Asalamu alaikum sisters! Share your experiences here about hijab. Can you look back to see how you've improved? Or any thoughts regarding hijab can be shared here. No Soliciting is Allowed. Please do not paste URL's, but you can summarize.
Asalamu alaikum! When I started to wear hijab, I was looking desparately online for assistance, and it was really difficult to find help on wearing hijab with pictures. I pretty much had to guess and I gradually learnt as I went along. I remember seeing a girl in a mosque and seeing how her hijab was tied so perfectly, and I wanted to ask her, "please tell me how you wear your hijab like this, its beautiful:)". But knowing me and I couldn't muster up the courage to do so, and I stayed silent. I had no idea that hijab pins existed and because of that I was wearing, you know those "scarf clasps", where they open like a "V" shape and they clasp shut..well it looked nice, but the holding power was very weak. And oh no..saftey pins...yup...many hijabs were ruined because of it. I just didn't understand it, the pin would go in fine..but its the taking it out that caused the damage. Some how the material would get tangled up in the pin..and knowing my impatience sometimes..."rrrriiipp". Elhamdulilah for hijab pins for our hijabs:)Wasalam
Sister Deneer
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February 20, 2005
Salam for all. I should say that every girl who was able to wear Hijab is lucky. In some countries you can't even think of it. I would love to wear one but the fear is holding me back. I still remember when I saw a muslim girl wearing one of the most beautiful hijabs I have ever seen in my life. I really did envy her. You are so lucky women and girls to wear one. Rahmat Allah Wasiaa and I am sure he will give me the patience till the day I can wear one. Salam alaykom.
Sister Rahmat-Allah-Wasiaa
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February 21, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! I think that fear of wearing hijab is something common that we all go through u know.. Fear of losing ones job, losing ones friends, negativity from ones parents who don't support hijab, or thinking it will take forever to get married... We all forget to realize that it is Allah s.w.t. who is in control of what happens in our future, and it is his will for the muslimah to wear hijab. In a khodba, I remember hearing that the woman who has not worn hijab, and who decides to wear it, the God will make it as if she has worn hijab her whole life, subhannallah:) If you live in the area, and you're thinking of wearing it and want a better idea of what it would look like on you, I would love to offer a one on one tutorial on wearing hijab. If you're up for it, call me at 1-877-8-BUY-HIJABS to set up an appointment insha'llah. Wasalaam!
Sister Deneer
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February 21, 2005
Asalamu alaikum. I was surprised to learn that some families even oppose their kids from wearing hijab even if the parents are muslim too. I can't understand it actually. I come from a christian family, and when i first started wearing hijab, my dad was cool with it, he's pretty much an open minded person and that really made things easy. My mom is coming around now about me wearing hijab and that makes me happy too. She likes how the abaya look and sees them as nice dresses, and wanted one for herself:)Our parents love us, even though some may not verbalize it and they'll never abandon us because we change our religion and/or wear hijab elhamdulilah. Wasalam
Sister Deneer
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February 21, 2005
I DO feel lucky to have the freedom to wear a hijab without fear. There are many beautiful ways to wear them, al humdillilah! I felt like I have been wearing it my whole life, almost feel like I'm naked without it. I had to take it in stages, socially and at "Muslim events" only, then with family, then at work. As for Abayas, I would love it if you offered them here, they are beautiful and simple to wear, just hard to find good ones.
Great idea for the blog, I look forward to hearing how we all develop in our faith!
Wasalaam,
Khalissa
Khalissa
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February 22, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! Yeah, elhamdulilah for abayas:) Insha'allah we will carry a good variety of them in the future insha'allah. Being a reverted muslim for almost 3 years, i didn't discover "the abaya" till summer of 2004 actually. I endured alot of suffering of having to wear jackets all the time because almost everything i wore was not loose enough to wear without a jacket. and oh how i was hot in those jackets, and how many "aren't you hot?" comments i got, but i had to play it like i don't mind eh'. I had to wear it to be covered and modest but then the abaya shone into my life and wallahi it was the most comfortable summer i've had. I love black chiffon abayas, because they are very elegant, beautiul, and very breathable. Absolutely perfect for summer weather. Did you ever wonder how the women handle the weather in Dubai? It's because of the abaya;) Subhanallah, it just goes to show how learning more about our deen Islam, makes ones life easier inshallah. Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
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February 22, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! I'm not much into wearing jilbabs yet, I'll wait till im a little older insha'allah. I am 26 years old actually. I do however, have one Turkish jilbab, that my husband purchased for me from Jordan. A huge reputation has really been built on Turkish Jilbabs as being like "haute couture"(high fashion) or something. They are made from the best quality fabrics and sewn to perfection. The company name on my jilbab is Deicle or something like that..but this brand is pricy though. Elhamdulilah for the art of "barganing" in Jordan. No matter the price of something you can always bargan..and thats great actually. Canadian and american marketplaces would definately find this annoying..heheh. When we were barganing for my jilbab originally offered at 80JD (Jordanian Dinar) was brought down to 60JD. I must have heard the word "Tourkeeah, Tourkeeah"...trying to counter bargan the offers we were making coz of the brand name which is cool. They offered my husband a discount because the storeowners friend, was a friend of my husbands..and my husband made a joke and mentioned that he was a friend of this other person too and if the storeowner can accomodate another discount for that..hehehe I love shopping in the middle east, insha'allah I can do this more often:) Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
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February 22, 2005
Assalamu-aliykum sisters!
