guide us.Email: pakwasim@gawab.com, pakwasim@hotmail.com
Mohammad Wasim - Karachi, Pakistan
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July 2, 2005
Dear friends Salam I'm an Iranian student and I'd like to continue my education in Canada.I have hijab and I'm afraid of wearing hijab in Canada. I don't know if people will accept me or no? please help me.
ADMINISTRATOR: Asalamu alaikum sister. As a Canadian Muslim, born and raised in Canada as well as reverted to Islam while in Canada, I'm happy to say that most Canadians accept the hijab. We welcome you to canada soon, ahlain wa sahlain! Wasalam
L - Canada
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July 3, 2005
Hey Guyzz... Sadly i don't see any improvement wid mah mom...actaually she is getting worse...worse, so please help. No one will teach me how to pray--mah mom and dad are divorcced, and rite now my mom is dating a white (non muslim) guy...plus she won't let me pray, se won't let me wear hijab...and my mom is totally brainwashed! Please Help, Sandra
ADMINISTRATOR: Asalamu alaikum sandra. May I ask how old are you? It is advised in the Quran that if your parents advise you to do wrong, "obey them not", but still be kind and respectable. What you do Islamically is just between you and Allah s.w.t. So when you pray..close your room door and do that inshallah. If you're looking to wear hijab..just wear it. Your mother still loves you even if she has a strange way of showing it sometimes. As for your mother, if Allah s.w.t. allows her to stray, then nothing can bring her back, but don't let her misbehaviour affect who you are and your duty to Allah s.w.t. and pray for her and pray ontime to build confidence and iman inshallah. Keep us up to date inshallah. Wa alaikum salam
Asalamu Alaikum sisters! I'm happy to say that the swimming event held yesterday, July 7th from 7-9pm was an absolute blast! We hope to see you there next time. Our next session is being held as soon as next week on July 14th from 7-9. You can visit our free sisters swimming page for additional details and location infomation. And best of all there is FREE ADMISSION, so bring your friends:) We hope you had fun, wasalam!
Sister Deneer
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July 8, 2005
Assalamu alaikum, I received this email from a friend this morning and of course just had to post it here, enjoy!
My Body is my Own Business
I OFTEN wonder whether people see me as a radical, fundamentalist Muslim terrorist packing an AK-47 assault rifle inside my jean jacket. Or may be they see me as the poster girl for oppressed womanhood everywhere. I'm not sure which it is.
I get the whole gamut of strange looks, stares, and covert glances. You see, I wear the hijab, a scarf that covers my head, neck, and throat. I do this because I am a Muslim woman who believes her body is her own private concern.
Young Muslim women are reclaiming the hijab, reinterpreting it in light of its original purpose to give back to women ultimate control of their own bodies.
The Qur'an teaches us that men and women are equal, that individuals should not be judged according to gender, beauty, wealth, or privilege. The only thing that makes one person better than another is her or his character.
Nonetheless, people have a difficult time relating to me. After all, I'm young, Canadian born and raised, university educated why would I do this to myself, they ask.
Strangers speak to me in loud, slow English and often appear to be playing charades. They politely inquire how I like living in Canada and whether or not the cold bothers me. If I'm in the right mood, it can be very amusing.
But, why would I, a woman with all the advantages of a North American upbringing, suddenly, at 21, want to cover myself so that with the hijab and the other clothes I choose to wear, only my face and hands show?
Because it gives me freedom.
WOMEN are taught from early childhood that their worth is proportional to their attractiveness. We feel compelled to pursue abstract notions of beauty, half realizing that such a pursuit is futile.
When women reject this form of oppression, they face ridicule and contempt. Whether it's women who refuse to wear makeup or to shave their legs, or to expose their bodies, society, both men and women, have trouble dealing with them.
In the Western world, the hijab has come to symbolize either forced silence or radical, unconscionable militancy. Actually, it's neither. It is simply a woman's assertion that judgment of her physical person is to play no role whatsoever in social interaction.
Wearing the hijab has given me freedom from constant attention to my physical self. Because my appearance is not subjected to public scrutiny, my beauty, or perhaps lack of it, has been removed from the realm of what can legitimately be discussed.
No one knows whether my hair looks as if I just stepped out of a salon, whether or not I can pinch an inch, or even if I have unsightly stretch marks. And because no one knows, no one cares.
Feeling that one has to meet the impossible male standards of beauty is tiring and often humiliating. I should know, I spent my entire teenage years trying to do it. It was a borderline bulimic and spent a lot of money I didn't have on potions and lotions in hopes of becoming the next Cindy Crawford.
The definition of beauty is ever-changing; waifish is good, waifish is bad, athletic is good -- sorry, athletic is bad. Narrow hips? Great. Narrow hips? Too bad.
Women are not going to achieve equality with the right to bear their breasts in public, as some people would like to have you believe. That would only make us party to our own objectification. True equality will be had only when women don't need to display themselves to get attention and won't need to defend their decision to keep their bodies to themselves.
Nadia
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July 8, 2005
K, thanx foh da help...buh I don't know how to pray...sadly...no one taught me...and i am 15
ADMINISTRATOR: Asalamu alaikum. Click here for a flash presentaton on how to pray You can find many helpful links under our Islamic Forum Topic "Educational resources for new Muslims". Hope this helps! Wasalam
P.S. A lot of new Muslims including myself who have reverted to Islam, growing up with Christian Families were never taught to pray by others. They researched on their own, and attended a mosque. Learn what to say on your own..and then to reinforce what you learn, go to a mosque to pray there in a group inshallah.
Sandra
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July 8, 2005
Salaams Sisters I am writing to share with you a very important issue with felllow Msulim women, which effects the very fabric of the ummah and the human race..it is also critical to address this from the Dawa point of view. This is the case which making headlines in SOUth Asia- a region with the world's largest concentration of Muslims and will affect the lives of Muslim women for years if nothing is done about it. The Imrana Rape Case. IN which a married woman was raped by her father in law. and The Ulema of INdia, instead of punishing the culprit ( this was NOT ZINA, but RAPE), allowed HIM to go scot free and INSTEAD, ordered that the victim be disowned by her husband since she now belonged to her father law.( theyr used the words halal) They misused the QURANIC verse which brought women so many rights in Jahilliya Arabia: The verse which asks believers NOT to 'inherit' their deceased father's wives after their death.. as women were inherted as property by men when their fathers died in pre Islamic Arabia.
This is comepltely against Islam. But tragically this case has not commited a crime against Islam's spirit, but putting it across as a Fatwa has given it religious sanction! There has been an alrming rise in similar rape cases against Muslim women since this fatwa! Along with tarnishing the image of Muslims as a barbaric community which punishes raped women and absolves their rapists. Something must be done about this- write articles/ letter to the INdian Press, Internet sites, expressing the Quranic view and your strength and outrage as Muslim women. It is a farz to correct this fallacy about Islam.
Wasalaams.
ADMINISTRATOR: Wasalam sister and a definately disturbing gut wrenching article. Tell us where we can go to complain about this and offer support for the victems in this matter.
Concerned Muslim Sister
on
July 11, 2005
ASSALAMU ALAIKUM.
MY NAME IS RAHILA.I AM IN CHINA[SHANGHAI] WITH MY HUSBAND JUST TODAY AS I WAS SITTING BEFORE MY PC I CAME ACCROSS THIS WEBSITE.THERE ARE NO WORDS TO DESCRIBE,MAASHA-ALLAH.BEFORE MARRIAGE I WAS NOT A REGULAR WEARER OF HIJAB.BUT NOW I ENJOY THE BEAUTY AND ELEGANCE OF WEARING HIJAB.WHEN I GO OUT I FEEL PEOPLE GIVE RESPECT FOR THIS TYPE OF DRESSING.IT`S TRUE THAT ALLAH SAYS:I AM THERE WITH THE PERSON WHO FOLLOWS MY ORDERS STRICTLY.THE CREDIT GOES TO MY HUSBAND WHO NEVER TAKES ME OUT WITHOUT HIJAB.
RAHILA KADHER
on
July 11, 2005
ASSALAMU ALAIKUM SIS DENEER, WILL YOU PL TELL ME IF I COULD GET BURKHAS[LONG GOWN TILL LEGS]HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND.
ADMINISTRATOR: Wa alaikum salam and thank you for your suggestion sister and your nice comments. We are looking for a sufficient supplier for this product and may have it in the near future inshallah.
RAHILA KADHER
on
July 11, 2005
Waleikum Assalaam Sisters
Thank you for your support. It is heartening.
YOu can write to many of your local Asian publications which have been covering this issue- mobilising support within the local mosques, which have a large South Asian pospulation would be agood idea.
HAving a khutba delivered to Sisters ( and brothers) in your universties and mosques on this issue by Islamic scholars would also generate public concern.
You may also write to the Top Indian papers such as:
www.timesofindia.com
www.hindustantimes.com
www.rediff.com
www.tehelka.com
and many others, expressing your views.
You can wrie to the All India Muslim personal Law board through, a very important publication, the INdia Muslim newspaper the Milli Gazzete.
www.milligazette.com
It is widely read and influential and may even send a copy of the letter to the personal law board.
Thanks and Wasalaams
Concerned Muslim Sister
on
July 11, 2005
Assalaamu Alaikum. Thankyou for the immediate response reg[burkha].Yesterday I told about our Hijab Support Group to my sister-in-law who is in US.Insha-Allah she will join our group. Masha-Allah she too wears hijab.To say frankly, i feel this mission is a powerful one for our muslim women. I am an Indian,I see sisters there in India[not all] wears hijab by showing their ears.Hope Allah will show them the right way of wearing it.The video showing the method of wearing hijabs is useful. can I have a clear idea of Hijab chat?
ADMINISTRATOR: Thank you for your support sister. Our Hijab Support Meetings are held Mon-Fri 10-11pm GMT and on Sat/Sun 5-6pm GMT
Rahila Kadher
on
July 11, 2005
Hello, Thank you for this site. I am learning much about Islam from reading the postings. I am not a muslim. I am a Christian woman who has learned,at age 29, that we are supposed to cover and dress modestly. It is strange because as a teenager, my mother would fuss because I always wore long, loose, flowing clothes and she would tell me that I should "show more shape", or "put on some lipstick". As an adult, I found myself going back to my loose clothing and am more comfortable with myself and my place and space in the universe. I honestly have no interest in converting to Islam, but do believe that Islam and Christianity are more alike doctrinally than the majority of Christians would even desire to know. I choose to wear hijab because, to me, it is more symbolic of the purpose than a "doily", and hats are fashion accessories. Wearing hijab is definitely the most liberating thing I have done and, after wearing for 3 months, feel naked without it even at home. Most of the sisters in the church that I attend only cover when praying, but after noticing that I cover full time, one of the sisters has decided to start and has remarked that she notices a difference within herself. I feel that if more women were open to the idea of even trying it, they would be overwhelmed with a feeling of peace and of finally "coming home"
I pray that my wearing the traditional covering of a Muslimah does not offend anyone as I truly appreciate and LOVE hijab!
Sincerely, Andrea
ADMINISTRATOR: Thank you for sharing this with us Andrea. And as being a former Christian I learnt that Christians too are also required to cover their hair, stated in the book of Corinthians. We are not at all offended because we know this is what God wants for his female servants; to be modest in dress and in attitude. Nothing accomplishes that more than wearing hijab. As a Muslimah before wearing hijab, even though I tried my best to dress modestly, in layered clothing, long unslitted skirts, long sleeves, it "still didn't cut it". It was not enough. I was still annoyed by members of the opposite gender. Until I began to wear hijab, it was like "night and day"; no more harassment; and no more being asked uncomfortable questions. Hijab just cuts it and gets the point across. God Bless You.
Andrea
on
July 12, 2005
Hi every1, Im a malay muslim Singaporean. I have 3 daughters & a son. I loved hijab v much, over here hijabs are referred to the long dress (we called them jubah too), while the shaylas are called "selendang" & theres 1 boutique here "HIJAB OF IRAN", their hijabs are very beautiful & elegant but v v expensive!!!
Kamsah
on
July 13, 2005
Assalamualaikum
This is to respond to what Sister Deneer mentioned about meeting reverts to Islam. When it comes to sisters, it's actually common to meet one and not even know it! Lol, because alot of Arab women are white. I can't count how many times people have asked if I was Arab, Algerian, Morrocan, the list goes on... and I'm Anglophone Canadian living in Quebec >.<;
Also, how many sisters here wear niqab? I don't think I'll ever wear one in Canada (I find it turns people away from Islam instead of bringing people to our Deen), but I know one revert sister who wears it (I think she started when she got married).
Wassalamualaikum sisters of Islam!
Vanessa
on
July 14, 2005
I live in the South and it is really hot down here ... I tried to wear light fabric hijab but they are sheer and i wanted to know if tahts counts as hijab??
ADMINISTRATOR: Thank you for your inquiry. As long as you wear opaque under accessories that do not cause your neck, hair or ears to show through it is fine. For hot weather we would recommend georgette hijabs, or crepe chiffon shaylas which we currently offer, or light colored cotton hijabs or shaylas.
Lisa
on
July 14, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters! Get up to date hijab tips by joining our hijab support group. Tips are emailed automatically on a bi-weekly basis. Enjoy! Click here to join! Wasalaaaam!
Alhamdulillah I joined your affiliate program, but my Mail Options in my Yahoo mail account kept telling me that my signature i.e. the banner was too long. Is this supposed to happen? What should I do? Jazakillah.
ADMINISTRATOR: Wa alaikum salam sister. Please email me the banner code you are pasting at affiliate@thecanadianmuslim.ca
Nadia
on
July 22, 2005
Asalaam O Alaikum
i want to kno is Niqaab Fardh or not?
and also is Jilbaab, Abaya Fardh?
JazakAllah, Wasalaam
Sahar
on
July 22, 2005
From what scholars interpret and general consensus, Niqab is not fard, but the sister who chooses to follow it is rewarded for it. As for abaya/jilbab, I don't really know :/ Allah SWT doesn't want to trouble us, so I think something covering down to mid-thigh is modest enough. But, like for niqab, if the sister chooses to wear abaya then she will be rewarded. Hope this helps, and this is just my opinion. Insyallah you can find a fatwa or islamic ruling on this.