i started wearing the hijaab when i was 11, but i just wore it then, i wasn't really into the whole spiritual part, well sort of (i wasn't forced into it) but then later on i started realizing what a blessing it was to be able to wear it, now im really trying to wear the modest clothing along with it, and have the modest actions, and speech, but its so hard, especially here where i live, its VERY hard to find good clothing that cover up, BUT alhumdulila my mums a seamstress!
she started making my clothes, now that im not embarrased :):):):) mashallah shes VERY good, and she makes such fashionable clothes too! lol
ma'salaam
sister Aminah
Aminah
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February 22, 2005
I've just completed my first full weak of wearing Hijab at work. I feel so good like I've run thru an obstacle course. Most of my coworkers were positive, there were a few comments or questions, and one "concerned" manager from another department came into my office, shut my door and wanted to know if I was ok, did I have a boyfriend demanding I do this. LOL! Now anyone who knows me, knows that isn't a probability. I am trying to get a better, more modest wardrobe together and my other challenge is to get a private "chunk" of time to pray when it's time, it never fails--someone tracks me down or needs something that can't wait 10 minutes. BUT, I'm getting a little more respect in that area since I've been wearing my hijab. SOOOOOO---one week behind me and I feel GOOD!
Khalisssa
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February 23, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! Elhamdulilah rabbi al alameen! Congrats on wearing hijab to work! It's true that you really feel a sense of accomplishment. Funny how you were asked if "you were okay and if you were being forced to do it"..hehehe When i started wearing hijab to work...my husband was in Jordan and we were applying for his permanent residency to come to Canada insha'allah. So when people saw me..they were like "are you preparing for your husband to come here" or "did your husband ask you to wear this"...and i did get "asalamu alaikum's" from people i didn't even know were muslim which was great:) You definately get more respect too...and thats exactly why I began to wear hijab, because I wanted that respect and i was tired of being treated like some object, and even though people knew I was muslim..i wasn't treated like one. Elhamdulilah for our beautiful hijabs:) Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
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February 23, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! Not only do I sell hijabs, but I also love hijabs too. We try to provide you with a wide variety of materials and designs to choose from for your convenience. Everyone has a favorite color to wear, for me I love black, burgundy's and toffee shades of hijabs. We have some new arrivals for hijabs coming in a day or so or less insha'allah so stay tuned. The hijabs we have coming are amazing and inshallah the pictures will do them justice:) Happy Shopping! Wa alaikum salam;)
Sister Deneer
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February 23, 2005
Salamu-alikum
i was wondering...where did this website originate from...i live in Edmonton, and i was wondering if i could get hijaabs shipped or? is it located near by? hmm...im confused
help sisters...jazakullah ma'salaam
Aminah
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February 23, 2005
Wa alaikum salam and thanx for your question sister. We sell hijabs from Burlington, Ontario Canada. Our hijab business is only online for the time being. Shipping to edmonton, with tracked shipping you would receive your items in less than 5 days insha'allah and as little as 2 days. Order over $50 and we will ship to you for free and receive yoru item in 2-5 days. If you wanted to make a small order, shipping is very affordable as well. We ship hijabs worldwide and we accept cheques (preferrably certified) because its same as cash and we would ship your items immediately, and international moneyorders, both issued from a bank. So feel assured that a credit card is not required to purchase the beautiful items we offer here. If you have any questions, you can reach me at 1-877-8-BUY-HIJABS and ask for Deneer, or I can reply very quickly insha'allah via live chat, or email:) Hope this helps! Wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
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February 23, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! I've been wearing hijab since November of 2002 and since then I've gotten a few weird questions but there is one that just stands out from my mind. I was taking the bus home with this girl i work with and she asked me; "You know how you have to cover your hair right?, well how come you don't cover your eyebrows too???". When I heard the question at first I thought she was joking but she was serious, and she was confused about this point. To answer her question I told her "We cover our hair with hijabs because it is a major factor in a womans beauty. If you take 2 women and put them side by side, one has beautiful hair, and no eyebrows, and the other has beautiful eyebrows, and no hair, which one do you think would receive more attention from the male audience? The woman with beautiful hair". So after I answered her, she got my point elhamdulilah. Wa alaikum salam;)
Sister Deneer
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February 24, 2005
Salaam alaikum sisters! I wanted to comment that Turkish hijabs are coveted and considered to be of top quality, but did you know that in Turkey, women are not allowed to wear hijabs at school? And if they have a job with a government agency, they are not allowed to wear hijabs to the workplace. This is true. It's happening now. I have a Turkish friend who has told me about this, and I have read of Turkish female college students being barred from attending lectures and taking their final exams because they wore hijab. Turkish soldiers are posted at the doors of the universities and if a student refuses to take off her hijab, she is physically removed from the campus and sometimes even arrested! And when Turkish people, whether hijabed or not, make demonstrations against this, they risk being arrested.