Vanessa
on
July 22, 2005
Asalaam O Alaikum
Jazak'Allah for replying
Sahar
on
July 23, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters! I'm really looking forward to this Thursday's swimming event. I had a lot of fun the last time. The first meet I wasn't able to swim..and I was more focused on greeting the newcomers and making sure they got a flyer and a schedule on it. I even had some of our products there for sisters to see too in an effort to build awareness about our business. The sisters are friendly and funny too. I decided to take a dip the next meet and I was having so much fun that time flew by. It was nice talking to other sisters and it was really funny when I was getting a personal tutorial on how to "float" :)) hehe. I remember the words going over in my head "Just relaaaxx...just lay back and relaax"..but when I tried i couldn't help but be afraid..and when i tried water went up my nose...waaaa..i hate that:) I'm looking forward to giving it another try this thursday. I was also getting advice from this other sister on how to swim..and that your arms and are supposed to work like a "propeller" to move you though the water fast ...so that was cool thinking about it in that perspective....kind a like a machine. I got some cool goggles that don't leak..gottem on sale too so i can't wait to try that again. If you're in the area..even if you are a few cities away..its just a 20 minute drive... Would love to see you there eh' Jazakumallahu khairan ..wasalaaam!
Sister Deneer
on
July 26, 2005
Assalamualaikum
I just received my reversable baby blue abaya yesterday, and masha'Allah so comfortable and elegant... even my mom liked it! :D Thanks sis Deneer!
Vanessa
on
July 26, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister and I'm happy you liked it!
WEEEEEEeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! One more day till swimming. KER-plUNK! Theres 2 diving boards, one high and one low. If I dive off one of them I'll have to use a life jacket. I'll make it a goal! To dive off by the last session of swimming or before. Wish me luck:))eheheh
Wasalaaaam!
Sister Deneer
on
July 27, 2005
Asalaam O Alaikum, please help me in the Islamic Forum, I am asking about the post on Smileys, emoticons I really want to know the truth Jazak'Allah and Wasalaam
ADMINISTRATOR: Wa alaikum salam and thank you for your question. Inshallah this will be available in the future but not for the time being.
Muslimah
on
July 27, 2005
lol Sister Deneer, you seem really excited! Inshallah you'll all have a good time. I wish we had some event like that going on over here, hmmm one day if i come to visit my cousin in Canada then maybe I'll make a plan to come join you guyz! Have fun, and I know what you mean about being scared to 'relax and just lie back' when u'r trying to float! It's the same with me!
ADMINISTRATOR: Wa alaikum salam sister;) lol! you're right! Inshallah in the future we will sponsor events all over USA if the demand is there:) Allahu 3alam. Wasalaam!
Nadia
on
July 27, 2005
Asalaam O Alaikum
yeah sister deneer that really would be nice if it was all over in the U.S, because I am in Texas!
cant drive that far! lol
Wasalaam
Muslimah
on
July 28, 2005
Assalamu alaikum, Muslimah you're from Texas! So am I!!!
Nadia
on
July 28, 2005
Assalamu alaikum, Muslimah you're from Texas! So am I!!! Wow this is a small world after all!
Nadia
on
July 28, 2005
Assalamu alaikum,
Oh my gosh sorry Admin, my computer's gone haywire! I don't know how to delete the other messages, could you do it please?
Also I was so excited to hear that Muslimah's from Texas that I forgot why I came here, which was to ask everyone to please make dua for the people who died in the floods in India. Our village is literally under water, we just built a new house this February and we don't know if it's still standing, and my grandmother's all alone while my uncle goes to work. Please make dua the rain soon subsides and that Allah give patience to the families whose loved ones have passed away.
Jazakumullah.
Nadia
on
July 28, 2005
Assalam Aleikum everyone!! Hope all of you are doing great insha'allah..I have been reading all your comments here and made me feel so weak in my religion. I am a convert ( revert ) since almost 5 years this november..i have changed in so many ways alhamdulilalh to please Allah swa buttttttt still hesitating in to wear my hijab..i am not young...and none of my family are muslims but my younger son alhamdulilah.is and we support each other alot and study and read Quoran....all have already accepted me but as long i dont cover my head ( body and rest i do ) There is nothing i would love to and made me so happy if i just could do it right away, I feel so proud of all of you sisters that being so young you follow and obey the Creator...alhamdulillah sisters! I have many many hijabs that i wear ONLY on fridays but them i am so coward and i am so scare as days are running so quickly and i am still in this stage even all this years!!! Now i need your prayers and maybe a little imput so i do it, at the end my friends and family would Not save me and also would either like me or not after i wear the scarf.right?..:) I live in the united States and i am very active in the community i belive i am living in two worlds and this is pulling me back from doing it...as i told you sisters i am not young and my kids are all grown...is there any sister that has converted to Islam on her own ( like me ) after decades of searching the truth?....plz plz i need help i wish i can do it. I have only one sister close to me and she convers i wish i could please Allah and wear proudly and happy my Hijab. Jazakoom Allahu Khairan
ADMINISTRATOR: Asalamu alaikum sister and we appreciate your posting. Based on what you've written, I can see that you wish to be a stronger Muslim, and not be afraid of the opinions of those who disapprove of you wearing the scarf. And it is good that you are expressing this verbally to yourself as well as to this forum and others. This is a good step you have taken and now it is time for the next step inshallah. The next step sister, is working on building your Iman, which fuels "Confidence". With confidence, we are fearless in standing up for what is right, for the sake of Allah s.w.t.. We are fearless in hearing the opposing opinions of others which are meant to discourage us from the path. The only way to build that confidence is through salat sister. Salat + praying on time (avoiding deliberate unnecessary delay) is the formulah for Islamic Confidence. In addition to prayer, do more things in your day to Thikr Allah s.w.t. and reading Quran is great to do. Also, after your salat, make a du3a to Allah s.w.t to "have the strength to wear hijab". The reason why it is so important to avoid deliberate delay of the prayers is because, one can not get the real fruit and nourishment of the prayer, otherwise. It is like drinking water, without its vitamins. Or like eating a plate of rice, for sustinance, and only being able to eat 1 single grain. Inshallah you've found this helpful:) Jazakallahu khairan and wasalam
Fatimah
on
July 28, 2005
salaam sisters marshallah the hijabs and jilbabs are very pretty and feminine will def recomend you to all my sisters here in the north west england
jannutt
on
July 29, 2005
Asalaam O Alaikum,
yes Nadia i m from TX! i m in Dallas...what about u?
Muslimah
on
July 29, 2005
Salaam again
nadia i will pray for ur grandmother
Insha'Allah she and your family there will be alright.
I make a 'Dua for her...
Wasalaam
Muslimah
on
July 29, 2005
Peace be upon you. I am a new Muslim (3wks) and am so thrilled to find it an answer to many prayer concerns. I am almost through my first reading of the Holy Quran and my eyes fill with tears to find it so lovely, a comfort and a healing.
The truth about covering even the Christians should know. I live amongst a Christian sect where modesty is required and taught, thankfully! My youth was spent in an entirely opposite direction. So I will say to Fatima that regardless of age and those around her, she should not hesitate an instant to cover up. You may well save them!
The Quran is a confirmation of the earlier Scriptures and they indeed command woman to cover their heads and dress modestly. Those who teach and practice otherwise are far astray.
Forgive me but I do not understand the different language used here. I am an American with a new perspective on the world.
Jocah Bekah
Jocah
on
July 30, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister and welcome as a new Muslimah! Inshallah you will see and agree that reverting to Islam is the best decision one man make in ones life. Those who are seeking true direction in this life will get much fulfilment from this Religion. Because my sister is not interested in listening to the similarities in Christianity compared to Islam, I've managed to encourage her to be a better christian. If you can recall sister, what verse in Corinthians (2 or 1)..i'm not sure, does it state that women should cover their hair? I would like to see if my sister is open to enlightening herself with that chapter..and take another step towards modesty inshallah. Surprisingly there are some christians that wear Islamic Attire including hijabs:) mashallah! Wasalam!
Sister Deneer
on
July 30, 2005
assalamuallaikum sisters, sincere apology if this is a wrong place for me to be in here. but i have a question, i did like to post. my fiancee is not used to wearing hijab, but when i stress too much on this, she gets upset. i am planning to send her a headscarf as gift, for i dearly want her to wear it. any advise over here? wa-salaam ur brother in islam, jeelan
ADMINISTRATOR: Wa alaikum salam brother and thank you for asking us for assistance. I would first like to congratulate you on your engagement and I wish both of you success. As a "soon-to-be" husband, and from what I've heard from khodbas by Yahya Adel-Ibrahim, is that it is advised to "order good deeds". I remember when I was engaged, and before I wore the hijab, I put in my mind that I would start wearing the hijab when my husband ordered me to wear it. And yes, I was scared for that day to come. I ended up encouraging myself to wear it, without my husbands help in Ramadan of 2002. Maybe this years Ramadan will be the time for her. You can let her know in advance, that when you are both married inshallah, she will begin to wear the hijab. I think as women, we sometimes need that extra push and it is possible that on a subconscious level, she is waiting for you to order good and say "you'll need to wear the hijab when we are married". Encourage her by letting her know that she can have any kind she wants and how ever many she wants, and inshallah she will like this. You can also let her know about our Hijab Support Group where we email tips twice a week for ways to wear hijab and moral support. If she's in the area, I'd be more than happy to give a 1 on 1 tutorial! If you are buying hijabs or shaylas for her, the first time, get a variety, and in neutral colors first. I'm not saying this because I'm the owner, but she may not favor the kind she receives because of her own personal preferences. For example, a combination of a plain black hijab, 1 black lace underscarf, a black shayla, with black underscarf, or choose navy, white and a two piece amira hijab. I've even had comments from newly reverted muslimahs telling me that they prefer to wear lighter pastel colors compared to wearing dark or black colors. This way she has 3 different types to chose from..and for occasions, you can get her a fancier one. She may like it for how it looks..and she may grow on it..and wear it eventually, when you take her out to dinner or something. From experience, never get upset on the issue or angry..but be firm and sincere, and speak in terms of pleasing Allah s.w.t. If she wants to choose herself some more after you get some for her...let her..and say "any ones you wish:)"..this will make her feel at ease inshallah and it communicates that she is not troubling you on the subject. Inshallah you've found this helpful...and keep us up to date inshallah...wa alaikum salam!
Jeelan Sheriff
on
July 31, 2005
CHET-NUN
that is, Grace
The last two posts give food for thought. First, the fiance wanting his bride to express modesty. Is that not like Christ waiting for his bride, the church, to do the same?
The muslim should definately teach Christians to be better at their religion. I may not have studied long, but this seems to be a major message of the Koran. I am so surprised how many prayers are being answered by that blessed Prophet's work! I am grateful, and yet bemoan how ignorant I was made to be about Islam. My heart goes out to others who have been kept from a right understanding.
The verse you are looking for in relation to woman covering is 1st Corinthians 11:5. This whole passage is often mistakenly interpreted or discounted by [idolatrous] Christians, but a deep study of the original language, and the Hebrew culture, gives the proper import. This is not the forum for such a discussion. I am more eager than ever to know the truth of the Bible, and insist on its practice, now I am muslim.
I am extremely pleased to find this site and many others showing how to dress and cover modestly. I had looked in so many places, but was told so many lies about Islam I failed to look there. The local Amish-Mennonite group has been some help with virtue, but I find the doctrine difficult to swallow.
Here are a few other of the older Scriptures to encourage backslid Christian women as to hijab: I Timothy 2:9 and I Peter 3:3-5.
Blessings of peace be on you all,
Jocah
Jocah
on
August 1, 2005
A great Islamic Kids Site For lil' Muslims and Muslima's:
Sallam Deneer, I wanted to know if I could post a link to this site? It has Islamic wallart for kids. Its a really cute and fun site with great unique products.
ADMINISTRATOR: wa alaikum salam ya tawba. Sure & thanx for asking
Tawba
on
August 1, 2005
recently i was judged harshly for wearing light coloured hajibs and 1 sister told me that its haram to wear pink or any other attractive coloured hajibs so i stopped wearing because of her putdowns on me cuz she instructed that i must wear black. i tried to tell her that i have seen others wearing different colours ...she responded back to me " they are NOT muslims and they are not following the right path!".... i tried to do a bit of research and found this site saying that wearing black is NOT a must. the clothes must be covered except hands and face. but have a choice of different colours. i tried to show this to the sister but she refused to budge ..then she says this is a fake.... i m beginnning to find her rather judgemental but i have been avoiding her becuase of what she did to me ..i like to continue to wear my pink hajib but she just looks at me and scorns at me...... is she right or wrong ?
ADMINISTRATOR: Asalamu alaikum sister. To comment on how you were treated, the approach the sister took for you is demeaning and quite harsh. Even to go so far as to judge other Muslims for not being Muslims. We are not to label Muslims as being not Muslims, but rather that they are misguided, but even so we should refrain from judging the person but rather their actions. The attitude and approach the sister took could actually drive one further away from Islam. This is just my opinion, but when sisters go to hajj, they wear white, so what is the difference if you wear pink, when there is no dress code anyway? It is advised to dress as modest, and darker colors do the job better compared to lighter colors. My advice is to continue to pray, and on time, and ask Allah s.w.t. for guidance. Hope his helps sister...wasalam
eisha
on
August 1, 2005
Here is the site for Islamic Kids Wallart It has fun products for Islamic Schools, homeschools, bedrooms etc. Hope you all enjoy, thanks Deneer.
http://www.islamicfunshop.com
ADMINISTRATOR: asamamu aliakum ya tawba, i checked it out and its cute! when you said wallart, i was thinking wall paper for the computer. Nice arabic letters you can put on your childs room walls to encourage learning inshallah. A nice idea, pushing todays youth in the right direction inshallah:) wasalaam!
salamalikum! I'm a reverted muslima and married a muslim man. I can admit i did rush into things because i just wanted to be married because i was afraid i wouldn't find anyone else. I've made so many mistakes looking for love in the wrong places only to find myself being used. So when i found this man, he was sweet, poetic, and from what i saw he was morally intact and generous but unfortunately financially poor. Because i fell in love with his character, thinking this was the dream guy for me....he eventually asked me to marry him and ofcourse i said yes and i was dying for that too. because he was financially poor and because i loved him i helped him financially alot, paying for the wedding, paying for my flight to his country, sending money so he can support himself while i waited for him to come to my country, and so forth. my friends warned me that i would end up a slave but i would say to them "i know he'll take care of me"...and i truly believed that. he used to tell me "it seems you don't know how i am with money yet"..and he'd tell me stories of how he used his generosity to his friends bla bla bla. so i was like okay cool. So when he did finally get to my country, i became the homely wife i was prepared to become, and yes he was still affectionate and loving..but cheap. He didn't support me or take care of me financially when he got on his feet. Never took me out shopping for clothes, or no gifts. On my birthday he bought an x-box saying it was for me and at that time it was 300$. The trend went on..i ended up having to bother him to get me a good ring, and alot of other stuff. The generosity i thought would be there wasn't, and he never offered anything. Because he put me in a position where he didn't allow me to drive..i said okay because i loved him and not to stir up trouble...later to realize that in Islam it is not haram for a woman to drive or have her drivers licence. She is only refrained from going outside alone. But in these days in our country..its difficult..and since some men choose not to take teh responsibility to support the family, women have no choice but to leave their homes to work and support themselves. I've begun to pray ontime and 5 times a day as from what a sister advised from above, as i believe it was a cause of part of teh problems. Elhamdulilah i notice my character improving and my confidence as muslima improving. I have now begun to believe that I am a good person, and Allah s.w.t. has allowed me to steer myself in the right direction inshallah. I now believe I can do better. I've been hurt so much by my husband, in ways you would not imagine... I feel this relationship will only corrupt me, and infringe on my chances of gaining the God pardon. I told my husband he has anger issues, where he just snaps, and says degrading things and making me feel like im the dumbest person on earth. He's tried to fix the problem himself he says...but obviously it didn't work. I told him that he needs to be the spiritual leader of the family and be the better example when we are in times of turmoil, in having patience and kindness to ones wife and to not deal with teh wife in harshness. But he coudn't do it...he didn't look to the God for help, and he didn't even look to therapy. So we're back to square one. I know what I want now..and it is a husband who humbles himself to Allah s.w.t. and who takes his prayer seriously, and does it 5 times a day and ontime. I told him...I will stay with this relationship if he starts praying 5 times a day and ontime, because he has anger issues, and he can't help himself alone and needs God. He rejected it..so we will be divorcing. There are children involved in this. I'm praying to the God so that he realizes that no life can be happy without Allah s.w.t. and asking for his guidance and sustinance. No regrets..I'm tired of our kids seeing us arguing..and if i stay in this relationship I will only teach them to accept this behaviour for themselves and thats the last thing i want for my babies. For those of you who've read this..thanx..and any advice you can offer would be appreciated. walikumsalam
Salam
on
August 5, 2005
CHET NUN
PLEASE HELP GET THIS TO PEOPLE TRYING TO DESTROY AMERICA.
To whom it may concern:
I am a new Muslimah, living in the West. I was raised in total ignorance of Islam. Mine was a religion of ancient Greeks, Romans, and Celts. I was proudly taught that this was Christianity, but now I feel humbled that this is not truth. Also, focusing on the body so much as we do, we forget that character reform is required for health and safety.
When I read the first surah of the Quran, there was the same vision I had in my dream that morning. A few days later I went to a mosque. Almost everything there is in a language I do not know. I study a little Hebrew so I can understand the older Scriptures, and I had no idea of what was in the Quran. But I had been trying to obey "the old paths" as Jeremiah 6:16 puts it. I was already obeying much of the Quran without knowing it! Many are, but we struggle because we "have inherited lies" (Jeremiah 16:19).
No one was at the mosque to help that day. Feeling lost and alone, I reached for a thick book with a beautiful white cover, and gold, green, and pink curving letters and patterns. I opened it, and saw it was the Holy Quran, entirely in Arabic, without footnote, cross-reference, or comment. My heart longed to know everything that Great Prophet said, but I could not read the script. But a feeling of reverence came over me, and then I discerned a small, bright sun beaming out from the book. It filled my consciousness like a great, glowing pearl. I felt eternal Mind had imparted the whole book to me. I have now read the Quran through with human eyes, as well as spiritual, and am convinced it is the Word of God.
Jocah Bekah Robb
Northern Virginia, USA
Jocah Bekah
on
August 7, 2005
CHET-NUN
Sorry about that last post being out of place. I am lost, and do not understand the language, culture and traditions of Islamic people. I just know Allah is blessing me greatly, and I want everyone that needs to know to know it. There has been such IGNORANCE! The whole earth is Allah's, not just some nations in the east. Inshallah, they will come to know, and not destroy me and my people. - Jocah Bekah
Jocah
on
August 7, 2005
CHET-NUN Sorry again, dear sisters, I am off-topic. I have been covering faithfully, and chiding my new muslim sisters gently to do the same. I am so surprised to learn some only cover to go to prayer on Friday. Hopefully, we can talk soon, and I can order some of the beautiful products here. Thanks, and sorry I do not know allthe proper greetings! Salam Alykey, Jocah
Jocah
on
August 7, 2005
...
What does CHET-NUN stand for? Is this a canadian term?
Tawba
on
August 9, 2005
HMMMM... I'm thinking Singapore, indonesian or Malaysian?
Sister Deneer
on
August 9, 2005
I just have a thought it would be great if you could sell the tunic styled shirts. they are great except its so hard to find them with long sleeves or long enough to cover your bottom. I'd buy them for sure if they were offered here.
Laila
on
August 10, 2005
That is a great idea....I see them all over the place, in the malls, the department stores, but they are all too short in length and often this season they are very low cut in the front and many are too sheer to even consider.
It would be great to find something lovely like that exept with enough modesty and still feminine.
on
August 10, 2005
Chet-Nun = Canadian :)
Chet-Nun = Indonesian, malaysian (makes sense)
You canadians are so smart, I guess I was living up to an American stereotype:)
Tawba
on
August 11, 2005
Ya tawba.... hhhhheeeyyyyyy :P
Sister Deneer
on
August 11, 2005
I noticed this assertion in a recent posting by Maliha on March 28, 2005: 'For Allah ta’aala, Whose deity (Uloohiyyah) she believes in has commanded wearing hijaab in His Book (Al-Qur’an)'
I looked in every translation of Al-Qur’an I could find and found no such mention of hijaab.
What is the truth?
Pip
ADMINISTRATOR: Asalamu alaikum! When I was talking with a Christian woman she told me that it wasn't fair that men feel they have the right to touch, or violate a woman just because of the way she dresses or because she is overly friendly. She also added that she wished that she could have the respect that Muslim women get from wearing hijab, by just wearing regular clothing. In my response, I replied that it would be wonderful if we had that kind of freedom, but the way the world is and how it is perceived, it will never be like that. It is not God plan for us. And added, because it will never be like that, we as Muslims should protect ourselves from it, and in that we do that by "wearing hijab, wearing loose clothing, and lowering our gazes to the opposite gender."
When we look at hijab and we are contemplating whether it is fard or not, we should look beyond just looking for the word "hijab" in the Quran. Instead we should ask ourselved "How does Allah s.w.t. see the female creation and what would he advise to have his creation protected". As we already know, the world morality is declining at an enormous rate. What used to be considered shameful decades ago is now acceptable. So in the midst of this change, how can Muslim women, protect themselves from the ongoing world change on morality? Public acts of perversion in the midst of this decline have unfortunately increased at an enormous rate! Can you think of any thing else a Muslim woman can wear or do, to prevent herself from being a victem of perversion and prevent males from instigating acts of perversion? Wouldn't you agree that the root cause of this would be the female beauty? What is the most beautiful feature on the woman and has the most impact on her beauty....ofcourse the hair (has a nice scent, the way it moves, the way it curles, the styles it has...) One fact that never changes, is that "Hijab helps prevent you from being a victem of perversion, and helps prevent those from instigating acts of perversion...and this includes other females not only males". Some people try to modify the look of hijab by combining it with Hats, turbans or other material but must we forget that the traditional square hijab or shayla comes with a statement saying "We are Muslim". Even the unbelievers, even if they hardly know anything about Islam, when they see a woman in hijab they know it is for a religious purpose. The statement that comes along with wearing the traditional square or rectangle hijab is what protects us. If you wear a hat, a sport hood, a turban, the unbelievers will be confused, and because of that may still approach you as if you didn't wear it, hense subjecting oneself to being a potential victem of perversion.
Inshallah this helped to shead some new light on the subject. Jazakallahu khairan & wa alaikum salam
pipnpol@hotmail.com
on
August 13, 2005
Well I dont have question but I just wanted to tell you guys that I really love your website, I want to become muslim so I did some research and stumbled upon this site and it helps very much so basically i appreciate everything your all doing!!!
Jennifer
on
August 13, 2005
Hi sister denner know me a bit i'm not a muslim yet but insh allah i become one that why i don't knoe if you're gonna a have two piece tunic or jelba me iREally like that i have one come from morocco and she's nice but i like one piece jelba too!so is the first time i see swimming bathing suit muslim is nice but is be nicer if you have other color and more kind of prayer carpet sorry if my english is well i'm from montreal but i speak well.take care and continue to do your thing in the website MEL
melanie-malika
on
August 13, 2005
CHET-NUN are Hebrew letters meaning grace or mercy. I wish to learn more Arabic, but inshallah will keep learning Hebrew, too. For that is what the older Scriptures are written in. And from today's reading of Quran, I learned Muslims are supposed to make others keep these Scriptures. I am so happy about that, because I was already trying (in the wrong way) to do that. Now I have that Great Prophet Mohammed for a guide, that blessed one they said would come. Why was I kept so in the dark until now? When all obey Allah, there will be the greatest peace on earth, even the peace "which passeth all understanding" (Phillipians 4:7). There will be no such thing as gender inequality (it happens now, no matter what religion). How clean and pure I feel walking around America in hijab! You are so right, Sister D., it truly is a protection against perversion. Also, keeping away from men during my period, this is a purifying thing too. Although I missed praying. Someone said I could not pray or read Koran while menstruating, but the imam said the english was okay, but do not touch the Arabic. Look for an order soon. Peace be mulitplied unto you. Jocah Bekah in Virginia, USA
Jocah Bekah
on
August 14, 2005
asslamu alaikum hpe u r all in the best of health and imaan,i just wasnt to say i don the niqab (face veil) and it is simply the best feeling in the world.it is truly the most liberating experience ever.i started wearing it 2 years ago and now it seems like a life time lol.by covering your body people dont jugde you by you apperarance rather your intellect which should be the case.beaty is in the eye of the beholder.anyway may Allah guide all the muslims upon the straight path ameen allahumma ameen.take care,if you want to contact me heres me email add muslim_gal999@hotmail.com.please make sure your a woman as i dont talk to men okay jazakAllah khair.take care fi amanAllah was salaam
niqabi mujahidah
on
August 14, 2005
Since niqabis are supposed to cover their face or at most have their eyes showing, how do they get married? Does their fiance see their face before they get married? Who determines what is allowable or not? In the case of having arranged marriage it is easier but what if you don't know anyone. My husband told me that there could be somethign wrong with a niqabi's face and the guy won't know because it is covered. The prophet even married for beauty too other than piety and religion. Can niqabi girl please clarify this???
Niqabi Curious
on
August 14, 2005
salam alaikum
I am a new muslima of 4 months and I am slowly changes my wardrobe. I don't wear short skirts the shortests are midcalf. I this ok to wear
Amina in Toronto Canada
on
August 15, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister Amina from Toronto. It's nice to know that you are making changes to your woredrobe. If you're asking if it is halal to wear skirts to the mid calf...actually no... Don't be afraid to go to skirts to the ankle because it covers sufficiently inshallah. Lots of styles are available and will have in future inshallah. If you are small size, try our acid wash jeans skirt. If you are plus size, we would recommend wearing layers..for example. A shirt, with skirt and a cardigan over it. When I began to change my wordrobe, I changed it so that my arms and legs do not show..there are lots of choices out there..:) Should you eventually decide to wear hijab..we would recommend your basic black abaya with a shayla..it is an every day on the go alternitave as well. Jazakallahu khairan and wasalam!
Administrator
on
August 15, 2005
Assalam ALeikum Sisters and Greetings from Florida!
I just want to post a short message here ....just to say to all
of you reading these lines to support sites like this!! as sister Deneer said this is a comunity and not just a retail website mashallah sister Deneer i really really enjoyed talking to you over the phone today while I placed my order that i cant wait to get it insh'allah...:)!! Sisters like you is what we really need in our comunity and we all should keep helping out this site with our comments and sharing and learning from one another inshallah...
I want to share that i thank so much the email from the admin..i got few weeks ago about me being fear and hesitating to wear the hijab and want to share that i am with the help of Allah swa wearing it now and i feel so exited!! and happy and knowing that i am pleasing Allah swa makes me feel awsome! i am so happy! and everyone around me seems to be "o.k "..for me also ( i mean my family ..husband and kids ) so thank you again and Sister Deneer may Allah bless you and all your family and all the sisters that visit this site.
I am a reverted since 5 yrs ago and its not until now that i am trully fearless to stand up and wear the scarf...
For the sisters that are young reverts.outthere..all i can say is that you are lucky to be muslims at this early age and may Allah keep all of you in the right path and happy with Allahs pleasure.Be strong in your faith and proud to wear the hijab! :) Thanks for reading this message.
Ma'saalama :)
Sister Fatimah
on
August 15, 2005
After 9/11 the whole world changed. When you wear your hijab in public in western society you intentionally commit an act of terrorism on all of us who are forced into an encounter with you in public. I may simply be shopping at a grocery store for my family when all of the sudden I have to look at you. My mind is automatically and uncontrollably whisked to see visions of the falling towers, exploding planes, people jumping from buildings. My mind is forced to wonder why so many more of you are appearing in my neighborhood? What are you husbands, brothers, fathers planning to do to my family? What is your mosque doing with the tithes and offerings you give to it? Who is your mosque hiding in its midst just waiting to for furthur instructions before committing more heinous acts upon my countrymen and possibly my family and friends. This is not the sort of thing I expect to have to think about while choosing a cantloupe or selecting a cut of meat. I suspect you force these thoughts on numerous even hundreds of people throughout your day. And God Bless those who are forced to look at your disgusting display all day at work! This is terrorism. Is it your right to wear it? Of coarse! But it is my right to wear a t-shirt that says "Unacceptable statement(edited by Admin.)" if I wanted to but I wouldn't. Those of us educated on hijab know what it really means. When you wear hijab you wear a blinking billboard that says "Unacceptable Statement(edited by admin.)" This is just as disrespectful as if I wore the above t-shirt. You argue that we ought to be tolerant of your "choice" but I wonder if you would be so "tolerant" if you saw 20 or so people a day wearing t-shirts with similar statements them. You who wear hijab in western society always have a common theme, you either enjoy the "martydom for allah" aspect (a strange connection to terrorists don't you think?) or enjoy being the black sheep amongst your family and friends. And all this doesn't even begin to scratch the millions of women persecuted, oppressed, executed, and tortured for hijab, jilbab and the like. When you wear your hijab in western, free society you dishonor all of those women. Shame on you! Hijab=terrorism!