Interestingly, not many people outside of Turkey are aware of this tragedy.
Aisha
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February 24, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister, I had an idea that this was going on but not to this extent eh'. What would we do if we were banned from wearing our hijabs like this in Canada or even the USA? What would we do??? I can't bear the thought of taking off my hijab in public for any reason and just like the sister said, "I'd feel naked without it"..like so "unprotected". What would Allah s.w.t. want us to do??? It would be like our Jihad, to protest and stand up for our rights and not go down easy for the unbelievers...we would have to do something! How ironic that islamic fashion in Turkey is known to be Haute Couture, but they can't even wear hijabs??? What a disturbing thought and situation eh' Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
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February 24, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! I come from an all Christian family and I can admit that I do hope that one day my sister will turn to Islam, but I don't see that happening very soon. In the past when ever we got on the subject of Islam, she would pretend like she doesn't hear it or she is reluctant to get into conversation. I remember one time when I was letting her know how Christianity is more similar to Islam than unsimilar by letting her know that we believe in the prophets and the miracles that God allowed them to do, and that the God we believe in is the same who created all that exists..and she's like "no he's not"..and i'm like "yes he is"..and she's like "no he's not". I also breifly went over the signs in the Quran, about the mountains, the embryo and the ocean how there is one part water sweet and one not and they never mix and so forth. Surprisingly she didn't even take a second to think about it and indirectly insisted on believing blindly in her religion. I was listening to a khodba and the sheikh was saying how Allah s.w.t. gave us the ability to ponder, and to seek knowledge and to ignore this part of our ability, is actually and insult to our intelligence, and he is sure right, i'll tell ya'. Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
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February 25, 2005
I just want to say that I love this site. its so nice to find something like it. a place to help each other and to buy such nice hijabs. well done :)
Annie
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February 25, 2005
Assalamu alaykum. I came from a non-practising Christian family and untill about 3 years ago thought Islam was a nationality!!! But alhamdulillah I met a lovely man who taught me the right way and I converted about 6 months ago. I started wearing hijab two days ago! Alhamdulillah so far I havent had any bad reactions and inshalla I wont when I go back to uni on monday. Anyway. I think this is a great site and i really like this msg board!
Ele
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February 26, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister, Subhanallah:)It's really great you started wearing hijab and don't worry too much about reactions eh'. There are some that may not like it and that may comment, but don't fret; it's only the shaytan whispering to them to say those things. And some word of advice about hijabs? No matter how tempting it may be, remember, safety pins are the enemy! No matter how dressed up they may be, they hold a huge grudge against hijabs although it may not seem like it at first. Coz they go in nicely..and they behave for you the first hour or so, but then when you forget they are on your hijab, that is the moment they attack! For beginners, I think they should use Hijab pins with clasps or clutches at the end, and the good quality oval hijab pins we have in our accessories section, coz they give you that extra security. Anyway, I'm glad u like this thread, and insha'allah it will be found entertaining as well as helpful:) Wa alaikum salaaaam!
Sister Deneer
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February 26, 2005
I have been wearing hijab for almost 3 years. My daughter has been wearing hijab for a year. Our faith is being tested by Shaytan in that my daughter and I wish to remove the hijab. We both feel naked without hijab but have had enough of the stares, comments and not fitting in with society. I am frustrated with the discomfort of wearing hijab, trying to find a match with my clothing and just finding something that fits without frequent adjustments. I guess I need words of encouragement.