ADMINISTRATOR: Thank you for taking the time to visit our website and share your thoughts on the concept of hijab. It is our goal here to encourage awareness of wearing hijab and what the purpose of wearing it is. Thank you for clarifying that you feel that hijab is equal to terrorism because it then gives us and other sisters an opportunity to provide clarity on this matter.
First I would like to point out that:
No religion condones any act of violence on innocent people, whether it be Christianity, Islam, Bhuddism, Hinduism, Sikhism or any other traditional belief out there.
Every religion has those who commit bad deeds and claim it is the will of God. i.e. There are many murderers in Christianity, and Islam, and other religions who claim that their behavior is acceptable and it is that God wants. It is clear in the Bible and the Quran, that the killing of innocent people is forbidden, prohibted and unacceptable.
Hence what has been stated above, the event of 911 is an unfortunate example of the killing of innocent by standars, which is forbidden and prohibited and not condoned by any religion including Islam.
Next I will talk about the reason we wear hijab. Unfortunatly we live in a society where our sexuality is judged by men and women based on what we wear. For example, most men think that a women has "yes" written all over her face if she wears a short skirt and a tight t-shirt, when maybe in fact she doesn't, and she just likes and feels comfortable in what she's wearing. Despite her frame of mind, this is an invitation to acts of perversion by passing males; whether it be touching, or getting a "pick-up line", or being looked at in a perverted way. Is it right to say that because she dresses like this...she deserves it??? Its not. Believe it or not, even women who are covered, in long skirts and blouses, get "hit on" too by other males or asked unwanted sexual questions by other women too. Before I wore the hijab, this is how I was treated and I wanted it to stop. And i came to realize that as long as I am not wearing a hijab, it will continue to happen, and i was finally fed up. We must face the facts...that alot of male and female motives are actually driven by sexuality and we as female muslims must protect ourselves from becoming a victem of unwanted perversion.
Why we wear hijab:
God tells us to cover our selves in this way so that we are not annoyed, hence it is an obligation in Islam
To prevent ourselves from becoming yet another victem of perversion
To help prevent those men/women from instigating acts of perversion towards us
To seal the way for dressing in a modest fashion so that we are not approached in a sexual manner
Hopefully this has helped you to understand why we wear what we wear, and fortify that No religion including Islam, condones the killing of innocent people. Thank you.
I think Hijab=terrorism
on
August 16, 2005
Hijab still equals terrorism. While you gave me the usual babble about how men are so stupid and sex crazed that the mere site of a women may spin them into a sexual whirling dervish and incite rape and violence (clearly the fault of the uncovered women ) Thus one must wear hijab out of FEAR. FEAR of men. FEAR and shame of ones own body often implanted in very young muslim girls. FEAR of not fitting in with others, FEAR of being disowned by ones family, FEAR of violence from a husband, father, brother, FEAR of God. Instilling fear in people is the primary goal of terrorists. You just told a man in a previous comment to begin to suggest that she must wear hijab when they get married. I wonder what will happen to her if she doesn't? Nevermind it is HE who is choosing to marry a women who does not wear hijab. Yet it is your position that SHE must be the one to change her attitude due to what? FEAR. FEAR, FEAR, FEAR. This is fine for third world countries but not in the free world. You have suggested that a future husband begin to terrorize his future wife into submission. I feel sorry for her! She probably has no idea what she is getting herself into.
By insisting on parading around in Halloween attire in our grocery stores and other public places in free, western society you intentionally spread fear around to everyone forced to look at you. This no longer has a thing to do with faith of any kind. You did not discuss the fact that you make perhaps hundreds of people feel bad, think ugly thoughts, have tragic memories. Why would you choose to do this at this crucial time in history? In the same way that I would not wear a "Down with Islam" or "Muslims Leave" t-shirt I wish you would explain why you feel it is perfectly acceptable to go out in public in offensive clothing that in our society is giant to our culture and insult to our women.
Hijab=terrorism
on
August 16, 2005
P.S. I am a married 35 year old with two children. It's been longer than a decade since I have experienced the "horror " of being hit on by any male being (and that was an extremely rare event anyway) Frankly, if it were to occur I might sing the Hallelejah Chorus! I wonder what the ratio would be of negative experiences by women wearing hijab in free, western society to free women experiencing a horrible "hit on" or unwanted touching by a western man? 200:1? Is it even worth it?
ADMINISTRATOR: Thank you for your comments and for not using coarse language. You are right, we do wear hijab out of fear, but not of fear for people, but for God alone. God tells us to cover our hair and dress modestly so we are not annoyed because he knows what society is and what it will become, so who are we to question that? And yes it does sound outrageously funny but yet true, we do live in a society ruled by sexuality. The proof is all around us in the west especially. You see it in the media, i how people promote their products, in clothing, celebrities, art, peer pressure, at work, school, and in children who are dressing inappropriately even earlier in life than how it used to be. We are told in Islam that the world will continue to advance in this way, and how are we as female muslims supposed to survive in the midst of this change? We are told to cover ourselves, and stick to our religion and we will never go astray despite what is around us. As mentioned above, wearing our hijab, prevents us from being a victem of perversion and also prevents those from instigating acts of perversion even if it is looking and having impure thoughts, and this goes for men as well as women. So when you ask, based on your thought of a 200:1 ratio, the 1 is absolutely worth it. But realistically, it is not 200:1 for females because Allah made many of his creation in the world beautiful. Beauty is a gift from Allah s.w.t. and it is not meant to be misused, flaunted, and shared with undeserving and unauthorized persons. So wearing hijab has nothing do to do with violence, or terrorism, its personal, and its our choice to improve our morality and protect ourselves. And to point out again, No religion condones the killing of innocent people whether it be Christianity, Hinduism, others and Islam. Those to take advantage of this and smear the name of Islam for their own personal motives, is wrong and misleading for all of us who are stuck here having to defend ourselves.
hijab =terrorism
on
August 16, 2005
And I tell you again that after 9/11 all above argument is null and void. When you wear hijab in nations where this is not the customary dress and force many families and children to look at you in our stores and other public places (We all have human rights, which is the right to speak, do, and wear as we want as long it is not a physical harm to anyone. Wearing hijab does not cause physical harm to the public, and may remind one of the unfortunate event of 9/11, even though true believing Muslims don't even support it.)(and wonder why you want to live here(its our right along right of all the new comers that come to our country. Don't forget...people who are not born muslim revert to it including born Canadians and Americans and other nationalities all over the world where Islam was not originally common - for me, this is my home Canada), what is going on at your mosque, what your men are planning, what your money is supporting - (I'm sure many other Muslims would agree, but if there were mosques here promoting the killing of innocent people, i would leave it and go to one who speaks the truth which is Quran. The Quran does not condone the killing of Innocent people and those who have Quran while committing bad deeds are misguided) you contribute to the hate and fear the terrorists want to instill on our people(terrorists who claim to be muslim are misguided muslims). What you say it means to you and the message it actually sends is different(we are just innocent women who wear our hijab for the purpose stated above and if someone wants to smear its message with their own corrupted perception it is they who are making it a problem.). Wearing hijab in North America after 9/11 is an extreme act of evil aggression (believing muslims do not side with evil agressors who claim to follow the will of God). The same God that says you should cover the hair(actually we can only show our face and hands) (so why ears and neck-oh yeah, because ears and necks incite rape) also says women can be stoned to death for minor infractions(not true, this is only done if a woman cheats on her husband or a man cheats on his wife because infidelity is absolutely unacceptable). I also want to know what is meant by a woman being "annoyed." (We are advised not to talk/touch/hangout/look at with men in public, and men not to talk/touch/hangout/look at with women in public. If you do this..it is a form of "annoyance" because God tells us not to.) I am out in public on a daily basis, usually in jeans and a t-shirt or oxford. I have never felt annoyed by anyone based on my jeans and t-shirt(you would never feel annoyed because you feel many forms of behaviour are allowable for you, but likely not for us). I have never been raped, molested, or approached inappropriately(you have your own version of inappropriate, as you said before, you would love to be hit on by a guy and say halleuia) by an American man that I can think of. I am not particularly ugly. Wasn't it Mohammed who said that religion must not be difficult?(true) If religion must not be difficult then why wear hijab in a land in which doing so is so difficult that it requires support groups for women who do? I really want to know. (When God and the prophet Muhammad s.a.w. said that this religion is not meant to be difficult, it means that God did not create rules that will be impossible for us. That he did not create something that we can not physically do. God knows that in life, his servants will be tested by the challenges they get in life. Such as, the banning of hijab in public from Turkey and france. It is a test and God wants to see if his servants will persevere despite the resistance and struggle for the cause of Islam. Those who persevere will be greatly rewarded for their strong belief and efforts inshallah.) Thank you.
ADMINISTRATOR: bolded commentary
Hijab=terrorism
on
August 16, 2005
I just recently had a baby almost 4months ago.Ive always worn hijab but hated it. Now ive gone to see my parents in Tx and so far ive worn my hijab and got many stares because im orginally from a small town. I dont want to wear it but i do so some one please me in your prayers that i continue to wear it. wasallam ameerah
ADMINISTRATOR: Asalamu alaikum sister. The only advice I can give to you right now is to pray, and if you are praying, pray on time and avoid deliberate delay of prayer. Ask Allah s.w.t. to build your iman inshallah. It is also haram to say "you hate to wear hijab" so please do not say this ..and pray to God. Wasalam
Ameerah Aka Muslimah_Angel
on
August 16, 2005
Dear Hijab =terrorism, First and foremost, please let me apologize for anything that might offend you. However, let me put it in a simple term that while you are entitled to your opinion, you are offending us. For starters, Sister Deneer has already put the basis of wearing hijab in clear sentences and you ignored the important parts. Perversion in North American society is rapidly increasing. I spoke with a "professor" a few days ago at my work, and she called it evolution. That is debatable, as evolution suggests positive outlooks, whereas moral decadence is far from it. I read you are a wife and mother: how do you feel knowing your children are exposed to indecent behavior on T.V. and even on the streets? Even at school, vulgar clothing and language is prominant, not to mention in non-segregated schools, it is deemed "permissible" for teenage boys and girls to date and show public affection. And doesn't it bother you that your husband is exposed to women at work and on the way home from work, during lunch breaks, etc? Hijab is more than the terrorizing cloth you seem to fear, but a way of life. Hijab is a way of being modest in all senses, but being moderately so. That is why it applies to men too. Both men and women are commanded by the One and Only God to be modest and lower their gazes. Women, having a more provocative shape, are also commanded to conceal their shape. Can you imagine a society in which men and women roam the streets nearly naked, staring at each other indecently with lewd thoughts? This society would be near collapse. Islam teaches us that instead of giving into our carnal desires, we should learn to control them. Those who live modest lives without extravagence or indecency are most happy.
As to post-September 11, it is only natural for people to fear what the media feeds them, because the media feeds on fear itself. Sister Deneer said it perfectly when she states how all major traditional religions condemn violence on innocent victims. One should keep in mind that violence by Muslims are almost always instigated by political motives and not religious ones: the context is not Islam whatsoever, it would be better to say it was a coincidence that they were Muslims, just as no one would call Irish rebels Catholics. My last point I'd like to make while I am discussing this issue is that very often people either demonize or idealize Muslims. Do not place Muslims above or below what they are: humans. We are equally susceptible to sins because God made us that way. It is Islam that is perfect, and not Muslims.
Once again, I apologize if anything offends anyone. This is just a matter of opinion. If you want to descuss it further, please e-mail me at vania_gurl@hotmail.com. By the way, I am 18 years old college student and 8 month revert to Islam.
ADMINISTRATOR: Mashallah sister, thank you!
Vanessa
on
August 16, 2005
Thank you for answering the questions that you did but why did you delete my question about the fact that the Prophet, peace be upon him. (we will not post any lies about the prophet s.a.w. out of respect) Why did you delete this part? I am trying to reconcile the teachings of God. I am still unclear because sometimes the hijab wearing is a women's "choice"(it is a choice to obey or not obey this requirement) but other times it is serious requirement by God. I really want to know.
I also want anybody else to tell me why a Muslim man may knowingly enter into a marriage agreement with a woman who is non-hijab wearing and then later expect her to be the one to change her attitude post marriage. Isn't this deceptive and even evil? (some muslim men do enter marriages with non muslim women and expect them to change thereafter out of love or for religious reasons. If part of her behaviour is unacceptable, there is nothing wrong with a man trying to improve her morality)
ADMINISTRATOR: () ABOVE
hijab-terrorism
on
August 17, 2005
Vanessa, Yes, I have been educated on how modesty is required of men as well. I see for myself how this works in my community in the American southwest. Picture a 104 degree day, women in full jilbab, hijab struggling in the sun in a parking lot with kids in tow. And what are the husbands wearing? Light, summerweight cotton pants and linen shirts. Tell me how this is right? Tell me how women sweltering in high heat and humidity ,in ridiculous clothing for our climate, while their men remain quite comfortable displays the wonderful equality of Islam? Tell me how this is of God.
ADMINISTRATOR: The middle east areas are one of the hottest places in the world such as Dubai for example. The clothing we wear in the summer is made exactly for that kind of heat. We may look uncomfortable based on what we're wearing but we're not. We wear materials that are opaque but the wind goes right through it and it is very breathable or very light cotton. Muslim men have a dress code too and they're not allowed to wear tight jeans and tight muscle shirts as the style is today. They are supposed to also wear loose clothing and not tuck in their shirts. They are to wear their shirts over their pants or wear a material around their waist for covering. Because women have more adornments to conceal, ofcourse we cannot be as free to dress as men do. As sister Vanessa pointed out, both men and women are required to lower their gazes to their opposite genders for modesty as well.
So, if it it very important for women to adhere to hijab and because said so and God said straying husbands and wives must be stoned to death, why are not Canadian Muslims demanding their right to stone to death their fellow Muslims who have cheated on a spouse under the umbrella of religious freedom? God said this so it must happen musn't it? (This is a law of shari'a and it only happens in Muslim countries. It cannot happen here because under Canadian and American Law, killing cannot happen unless your life is directly threatened and you have no choice to act in self defence) Why is Gods word about wearing hijab deemed very important by Canadian Muslim women but not God's word about stoning of cheaters? (you are comparing hijab & stoning which have no relation. One causes absolutely no physical harm to anyone, and the other does. Because of Human rights Canada and USA implemented we have the right of freedom of expression as long as it doesn't cause any harm to anyone. Stoning interferes with Western Law and is not allowed, so we respect that.) I am really tring to reach understanding to live more comfortably with the Muslims in my area.
hijab-terrorism
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August 17, 2005
Please tell me about Mohammed's, Peace Be upon Him, wife A'isha and why the numerous hadith telling her stories are "lies" when other verse in these same texts are considered God'd holy word. (There are soo many websites of people who try to smear the name of the Prophet s.a.w. and you will notice that most of those websites are not written by Muslims. Here is a helpful link to hopefully clarify this: on the issue of the Prophet s.a.w. wives.)I would think it would be important to know to establish the correct age to that a family should impose that a child "choose" hijab.(I believe a girl should wear hijab as soon as she starts puberty, which most begin showing signs at the age of 10) Also spelled Ayesha.
hijab=terrorism
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August 17, 2005
Vanessa, Earier I failed to answer your questions properly.
You wanted to know if I was worried about my children's exposure to television. Of course. As are plenty of American mothers and fathers. In our home television is a) monitored, b) limited with extra measures thrown in such as purchasing only limited channels of cable t.v. and using our television's programming system to delete certain channels. Of course we are concerned about negative influences at school but feel it is our job as parents to instruct our children the difference between right and wrong so they know what to do when they come across something negative. We feel teaching them to navigate the world and community in which they live is a better approach than to hide them from it. And heaven's no I don't worry about my husband seeing other women at work and out in public. We have been happily married for seven years and were friends since grade school. (We did not date until we were in our late 20's, after finishing our university studies.) He comes home to me each night afterwork and is with me on the weekends, not because he wants to oogle my body but because we have a tight, emotional and intellectual relationship, attend our house of worship together with our children, and he knows darn well he has it good at home, both in and out of the bedroom. I don't understand the logic that if I drape myself in coverings my husband, living in free America, will somehow be less exposed to viewing women who choose to dress provocatively, offensively or are simply pretty or even ugly but nicely dressed. Just as it was stated above that I may not be annoyed because I wouldn't consider such actions as simply being in the prescence of mixed company as an invitation to a sexual encounter as Muslims do, my husband is not whirled up into a sexual frenzy by the mere sight of a women in western dress as a Muslim man who has been taught since childhood that necks, ears, and arms of women are for sexual pleasure.
I also find the idea that women who are covered keep their men from cheating laughable as I am certain there are plenty of cheating Muslim men.
hijab=terrorism
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August 17, 2005
Thank you for the link you provided regarding A'isha. Now I am really confused! You directed me to a site that fully explained that this is true informantion and not only that is is perfectly acceptable for men to have intercoarse with girls at a very young age as long as she has begun to menstruate. Tell me which part of this is a "lie."
ADMINISTRATOR: It seems you want to cut this down to the age factor for your own personal gain. I provided the link to point out the characteristics of Aisha. Did you read that she was very gifted, an intellect, and a great interpreter of Islam at such a young age. In the times of the prophet someone with this characteristic was needed to help people understand Islam. In regard to age, scholars are still trying to figure it out and it isn't certain.
hijab=terrorism
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August 17, 2005
alhamdulillah its one of the good site especially for hijab,
and also to share the information among the people
a female for example she goes to a market, to shop on the way 10 male sees her body, so this female cantain 10 zams or gunah.
and the male sees on which part of her body, that part of body will be burnt in jahanam
Shah
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August 17, 2005
O.K. So there are no stonings of Muslim cheaters in Canada simply because it is the law. I still don't get it. God's word that does not harm anyone, such as wearing hijab is a requirement or "choice" but God's word that may harm another person may be ignored by Canadian Muslims. Is this correct?Shariah law has not been made legal in Canada or USA so it cannot be implemented without persecution. You know what they do if you steal from someone? You're supposed to have your hand cut off. The punishments are severe so that people don't commit the crimes. If we had shariah law implemented in Canada/USA there would be less crime because people would fear the punishment.)
hijab =terrorism
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August 17, 2005
Your approach to the subject is offensive. If you want clarity refer to Muslim websites or your local mosque
Administrator
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August 17, 2005
Why is my approach offensive? I just want an answer to the question that if menstruating girls are considered ready for sex by Muslims how is this reconciled by Muslims in Canada?
ADMINISTRATOR: Have you heard of the term "Nikah"? Nikah means engagement. And when you are in "Nikah" you are not allowed to be alone with your fiance. Aisha was in Nikah at age 10 and later married at age 15 where the marriage was consumated. Refer to this link written by believing Muslims not Christians
hijab =terrorism
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August 17, 2005
I want to know exactly what the women in my community who choose to wear hijab represent and why in the name of getting along.
hijab=terrorism
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August 17, 2005
what is a zam or a gunah and the thing about women's body partsgetting burnt? What is this?
hijab =terrorism
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August 17, 2005
O.K. Was the site you sent me to written by Christians? it seemed pretty Islamic to me. I honestly had no intent of taking this conversation in this direction but i really feel I need to know the answer to certain questions before I end this discussion, hopefully, soon. I feel God tugging at my heart to discover his will. If my question regarding Muslims believing that sexual intercoarse being O.K. as long as a girl has her period is somehow offensive to you I really don't know how else to ask the question. Perhaps it is a language problem or because I am American that I do not know the correct vocabulary to use. I don't know if I would feel comfortable asking a male Imam such a question as you suggested. It seems a topic best discussed amongst women. Could you or someone please phrase the question for me so that it may be asked in a non-offensive manner. Thank you.
hijab =terrorism
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August 17, 2005
"I also find the idea that women who are covered keep their men from cheating laughable as I am certain there are plenty of cheating Muslim men."
I already stated that Muslims are human and susceptible to sin. As for the T.V. business, naturally it is our job as parents to keep tabs on such, but it is also our job to be role models for our children. To obey God is a cornerstone of our faith, as Islam means submission to the One and Only God (it can also mean peace, so if you put the two together, you gain peace in submitting to God's commands). It doesn't seem like anything we may say might convince you otherwise; God says that there are some hearts which cannot be swayed. As to Shariah Law, I know some Muslims want it implemented in Canada, and I am against that. To begin with, many of the punishments are no longer valid, and therefore should be regarded as historical context, such as cutting off a hand when one steals. Imams and Sheikhs around the globe have confirmed that Islam is a religion of flexibility (by this I mean in a positive manner - for an idea of this, try reading Tariq Ramadan's To Be a European Muslim). Also, for the stoning to be permissible, one has to have four witnesses of such behavior, and even that is difficult to obtain. Even more so, the Prophet did say "The best of you (men) is he who is best to his wife." Obviously stoning is out of the picture. In the Qur'an, it also states the four conditions before a divorce is permissible, thus the preferred route is divorce to stoning, and even that deed is the one permissible deed that God hates. I hope this helps a bit.
Just a tip! Before condemning hijabis, why don't you try asking them? Most women don't mind explaining, especially in the light of global terrorism and images of hijab-clad women on T.V. screens worldwide with garbled messages. My salaams to all of you; may Allah all grant us peace and let us meet in Paradise God-willing. Amin.
Vanessa
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August 17, 2005
Dear Hijab=Terrorism,
You want to understand what the Muslim women in your community represent; They represent the desire to please Allah (swt) first and foremost, in this life and the next. Most women who choose to wear hijab do so because they submit to the will of Allah (swt). The trial and test in this is when the majority in a community are opposed to that which Allah (swt) has commanded, and still she has the imaan (faith) to follow His commands. You have every right to feel the way that you do. But if just for a moment you would set aside your defensiveness and carefully read back over the messages posted by Sister Vanessa and Sister Daneer, you will see that they have answered your questions thoughtfully and with clarity. Perhaps we simply must "agree to disagree." But I pray that you understand that those of us who choose to wear the hijab do not do so to intimidate or anger you and others around us. Islam is not just a religion, it is a complete way of life. I live in the U.S. and am accustomed to the stares. Believe me, when you are looking at the sister at the market in her scarf thinking that she is trying to make life difficult for you, she has her own trials and concerns to overcome. One of which may be asking Allah for the strength to continue to step out of her house each day knowing that she is protected by her Lord, and stay covered in a world that is increasingly and curiously in fear of a woman who chooses modesty as her way of life. I too pray that I have not offended you or any others who may veiw this post. I fully accept responsibility for anything that I have said that is incorrect.
Kimberly
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August 17, 2005
Asalamu alaikum. About the cheating men issue, what I meant to clarify is that if all women dressed modestly and lowered their gazes, men would not be given the opportunity to cheat. So in essence, the more women that cover, and lower their gazes, the less opportunities they would receive. Allah s.w.t. even advises wives not to describe other women to their husbands, and he advises women to lower their gazes and men too. Unless it is done forcefully, I think women have the upper hand in preventing this by how they behave and their behaviour. Wasalam
Administrator
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August 17, 2005
Of coarse. You summed it up beautifully Sister. Typical medieval Islamic oppressive philosophy. You say you cover for protection but the truth is you must cover because women are , at the root evil, and must be covered and hidden so that men might be protected from having sexual thoughts and whatnot. No matter what the argument in favor of hijab at the base is a deeply ingrained process of teaching young girls that it is their fault if men are inappropriate or violent towards them. Terrorism.
ADMINISTRATOR: I thought you were looking to put yourself at peace with this subject but if you keep thinking like this not only is it not healthy for you but for your kids because you will pass this attitude onto them. The bottom line is that covering in the way that we do works. The chances of Muslim woman or a Nun being sexually attacked or abused in public is less likely than it is to happen to an uncovered female. Men have programmed themselves to believe that uncovered women are approchable. In their approach they may act inappropriately whether it be a flirtatious eye, that touch on the shoulder, even if it may come accross to you as subtle; we don't want any part of it.
hijab=terrorism
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August 18, 2005
Hijab=Terrorism, Islam exaults the status of females and therefore seeks to protect us from any sort of minor "annoyances " seen by many females today as okay between themselves and men who are strangers or aquaintances. We do not subscribe to the theological belief that women are inherently "evil" and a source of provocation to men. We are each equally responsible for our own actions in this life. The fact is, men are by nature more physical and sexual than most women (there is quite a bit of scientific research out there in support of this fact). If a woman chooses not to be subjected to the sort of "attention" that most women who do not cover themselves (and may dress modestly) find themselves receiving, then what is wrong with her taking a proactive stance and making the decision to wear hijab? It works. I have lived my life with hijab and without. The differences in how most men respond to me is amazing. I like the level of respect that I receive. I do not understand why this bothers you so. The wearing of hijab is a choice that women in this free society are blessed to have the option to make. It is just as wrong for you to judge our choice as it would be for us to judge your decision not to cover. I respect your choice. I am not your judge. I only ask the same of you. You seem to be rather knowledgable about Islam, but somehow your personal feelings and judgements of women who choose to wear hijab have become rooted in the unfortunate events of 911 and subsequent events. Do you understand that Muslims were victims in these attacks as well? There are many Muslim families from the 911 tragedy to the London attacks who have suffered the loss of loved ones like all of the other victims. You may be interested to know that many sisters cover of their own conviction even though fiances, husbands, parents, extended family members, and communities around them dissaprove. This is the characteristic of an independent woman who makes her own choices based on that which is best for her. I do not stand in judgement of your beliefs, even if you beliefs are rooted in distain toward me. God is the only One qualified to judge. I only pray for truth to prevail, if it be Allah's will. May Allah bless all of our efforts to spread truth and tolerance in the midst of confusion and misunderstanding.
Kimberly
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August 18, 2005
I have been reading the posts lately and it seems that there is one person here that has some deep psychological issues. My father is a psychologist and I studied psychology as well. I think its best that we not reply to the one that is called '=terror'. Some people, who have a lot of complex and hurtful issues in their own life in an attempt to forget, attack others. This typically is not a good method because the root of the psychological problems are not being addressed. Not only are they not addressed the issues can actually worsen as the individual gets more agitated. Some of the favorite issues are ones in which the individual has little to no power to change the situation. In this case the 'situation' is the growth and prevalence of Islam. The best course of action is to ignore the person’s behavior, as no response will quench their thirst for satisfaction or happiness. Perhaps this can be a sort of charity on our part. This may allow 'the terror' to subside and confront the deep and complex problems they have.
ADMINISTRATOR: Asalamu alaikum ya tawba and thanx for your response and you do raise a good point. However, I think its worth it to give it a try for the sake of Da3wa. I think we may have led her to a better understanding of why we wear hijab, even if she is still in dislike of it. Inshallah causing those who are in this state of mind, perhaps instilling a little common sense will get them to say "hmmmmmmm" ;) Wasalam
Tawba
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August 18, 2005
CHET_NUN
Dear readers, I just dropped by and found all these posts. I cannot read them all, but hope that the one called "hijab=terrorism" will see my testimony at http://jocah.beckah.com
We all are being forced to look at women's private parts barely covered, making men suffer extreme temptation to sin. What, do you not read the Christian Scriptures saying, "The wages of sin is death"? Please cover up ladies!
Jocah
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August 18, 2005
True, I agree with all you have said Deneer. Everyone responded very clearly and even if '=terror' was not listening Allah hu Alem your answers may have helped another visitor to this message board. You (muslimas) are my sisters Peace be with all of you.
"Well pleased am I with Allah as my Lord,
with Islam as my religion,
and with Muhammad (PBUH) as my prophet"
Tawba
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August 18, 2005
Asalaamu 3laikum,
I have been wearing hijab for about a year now and I feel like I want to take it off. I have been have uneasy feelings, Im tired of people staring at me like I am an alien or something., people commenting under their breath. Living in USA and wearing hijab I dont receive the same opportunities when it comes to finding a job or internships. Its troubling me...but i cannot talk to anyone about it because I feel ashamed. What should i do?
ADMINISTRATOR: Wa alaikum salam sister. Lets think back to the time where you were not wearing hijab. What kind of verbal remarks did you receive and /or questions. How did you feel when you found verbally and physically friendly with you. How did you feel when men looked at you with an alterior sexual motive? How did you feel when girls would start making perverted jokes around you about somethign they saw on television or at a party. How did you feel when girls would talk around you of how hammered they got the night before and would enjoin you in their conversation to see if you've experienced anythign similar. How did you feel when your work clients would go out to a bar to celebrate something or to hang out and would invite you along too having to refuse. How did you feel when you got that touch on the shoulder or on your back from a guy that just passes by you or says hi to you. How did you feel when a guy said hi to you when you don't answer back leaving the person confused and asking why you didn't answer back. Now ask yourself..is that where you want to be..and do you think the God would bless any career you persue in this life without you wearing hijab? Please remember that every day a woman goes outside not wearing hijab she is telling her Rabb(Allah s.w.t.) "No I will not wear hijab because I don't believe it is better for me even though you say so in the blessed Quran". Just take a moment to think about it. This is a test sister and the question is..will you let yourself fail or pass? jazakallahu khairan and wasalam
Manal
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August 19, 2005
Aslam O Alekum Sisters,
I have been wearing hijab almost for more than ten yrs now and i try to cover my hair as well as my chest. As i believe that hijab is not only covering hair but also to cover all attractive parts. Now a days many girls and women cover their hair with hijab and make knot at back. It look nice but their bossoms r not as covered as it should be. I need some suggestions to wear hijab that can cover most and also look nice. I donot wear jilbaba but i wear loose cloths or jean with long shirt. Jazakallah for this web site, I like it very much.
Wasslam Aleykum Aisha from USA
Aisha
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August 20, 2005
Dear Administrator, Thank you for the kind words. This discussion has indeed been enlightening and a blessing in ways I never expected. All Praise to Him! I will give a little time in hopes of receiving an answer from someone regarding modern Muslim teachings on the readiness of young Muslim girls for sexual intercoarse who have begun to menstruate. Then, as previously stated and a sign of goodwill I will post a final entry to this discussion provided it be left intact and without the bolded remarks that make it kind of difficult for someone to read.
hijab-terrorism
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August 20, 2005
For Tawba: Thank you for the free assessment of my mental health and concern for my psychological wellness. My husband and I got quite a chuckle out of it! I suppose I do have complex psychological issues, but only the happy, good kind! :) Please do not worry yourself over my state of agitation as I have no desire to strap explosives to my body and blow myself and a bunch of innocent people up at the local market. That others are moving into my community, quite realistically, may have this agenda is very well is my concern. Remember that the Jewish families who survived Hitler's wrath intact were those who left early at the minor, intial signs of trouble though they were considered incredibly stupid and ignorant at the time by others for doing so. Americans have been given an extreme and unprecedented warning and you can better believe my family and thousands of others will do what it takes to protect ourselves. If you want to talk psychology this is called self-preservation. Your assessment that the "growth and prevalance of Islam" is my issue of my agitation that I am using to cover another deep personal issue not correct. More correct would be that the "prevalance and growth of extreme, radical and dangerous versions of Islam that is a major threat to me, my family and countrymen" is my issue of agitation. And you better believe it is deep and it is personal.
hijab=terrorism
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August 20, 2005
"=terrorism":
That's fine if you want to protect yourself from being a victim of terrorism, but don't bring Islam into it. You seem like an intelligent woman, so don't act like the other ignorant people who eat what the media feeds them. Islamic scholars have already condemned all acts of terrorism as barbaric actions against the fundamental principles of Islam (I can provide links if you like, and these are very well-known, influential scholars who attest to this). As to the terrorism itself, I have stated that Islam is out of context, so do not say it is a protection from "various forms of Islam". Nearly all acts of terrorism are politically motivated, be it the war in Iraq, or for vengence. Blaming jihad is no longer acceptable, as a major scholar has already declared that suicide bombers and other people who inflict harm upon others are not to be considered as martyrs and should be abhorred rather than admired. If Sister Deneer allows me, I'd like to post the link to the article. Finally, instead of smearing the image of Islam in every direction when violence occurs, one should keep in mind that, like I mentioned previously, Irish rebels are Catholics yet no one smears their religion, and what happened in Palestine on the Gaza strip could very much look like another holocaust on the Jewish Isreali behalf, yet that is censored too. Face it, we live in a Western society where the government controls what is shown on T.V. before it is released, and that's why Islam has been ostricized. Hijab is not the reason for violence, nor is it the outcome of it. Tony Blair said after the July 7 London bombings that over 80% of the Muslim community are "well-behaved, decent, law-abiding citizens of whom [we] owe much to." (or something similar to that, I can provide links to that too). Instead of blaming the religion and possibly lowering that percentage, let us work together to stop the tainting of religion. I'm sure Allah would want that most, rather than being disdainful upon those that follow His commands. Once again, I sincerely apologize if I seem rude in any way, and may we all work together to bring about a society of peace, where sisters can choose to wear hijab and be modest regardless of religion, and not feel alienated.
On another note, did any sisters experience hair loss after wearing hijab? I've been wearing hijab for 8 months now, and ever since the beginning I have lost lots of hair (more than usual). I don't have bald spots of anything, but my once thick hair is now thinning. Did any sisters experience this, and is there some kind of corrective treatment/shampoo I could use to prevent more from happening? Jazakum Allah Khair.
Vanessa
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August 21, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister vanessa and you do have permission to post the links and thanx for asking. What material of hijabs do you wear and are they cotton. Perhaps you have a sensitivity to non natural materials..or are wearing it to tight...whats your situation?..wasalam
Administrator
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August 21, 2005
As salaamu alaikum, Sister Vanessa:
I have heard that products with biotin work. I think that you can even take it in a vitamin form as a supplement. If the Administrator's suggestions regarding the matirial/tightness of the scarf are not a remedy, you may check with a dermatologist. Insha'Allah you will be able to remedy this situation with ease.
Kimberly
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August 21, 2005
Hello everyone...my question is about the roll of Jesus (PBUH) in Islam. Is he considered the Messiah? Was he nailed to the cross? Did he die and reserect once already? isnt that what they celebrate Easter for? Im very confused about this right now. I was talking with a Jewish person hearing their accounts on him and then I was thinking back to what I had been taught as a Christian as a child and then what I learned through Islam and now Im so confused. Could somebody please explain to me all of this? Thanks for your help
ADMINISTRATOR: Thank you for your question. As a reverted muslim this is what i've learnt about the prophet Jesus(Esa) peace be upon him. I will answer your questions in sequence inshallah. The roll of Jesus in Islam, is that he was sent to convey the message of Tawheed, that there is only one God who is to be worshipped. Unfortunately the message he gave, was misunderstood where Christians claim him to be God and pray to him, and in the theory of the trinity(God/the son/the holy spirit). He is not considered the "Messiah", which is a jewish term, but the Jewish faith should have taken him in as an authentic messenger of God. Instead those of the Jewish faith took Jesus's words for jest, instead of warning. Because of this..they are still waiting for their "Messiah", when Allah s.w.t. already advises us that Muhammad is the last and final messenger of God. So they are waiting for someone who will never come. But Jesus will return before the last day. As for the claim that Jesus was nailed and died on the cross, it did not happen and the Quran clarifies this for us. The Quran advises us that the Quran was created to correct the messages interpreted from before by other messengers and complete how God wants us to go about our daily lives before the last day. The Quran advises us that Jesus(as) was not nailed to the cross and killed, and that God put someone else in his place from one who opposed his message, and made him look like Jesus (as). This makes sense to us because Allah s.w.t. saved all his messengers from Turmoil. For example (Noah and the ark, Jonah and the wale, Moses and the red sea, Jesus and the cross, Muhammad s.a.w. and the cave).And yes this is what the Christians celebrate easter for. As for Christmas, they celebrate it for the birthday of Jesus, when he was not born on December 25th. If you have additional questions don't hesitate to ask. We don't believe Jesus is the son of God because it simply does not make sense that God would even need a son. God is great, and all mighty and unique, and he is much to powerful and great to beget a son, nor would it support his uniqueness, having a human version of himself. Jesus was begotten by the virgin Mary, but prophet Adam was created without a father and mother but yet he is seen as lower in heirarchy than Jesus(as). IN short, it does not make sense that Jesus could be the son of God. In addition, there is reasonable doubt that the Bible is an authentic book and the word of God simply because it is not in its original condition and language. The book that God sent with Jesus is called the "Tawra", but because the text was not protected from change, the message Jesus conveyed in that time, also changed. However the Quran, is originally written in arabic, and remains in arabic and never changed because Allah s.w.t. advises us that the Quran is complete and is protected. Some non muslim websites create misleading writings trying to dilute the Quran, by posting untrue online. Because the words of the Quran makes sense, and is the word of God because no human being can ever write or create a text similar to what is found in it, Islam is found to be the fastest growing religion in the world. Hope this helped..wasalam(peace!)
Wondering
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August 22, 2005
Dear Wondering,
Muslims believe Jesus (AS) once existed, and place a lot of emphasis on his teachings of love and kindness and piety, but we do not consider him as the Son of God. A fundamental element of Islam is the submission to the one and only God. This is such a crucial part of our religion that it is repeated several times in the Qur'an. We believe Jesus (AS) was a prophet born of the virgin Mary, one of many, many prophets (I think it is 124,000, but do not quote me on that). We believe that, like the prophets Moses (AS), Abraham (AS) and Mohammed (SAW), he was only a messenger to the people. There are many things in both the Bible and the Qur'an to suggest that, given his actions towards women in an era of mysogyny, and his method of prayer being close to that of Muslims. Muslims also believe that Prophet Jesus had his own Gospel, which was lost to mankind. Hope this helps a bit, peace be with you.
Vanessa
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August 22, 2005
As to the issue I'm facing, I tend to wear Chiffon/polyester headscarves with a cotton underscarf. However, because of my work and school, I can wear hijab from 6 am till 9:30 pm on some days, with my hair tied in a low bun. I think it could also be that I lack iron and protein in my diet, because of my hectic schedule, I am trying to fix that. Thank you Sister Kimberly, I will try the botin supplement. Jazakullah!
Aug 26 - 'H=T', Sorry for not responding earlier. I think the real misunderstanding between us hijaabis/niqaabis and the secular community (besides feminism and human rights) is that Muslims deal with day-to-day dealings in an esoteric, spiritual way, seeing everything as the will of Allah. I see this often, even and sometimes especially among converts, where the Muslim becomes too involved in this Dunya (life) and not in the next. The point is not to get sucked into this life so as to forget the spiritual part of it, and many Muslims get involved in the political aspects of Islam (such as whether such an action or food is haram, or prohibited, or which sect of Islam one is connected to, etc). It is easy to fall off a spiritual high, but one should remember that those things cannot take priority above worship and reflection of Allah (this is not to be taken offense by anyone here, Muslim or not, and this applies equally and especially to me).
As to the point of hijaab and the 15 sisters in Saudi Arabia, let me make two comments based off my knowledge of scholars and their fatwas (religious rulings, some good scholars can be found at www.islamonline.net). 1) a sister, while it is desireable for her to wear hijaab, if the situation requires it, she may remove it and pray to Allah for forgiveness. Allah did command us to be modest and not make wanton displays of ourselves, and let's admit that's difficult in such a vain society, but He doesn't want to make life difficult. A close friend of mine once said that while Islam was beautiful, it was also practical and flexible. 2) in Saudi Arabia, the political and cultural expectations tend to override true Islam. Given the ideal Islamic society, there would be no need for shariah, because everyone would obey Allah. There would be no need for clothing police, because everyone would make their best efforts to dress modestly. However, such a society is only an ideal, and impossible for humans to accomplish, so that is why (in my opinion, atleast) Allah provided a basis of Shariah. Also, in my opinion, Saudi Arabia implemented the Shariah with its own agenda, altering it to its desire. That is not true Shariah either. Muslims believe that the best Islamic society was that of Prophet Muhammed (pbuh)'s migration and settlement in Medinah. For an idea of what it was like, there are many websites describing it.
Finally, with reference to your question of marrying menstruating women, the point is that when a woman has her age of menstruation she is permissible to marry off. In the times of ignorance in pre-Islamic Arabia, women had no rights and were married off very young, if they weren't buried alive. Allah has now given a basis of when the permissible age of marrying is, but that doesn't make it necessary to marry at that age. Such enforcement, if implemented, is unIslamic, as the consent of the woman is necessary for a valid marriage. Also, remember that societies with strong Christian values up until fairly recently (mid 1950's, I suppose) married their daughters at about 14 and began begetting children. Social and cultural values are often mistaken for religious values. We should not make that mistake.
I end this discussion here, if there's anything else, please don't hesitate to e-mail me (my address is above). Please forgive any incoherencies, I typed this quickly. Peace be with you all, Muslims and non-Muslims alike.
Vanessa
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August 22, 2005
As-salaamu alaykum! Very interesting site.As for wearing hijab, unfortunately, in my line of work,Law enforcement, hijab is not part of the uniform. My conversion was fairly recent and I find that I am very comfortable wearing hijab while off duty. When I run across old friends who are not aware of my religion change I find they think it strange. Why would I cover myself in this heat? Stuff like that.They seem to think I am choosing to oppress myself as a woman. They dont understand. My father seemed to think I joined some kind of cult! Although he is getting use to it.
Salwa
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August 23, 2005
It was just reported moments ago that Iraqi women are full of anger as the interim government has just issued it's new constitution which states there will be no law above Islamic law, thus indicating Sharia laws will be in place and all the terrors experienced by woman through the implementation of such laws will continue to exist post Saddam Hussein. What do you Muslims living in a free society have to say to the extreme dissapointment of these sisters?
hijab=terrorism
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August 23, 2005
Salaamu alaykum For those who are always checking the chat room, I plan to enter chat most days between noon and 3pm. I really would like to chat with other muslimas, exchange information and get support and advise. So, if anyones interested there ya go.
Salwa
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August 23, 2005
I think that as long as the sharia is implemented and does not include other extra rules not advised by the Quran is Extreme. Like how the taliban hit women in the streets..is just obserd....Allah s.w.t. does not favor those who transgress the limits already set for his creation. As a result of the reform in Afganistan now women are walking amongst the streets uncovered which is wrong..they just wanna do whatever they want and have forgotten their religion.
Administrator
on
August 23, 2005
So it i o.k. with you if a man wants to get a divorce it is easy as pie but if a woman wants to get a divorce it is made extremely difficult, she may receive nothing and her children may be given to the father and his family while she is cast out penniless irregardless of the reasons for wanting a divorce such as verbal and physical abuse?
ADMINISTRATOR: In Islam, the woman has a right to divorce with good reason for example if she is not obtaining her rights in Islam. The husband may have a character flaw, or is not supportive financially and is mistreating her. As long as her reasons support a violation of her islamic rights, it is not difficult for her to divorce. As far as what happens to her financial situation, I think she is basically on her own to support herself. The kids would be financially supported by the father although they would stay with the mother. He would be responsible for providing shelter, food and clothing for the kids.I can admit that once it comes to divorce our judicial system is more feasible, but on the other hand it allows people to divorce for no reason, which is bad. In Islam, you cannot divorce unless you have a good reason because divorce is most disliked by Allah s.w.t.
hijab=terrorism
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August 23, 2005
I guess it is ok with you that a women who becomes pregnant as a result of rape must "prove" that she was raped by getting a certain number of men to testify on her behalf. If this is not accomplished then she is considered a liar and must face consequences not only for the pregnancy but also for telling lies. I guess this is o.k. as long as she is wearing her hijab. This is the same thought that allowed the 15 girls to die in the school fire in Mecca (the Holiest of Islamic places)in 2002 because it is was better that they die than to come out of the building without their hijab. Hijab=terrorism. There isn't anything extreme about it. This very well IS sharia as practiced worldwide to the terror of all women forced to live in these places.
ADMINISTRATOR: It definately unfortunate if a person is not dealt with justly due to a lack of evidence. There are alot of women and men who go through hardship at the cause of their surroundings. In the end Allah s.w.t. is the final judge, so for those who were found guilty in world, and were actually innocent and held fast to their responsibilities in Islam, the would get their rewards which is whats promised to us. Inshallah the God will not let us face hardship in our lives and in this life...
hijab=terrorism
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August 23, 2005
Easy to say from someone living and earning a living in CANADA!!!
ADMINSISTRATOR: I asked my husband about the divorce issue and he said in a case of a wife wanting divorce who has a good reason, she can do so and the father would be required to provide sustinance to the kids(shelter, food, clothing). It is haram for her kids to be taken away from her just because she wants a divorce. Elhamdulilah. For those who are treated unjustly it is a result of misguided judgement, which has no basis in Islam
hijab-terrorism
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August 23, 2005
Vanessa and/or Kimberly
Are you reading this?
Do you understand the horror of what you have just read? In any case, you both seem interested in answering questions so I will ask you directly : 1.) Why do you think thousands of women who thought they were on the cusp of experiencing true equality and human dignity in Islam in Iraq are crying buckets of tears tonight?
hijab=terrorism
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August 23, 2005
Well, Hijab=Terrorism, you are correct when referencing the dissatisfaction of sisters in Iraq and many other war torn Islamic nations. There are some unfortunate conditions forced upon many women in these countries. However, we must be careful of looking at the situation as "black or white." There are many atrocities taking place in Iraq at this time. There are Muslim countries with corupt governments. I don't think anyone is surprised by this fact. Saddam was a dictator who was very much caught up in the dunya and it's material trappings. Because of this weakness, he was trained, paid and used by more powerful nations (America?) during a time when his services were needed. As Sister Vanessa stated much earlier when these discussions began, Muslims are human just as everyone else, and suject to commit sins. Islam is like any other religion in that it is comprised of true followers of the faith and those who go astray. Many humans become victim to their worldly desires and go astray. Many of these countries have taken the Sharia Laws and maniputated them to accomodate their own agenda. This is not right. This is not true Islam. These women are angry for many more reasons than the news cast you happened to catch conveyed. They were living in terrible conditions. The U. S. stepped in. They got rid of Saddam. They decided to institute a democratic government in a country that is under Sharia Law (democracy encourages separation of church and state, Sharia includes the Islamic way of life -religion is a part of EVERYTHING). Things were bad, but if we are going by what the media is offering to us, when I see broadcasts about Iraq, it doesn't seem that much better. There is still chaos, people are wondering why troops are still there, etc, etc. No one is arguing that the regime in Iraq was corrupt and Islamicly incorrect on many levels. But the shock to this nation has had a tremendous impact. Earlier in the summer, a sister from Iraq was on Oprah explaining that over 60% of Iraqis are now addicted to Valium because they are in such a state of depression over the conditions of the country since the war began.. They are able to get this drug for $.25 a bottle! These people only have power for maybe three hours a day in unbearable heat. Many people just want to sleep as a way of escaping. I never saw this being broadcast on the news. Now I don't know who's supplying the drug to the counrty, but I'm pretty sure with the way the exclusive way in which the pharmacuetical industry is run, it's not being manufactured in Irag... But there is my opinion for you: Islam is clear about the many rights and prividges given to women. Country's like Afganistan (not allowing women to get an education during Taliban rule) are in violation of those rights. Read, do research on the history of Islam. Women were quite important and prolific in our history. This is a trial for Islam and Insha'Allah we will get through it. We must remember our brothers and sisters who suffer around the world often and make duaa for them. I hope that I have answered your question.
Kimberly
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August 24, 2005
Kimberly, Thank you for your timely and thoughtful response. My husband and I are not Bush supporters nor are 48% of the American public. I saw the Oprah show you referenced and agree that an enviroment so awful that people feel the need to medicate themselves to survive is truly upsetting. I don't know what media you have where you live but we see regular reports of the infrastructure problems that are making life unbearable. I also understand that intensive and daily efforts by Iraqi citizens, citizens of free nations who have brought specialized and heavy equipment to help as well as the U.S, U.K. and other militery efforts are being heavily thwarted by Muslim insurgents. Every person working to repair a road, power line, restore plumbing or build water treatment facilites are risking their life every second of every day. I do not understand, however, how this all relates to the fact that the women of Iraq have been dealt a painful blow as to what they can expect in their future.
hijab=terrorism
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August 24, 2005
this answer is to 'CURIOUS NIQABI'.The sister asked how a man can see a niqabi if he wants to marry her?well if the man wants to ask for her hand in marriage then obviously he can come to see her face,but her mehram i.e bro or father has to be there aswell.cuz the prophet s.a.w stated "when a man and woman are alone,shaitan is a 3rd".so he can see her face.what happens after that is up to Allah s.w.a.well im not married yet lol so i dont know the experience.inshaAllah all muslimahs get pious spouses ameen ya rab.inshaAllah may Allah give our mujahideen bros victory and all muslims that are sufferin patience and happiness ameen Allahumma ameen.fi amanAllah was salaam
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niqabi mujahidah (world_peace_1999@hotmail.com)
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August 24, 2005
Niquabi: Thank you for another beautiful illustration. A niquabi may be wearing her garb to avoid annoyances and to not be viewed as a sex object. (Recognizing this may be forced in her society, family, or particular community.) In the end, the enormous irony is that she will be taken by her father or brother to be viewed by a strange man as to whether or not he finds her sexually pleasing before a marriage contract is drawn between the families and she is whisked away to become the mans own, personal sex object. How anybody in free society would argue that women who face this on a daily basis throughout the word is anything other than revolting, gross, and unacceptable is beyond me. Hijab, I am learning even more than I thought, truly equals terrorism.
hijab=terrorism
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August 24, 2005
Vanessa, Please pay particular attention to Kimberly's last entry. She is correct and rightly states that in Islam EVERYTHING must be viewed from the point of Islamic law and other teachings. Islam is concerned with every detail of ones life down to their defecation (wudu) and the passing of gas. Earlier you stated that I should not pass judgement based on politics. The problem is in true Islam there is no such thing as a separation of religion from politics. They are one and the same. There are countless bloody political conflicts occurring all around the globe because of this idea. The idea that they should be separated is a judeo-christian concept that is considered highly objectionable and anti-Islamic. Anybody who is telling you different is doing you a grave disservice and giving you poor Islamic training.
hijab=terrorism
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August 24, 2005
niqab was the practise of our beloved prophet s.a.w's wifes.were more libeated than western women can ever be,selling themselves to men,we wear niqab cuz we love our lord,its a command from god,not man so please learn more about islam!!!!fi amanAllah my muslim sistas was salaam
niqabi mujahidah
on
August 24, 2005
Correction: the idea that religion ought to be practiced freely and independantly from government is a secular, political idea that is practiced primarily in countries with a judeo-christian background.
hijab=terrorism
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August 24, 2005
on every website there is always one aint there.on this website the pathetic woman/man comes in the form of hijab=terror.this woman/man wants women to prance without clothing in the streets.theres some sickos on the internet aint there.mind you,its the only place they can voice thier opinion cuz no one knows who they are!sad people truly!!!!!!
niqabi mujahidah
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August 24, 2005
if your a christian,you should be awarethat in christianity women are commanded to cover thier hair aswell,as to in judaism.but how many christian orthodox woman are there nowadays,i can count them on me finger looooooool
niqabi mujahidah
on
August 24, 2005
The previous statement is purely political/historical. Please make no extrapulation that I am trying to push either Judaism or Christianity. I am not.
hijab=terrorism
on
August 24, 2005
i want to know one thing why do you hate he hijab?pray tell?
niqabi mujahidah
on
August 24, 2005
Wow! I am trying to think of a single time that I ever sold myself? Nope, nothing comes to mind. My mother and both of my grandmothers were married to their husbands for life and were school teachers. They did not sell their bodies either. And as to the second asssertion, I have traveled widely around my country and even abroad and I have never, not one single time, had the experience of seeing a naked woman running down the street. The closest thing I can think of is the famous picture of the little girl in Viet Nam during the Viet Nam war running down the street and has thrown off all her clothes because she was burning from chemicals. But, just like the 15 girls in Saudia Arabia who were allowed to die in the school fire rather than come out of the school without hijab (2002) I suppose in the laws of Islam she should've kept those burning clothes on, died, and reaped her reward in heaven. Instead, guess what? She lived!
hijab=terrorism
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August 24, 2005
Niquabi, The answer to your question can be found easily by scrolling back to my August 16th entry and reading forward from there.
hijab=terrorism
on
August 24, 2005
I'm baffled to see how much commentary h=t has to say on the subject of Islam. I wonder what's her story..and why so much hate? Something tells me she was muslim at one time in her life but later left it..or dated a muslim guy who tried to get her to wear hijab but left him because of it. No unbelieving woman just wakes up one day and starts reading a whole bunch of Islamic propoganda on the net out there written by Christians or people of other faiths. I just seems weird she's so wrapped up in this!
Administrator
on
August 24, 2005
Salamu Alaikum, As a new muslimah who used to look very forward to my daily readings here, I must say that I am saddened and a bit frustrated to be met by such a continual debate on this forum. Praying for peace and understanding for all.
ADMINISTRATOR: Wa alaikum salam feeling sad...Allah ma3ki inshallah:) h=t started out pretty harsh in the beginning with curse words and insults, but because she's toned down her language I've decided to keep her comments on the board. My goal is to help people gain a better understanding other side..and inshallah let the other side finally understand us and that we truly mean no harm to anyone and believing muslims and muslimahs are honest law abiding citizens. Jazakallahu khairan and wasalam;)
Feeling Sad.....
on
August 24, 2005
administrator sis i think you are right!she must have had some muslim do something to her or summat!why so much hate for the fastest spreadin religion in the world!we muslimahs wil never take our hijab/niqabs off because it is our lords command.you watch to much propaganda against muslims.personally i feel sorry for you.may i ask what religion you belong to?
niqabi mujahidah
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August 24, 2005
i cant be bothered of reading your posts,i would much rather worship my lord,but i know people of your ilk,yur just full of hate,you are very naive and are easily led judging by what you think of muslim women.so how do you wnat us to dress?like your westernised women?man if you hate hijabis you will totaly despice niqabis innit?to tel you the truth you are just an ignorant woman and Allah says in the qur'an those who are jahil (ignorant)dont talk to them.now iv explained but you still dont listen so bye bye
niqabi mujahidah
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August 24, 2005
Asalamu alaikum You know as they say "You can't please everybody". Remember if you encounter someone who questions why you wear your covering, or looks down on it, reacting in anger or annoyance will only fuel the fire. Instead respond in a in respect and use it as and opportunity to make Da3wa to Allah s.w.t. Hey..we can't change em all eh', but perhaps we'll get them to ponder for even a moment:) In regard to h=t's final comments, we will no longer be posting these comments because we have provided ample information to inshallah sway this persons way of thinking. But it is time to say enough is enough. If she wishes to continue the conversation with those who have publicly volunteered their email addresses then she may do so at her own will inshallah. Jazakallahu Khairan and wa alaikum salam
Administrator
on
August 24, 2005
well i was nice to her but u cnt talk much to some one whos ignorant,insulting islam is different then wanting to know about it.well may Allah s.w.a giv her hidayag inshaAllah,(n who knows the next time she posts on here she'll be a muslim :-).make du'a for our mujahideen bros and muslims world wide ameen ya rab.fi amanAllah was salam
dont make me be the bad one out of all this,im just a teenage kid tyrna make myself the best muslim.u were insulting my religion and when someone does that i get very insulted.u wer mocking the way of the niqab,the garment that our beloved umm-ul-muimeen (mothers of the believers)and inshaAllah if you wnat to learn more about islam then subhanAllah im happy for you.please forgove me if i hurt u in anyway.may Allah guide you.fi amanAllah was salaam
ADMINISTRATOR: Wa alaikum salam lil' niqabi. I can appreciate how frustrating it can be when one feels violated by what one says. And it is a test from Allah s.w.t. to see who's actions will be better of the two. Despite the anger you feel inside you at the time, and instead of resorting to name calling, you can communicate your root message without it. Allah kheleeki and wasalam
NIQABI: ukhti administrator,i asked her for forgiveness yet i dont seee wht i did was wrong,if someone insults your religion clarify it for them,nevertheless fee sabeelillah i asked her for 4givness cuz she insinuated i was 'CRUEL'lol,thats funny coming from someone who is calling the hijab terror!neways as it says in the qur'an Whoever Allah guides, there is none that can misguide him, and whoever He misguides, there is none that can guide him fi amanAllah
ADMINISTRATOR: wasalam..it is true that in anger we tend to say things and then forget them. she may have read your postings before i edited them to not include the labelling. It's better to keep the conversation constructive because your root message will have a better chance of being listened to. But if you react in anger and label the other person..then it will only anger them as well and fortify their assumptions.
niqabi mujahidah
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August 25, 2005
Oh Sister! Now I am so dissappointed in you! I have been thinking of my final post, as promised, I was just waiting for someone to answer my question regarding the practice of considering young girls ready for marriage and thus, sexual intercoarse at the start of menstruation as practiced by muslims in a great many places around the world. I just told my husband last night that I actually believe you, and the ones called Kimberly and Vanessa were legetimate and have a genuine desire to know God. I wanted to say this at my final post and tell you I actually think you are kind of cool. I was admiring you for your gentle and fair attitude. Over this entire conversation the only person that has said anything personally cruel toward anyone was the niquabi. the on e who is supposed to be the most pious of us all! And then I find your final posts. I am so very disappointed. I really liked you, Sister.
hijab=terrorism
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August 25, 2005
Asalamu alaikum all, has any one realized proofs in this life that fortify the fact that there is an ultimate Creator? As you probably already know, at one point in my life, I didn't believe in God. I made myself ignorant and said to myself "as long as I work hard for something, I can accomplish it". I remember I was 18 years old at the time, and I was taking Calculus in Highschool in grade 13 or a.k.a. what used to be called O.A.C. I wanted to get an "A" really bad, and I can remember times when I actually stopped myself from making a prayer to God to help me get that "A". And I would say to myself "I don't need any help, and I control my destiny". How silly eh'. Later on I realized how silly this way of thinking was and eventually reverted to Islam. So the reason I asked the question above because only recently I've realized other facts in Islam that fortify the fact that it is the truth. Today I was watching the news, and could you believe (don't get grossed out now;)) that they said maggots are used as a healing agent for hard to heal wounds for diabetic patients. To think only a day ago, I thought this species didn't have a purpose other than ending up in unwanted places or being eaten for a gross challenge on a reality show...ahaha. I'm sure there's other interesting things in this life that can be used to heal many diseases in this life. Hmmmm skunk spray, jellyfish ink, pigeon poop! I know it sounds kinda funny..but imagine if pigeon poop were the cure for Cancer! Another one is the dead sea and proof that a city actually died under there. The high salt content in the dead sea came from the bodies who died, building, food, that all of which contain salt! Mashallah, we have a creator who is Allah s.w.t., and he is great. Jazakumallahu khairan, and wa alaikum salaaam!
Administrator
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August 26, 2005
brilliant post ukhti administrator
niqabi mujahidah
on
August 26, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! Heyyyy forgot to mention...I finally got my G1 which is way long over due. Also started driving school last week and could you believe the first driving lesson I got to be in the driver seat! I was so excited about that. My teacher also told me that I was the best first time driver ever, because most first time drivers with no experience wobble on the road and can't keep the car straight. Thanks to my dad eh'. he used to let me steer the car while in the front passenger seat when I was only 6 years old. I got to do turns and everything. So I guess you can say I had some experience because it really paid off;) I did read through the driving book about 3 times and it cost 14 bucks eh'. So maybe 2 days before the test..I figured "I'm ready!". I was so excited to take the test and finally get my G1. Then when searching on google I stumbled upon this awesome website for those studying for their G1 test. It's called www.readytodrive.com. So what you do is pay only $19.95 for almost 400 test questions in multiple choice and visual format. Wow was it worth it! When i did some test questions before taking the test, you wouldn't believe the amount I got wrong...hehehe..and I thought I studied enough using the book too. And quite frankly, I don't even need the book, and that site is the all you need one stop to Acing your G1 test;) So I took the test and Aced it and I got only 2 wrong...woo hoo! I didn't know what parking lights were, and the yeild sign does. Anyway...I'm gonna get my G2 inshallah in 8 months and get a peach colored car too with "The Canadian Muslim.ca" written all over it;) Take care and wasalam!
Administrator
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August 26, 2005
aww good for u ukhti,my mum and dad are telling me to get me provisional so i can drive aswell but i dunno yet cuz im in niqab and all im sort of scared lol.especially the sort of abuse you mite get and that will make you even more nervous lol.neways tk sistas fi amanAllah was salam
niqabi mujahidah
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August 26, 2005
Wasalam..i'm feelin ya girl...haha When i told my mom last week that i'm going for my first driving lesson she was like "take that dumb thing off your head so you can see where you're going"...like she's making fun of me or somethin'. I said to her "ma don't be silly i can see where i'm goin'". I don't know where i picked the habit up,...but i call my mom "maa" now...:) It was also funny last week when my plan was to get my dad to let me drive his van for the first time..coz you know i wanna get as much exposure to the road before my driving test. My sister was there too, and she's shy once it comes to asking my dad for favors, like money or something she needs help in. So i told her what i was gonna ask dad and said "now watch me make some magic";) What can I say...i got this way of asking for what i want from my dad and 99.9% he says yes..woo hoo! anyway....so..when my dad came over last weekend...I said to him that i needed a favor..and said "dad...you know how i'm growing up n' all, and experiencing the world, and making my social mark in society. Well dad, you know how i recently got my G1, and aced it with flying colors. 2 questions is all I got wrong by the way, out of a possible 40 questions. That calculates to about 96%. So dad, I need you to help me grow, I need you to be there for me as I discover the unknown, dad.....I need to drive your car." And there you have folks, the magic words, that got me a "yes" in driving my dads car last weekend. I turned to my sister and said...see..now thats how you gotta put it;) heheh She replied she would just say "dad i wanna drive your car"...but that will rarely work. I know my dad, and he's like me..he likes to hear the speech and hear reasoning. Like father like daughter eh'... wasalaaaM!
Administrator
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August 26, 2005
lol sis!im a bit like your sister,when it cumz to askin me dad for favours.but rigt now i want to concentrate on me allimah course then ill see if drivin is for me.neva rele sin meself as a driver prolly knok sum shop down to say the least loool.well in england they were gona make the age 21 to start drivin,i beta start fast or il have to wait another 2 years lol.fi amanAllah was salam
niqabi mujhaidah
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August 26, 2005
Hmm, Sista Deneer, I posted a blog recently and it hasn;t shown up T_T I'm too lazy to retype it though... don't remember all the points I had. Wa/salaam sisters!
ADMINISTRATOR: wasalam sister, it's pasted with your last posting
Vanessa
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August 27, 2005
>.< sorry... didn't notice.. oi
oh, by the way, any chance you'll be getting more of those sporty or plain-colored al-amira hijabs? My light blue one is so comfortable masha'Allah, but I'm looking for something for winter.
Vanessa
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August 27, 2005
Assalamu Alaikum.
my husband came to newyork last week.i was interested to get shaylas and hijabs from our store.he was asking me is there any outlet of our store in newyork or any other city in US.I want to know if we could get these items only thr`o online or do u have shops.if so pl let me know. wassalam regards, Rahila Kadher
ADMINISTRATOR: Wa alaikum salam sister. We only operate online. For those who live close by, we have a free pick up option for them. Wasalaam
Rahila kadher
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August 29, 2005
I LOVE TO WEAR HIJAB~!
Cute Hijabi
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August 31, 2005
[ADMINISTRATOR: In Islam, the woman has a right to divorce with good reason for example if she is not obtaining her rights in Islam. The husband may have a character flaw, or is not supportive financially and is mistreating her. As long as her reasons support a violation of her islamic rights, it is not difficult for her to divorce. As far as what happens to her financial situation, I think she is basically on her own to support herself. The kids would be financially supported by the father although they would stay with the mother. He would be responsible for providing shelter, food and clothing for the kids.I can admit that once it comes to divorce our judicial system is more feasible, but on the other hand it allows people to divorce for no reason, which is bad. In Islam, you cannot divorce unless you have a good reason because divorce is most disliked by Allah s.w.t.]
Salaam,
I wanted to respond to what sister Deneer said above. As I had understood it, when a Muslim couple divorces, if there are children, the husband must pay the child support, as Deneer stated above, but also he must provide support for the ex-wife until the children become self-sufficient adults, or until she remarries, at which point the new husband will be the one to support the ex-wife (I think! but better check that independently, ok?). No matter what, the ex-husband must support his children. Further details -- the ex-wife cannot even so much as entertain another marriage proposal until three months have passed from the day of her divorce. This is so it can be made certain whether or not she is pregnant by the ex-husband.(Remember, this was in the days before pregnancy and DNA testing, so nowadays it is a moot practice except in poor countries where pregnancy and DNA testing is not easily obtained.) If she proves to be not pregnant, then she may start looking for a new husband if she wishes it. Often, it is the practice for the divorced woman to move into the home of her leading male relative, whether that is her father, her brother, her uncle, whomever. Usually that takes care of how she will be supported, even if the ex-husband doesn't pay or cannot pay for her upkeep. And the final factoid I wanted to share with you is that the mother was permitted to keep all the children under the age of 12 with her, and when they reached their twelfth year, they went to live principally in the father's household. I'm sure they must've been allowed to visit their mother but the point is the father had full custody of them starting from age 12. If any of what I've said is incorrect, I welcome anyone to correct me and give me the evidence to prove it is wrong. Then I'll have learned something new, corrected my own misinformation, and renewed my understanding of Islamic law. :) Wa alaikum salaam
Sweet_Muslima
on
August 31, 2005
P.S. I read a bunch of the posts from "hijab=terrorism". I still haven't figured out which was her first posting, and I'm getting sleepy now (it's 1:00am for me - couldn't sleep because my husband just today left for Europe to finish his master's degree, and I'm already missing him!). I'll try to trace the original posting by hijab=terrorism maybe tomorrow. But for now, I can say, based on what I have read so far, that I agree with sister Deneer that its really weird how hung-up she is on the whole hijab issue. I don't think it is so likely that she dated a muslim or whatever. Personally I'm not interested in trying to imagine her past. I don't know her at all. You should not make speculations about an unknown person's past (or mental health) without any proof, as that is a form of gossip. Only thing I can say is, I find it interesting how she seems very fixated on the entire hijab concept. And just keeps hitting on that topic and hitting on it and hitting on it til it is starting to resemble a dead horse! However, that is not a reason to denounce her. I think it is a lot better to have someone asking all these questions (no matter how hostile they may sound), than asking none and simply assuming things without even at least trying to take their questions to a proper source. At least she was trying to talk to actual hijabis about her concerns. She wasn't always very tactful in the heat of her passionate typings, but, hey, that's why we have an administrator! To delete or edit postings with inappropriate language/content. By the way, sister Deneer, I agree with her that it was hard to read her postings when you are inserting your replies in between her sentences, in bolded text. I found that seriously annoying, because it seemed like a mixed up garbled message, like it was two different schizophrenic personalities arguing with each other within the same person's body! And then I made it to the bottom of the posting and got a clue what was going on when I read "Administrator: bolded". Then I had to reread it, this time picking out only the sentences belonging to hijab= terrorism, and then after that, reread it, that time picking out only sentences made by the administrator. That really wasted my time! I had to read the same posting thrice to get an understanding of what was being said. That said.... I think secretly, hijab=terrorism is feeling very pulled toward Islam but can't seem to get past the hijab/women's rights issue. If you're feeling pulled toward Islam, don't worry about the whole hijab thing! just give in to the call to Islam and figure out your stand on the hijab issue later! The best way to become Muslim is simply to stumble into it without a clue, and find your way from there! :) salaam alaikum to all!
ADMINISTRATOR: Wa alaikum salam. thanx for your comments in regard to previous topics but we really wish not to further discuss the issue in regard to what h=t was saying. Time to bring the positive vibe back to the blog eh' Thanx. wasalam
Sweet_Muslima
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August 31, 2005
P.P.S. sister Deneer, I thought I knew a lot of the signs of the Quran but I must have missed the ones you mentioned, namely: "the floating rock in Jerusalem, how the black rock in Mecca is in the centre of the earth"
Please could you explain about these to me? Or direct me to a site with information on these signs? Thanks in advance!
Sweet_Muslima
on
August 31, 2005
assalamu alaikum.
thankyou.insha-allah i plan to get an abaya and shayla in near future.
wassalam
RK
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September 1, 2005
As salamu alaikum
I want to comment on the entry of sister Salam from 5 August 2005.
Sister Salam, I congratulate you to your decision to get a divorce from your husband. As I read through your contribution, I kept exclaiming and laughing, because it was so obvious to me where all this would lead. The whole thing was sort of familiar to me. Get your divorce if you can, rather sooner than later. I was in a similar situation, plus lots of other issues, and I stayed because I thought that would be better for the children, and because I believed Islam required me to stay in any situation that does not harm me physically. I am now 52 and two of my three children are married, and the third about to be engaged.
All three children were harmed by living with their father in a ridiculous situation, and by seeing that their father and mother do not love one another. Every child in a different way.
After the marriage of my son (he was the second one to marry) I requested divorce from my husband. He made a big fuss, because it is a social "shame" to be divorced. It is no social shame to mistreat your wife, though. He finally gave me a paper entitling me to divorce myself, which unfortunately is worth nothing because he did not take care of paperwork as he should have when we were married, so that our documents are not valid where we live now. We would need to marry again to be able to divorce, and he will not go through the procedure, so, I am stuck. Make sure you get everything done and legal, because, dear sister, you may not think of remarrying just now, but you will in the future, be sure about that.
I also congratulate you to be able to separate Islam from what happened to you, because I have real problems doing that. I tried to obey Allah in staying on for the sake of the children, but as they grew up, I found life more and more unbearable, and I was just waiting for the day I would be free, only to find that probably I will never be free. My husband and I are separated, but of course I am not in charge of myself as long as the divorce formula is not pronounced. It is very hard to realize that he as a man can do whatever he wants to do, while I am bound at every turn. May Allah strengthen your faith and lighten your burden and lead you into a new and happier marriage. Ameen
Aminah
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September 1, 2005
A divorce is more of as a neccesary evil than a positive outcome. We should keep in mind that though divorce is permissable, it is hated by Allah.
Tawba
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September 1, 2005
salamalikum. Sorry I didn't reply with the most recent update. But my husband and I decided not to divorce after all. Through alot of crying and begging and trying to understand him, he finally agreed that his behaviour was unacceptable. He realizes that his treatment in being rude to me is unacceptable and is doing what he can to better his behaviour. Now he is more sincere, and is taking care of me financially better than before to keep me beautiful. I really didn't want to leave and I just wanted him to realize his ways. He's a young guy..so i guess its easier because of that. I prayed istakara after isha and asked Allah swt that if this marriage is bad for me, keep me away from it, and if it is good, make it easy for me. It seems Allah feels this marriage is good for me and my hereafter. I will pray that it is inshallah. Thank you all. walikumslam
Salam
on
September 1, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! We've started a Hijab in Christianity topic in our Islamic Forum. Christians and Muslims care to comment? Wasalam!
Administrator
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September 1, 2005
I LOVE YOU GUYS! THIS SITE IS AWESOME. WEAR HIJAB OR EVEN NIQAB, ALL IS GOOD AND PROTECTS YOU.
Cute Hijabi
on
September 1, 2005
just trying to get to the end of page 2. Mashallah it seems request for this page is great
unknown
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September 1, 2005
Time for page three!
another unknown
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September 1, 2005
Wa alaikum salam. Hey you know what...I think so too;)
Administrator
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September 1, 2005
Asalamu alaikum, Please post your messages on PAGE 3 as it is the page that visitors see first, and receives the most responses;) Wasalam
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