Alma
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February 26, 2005
Asalamu Alaikum sister, I think the best advice to give in any one in your situation is to please do the following: Take this URL (http://www.islaam.com/audio/lectures/yi/ram/yihijab.ram) and paste it in your browswer and listen. It is a really great khodba on al-hijab and it helps us to understand what our wearing hijabs does for the muslim community in general and what it means to wear one. Inshallah after listening to it, you will have an increased passion and will for wearing hijab and can pass the message on to your daughter inshallah. The #1 reason for not wearing hijabs is "people" in general, and the shaytan knows this, but remember that wearing hijab is an "act of worship to Allah". I have a friend and she's had a few experiences in her country wearing hijab, and she is being strong and determined just as Allah s.w.t. would want her too..and she sees the resistance to hijab as like "a jihad against the unbelievers" and she keeps wearing her hijab to win in that struggle inshallah. Inshallah you found the sound file helpful just as I have. Wa alaikum Salam
Sister Deneer
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February 26, 2005
Asalamu alaikum. So as you already know, I come from a christian family. Their not so religious but they do go to church every sunday, just as my father raised us to do as kids. But one thing that bothers me is that I just wish my sister was more open to the changes I've made in my life in regard to Islam. Since she wasn't going to accept Islam, I made a decision to encourage her to be a better christian and I am happy she is a better christian now. But the only downside is, is that the more religious she gets, the more she sees our religion of Islam more mediocre, like devil worshiping or something. She is so predudice against being around anything Islamic that she gets annoyed to look at my website! My sister doesn't talk much, so its really hard to figure out and understand her actions and her thoughts behind it. All I can say is that I wish she were more open minded to our religion, atleast not be afraid to talk about it or even debate or something so that one day i can get her to say "hmmmm". I guess time will tell eh' Wa alaikum salam.
Sister Deneer
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February 27, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! Lets talk more about decorative hijab pins that use safety pins. There are 2 major dangers of the safety pin for our hijabs. It is, the coil portion, and what makes this part dangerous is when you least expect it our hijab material will get tangled in that coil and its very difficult to release it without damage. There are pins without the coil, but that does not keep your hijab out of danger. The second dangerous part of a safety pin is the U like portion at the head of the pin. The reason is because not all the edges are rounded and it's the sharp edges that can snag and even tear your hijab. So beware of the sly safety pin who only pretends to befriend your hijab when in truth, it's out to gitchya! Solution: Good Quality Oval Hijab pins or decorative crystal hijab pins, found in our accessories section. For beginners, the oval pin is verry essential for either securing your hijab under your chin and/or securing the tail of the hijab. Happy Hijabing! Wasalaaaaaam~
Sister Deneer
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February 28, 2005
Asalamu alaikuuuum! How's everyone doin'??? Remember, wearing hijab is a beautiful ibadah(worship) to Allah (subhannahu wa ta3ala). It is Allah s.w.t. we were created by and it is Allah s.w.t. who knows what's best for his creation. May Allah s.w.t. give us all the strength to wear hijab and ignore the shaytan which whispers to us to take it off. AMEEN! Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
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February 28, 2005
How funny! I haven't had any problems with the safety pins, yet, AL HUMDILLILAH! I only use them at my neck. I think you have to be careful though---like run it thru only twice, not more. I DO wear the beautiful hijab pins like you sell for the outside. When you were talking about colors, I was wondering what others favorites are? I like black, any blue and what Sister Daneer said, that beautiful toffee. I really thought I'd like the ligher pastels, but I don't! I can't wait until you start selling abayah, I now have four and they are WONDERFUL! Ma shallah!
Khalissa
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March 1, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! There is one thing that has confused me in general about hijabs. There are times when i've went to the mosque and depending on the culture, I've seen girls and women wear their hijab differently. For example, some wear hijab, with their ears showing, some with ears and neck showing, or something like this and it makes me wonder why? In Surah Al-Nisa, Allah s.w.t. orders women to reveal only their hands and face. So that's why it confuses me that they keep wearing hijab this way and see it as halal? Anyone familiar with this or seen this b4?
I also get another common question and its "Whats the difference between the hijabs and shaylas?" The difference is that hijabs or ishars are always a square shape, and shaylas are rectangle shaped. Both styles you can achieve a different look. Please see our "Learn how to wear hijab" page for pictures and details. Wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
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March 1, 2005
Sister Daneer, I often wonder the same thing. I see sisters wearing a proper hijab on their head and then very revealing or tight clothing, or with their hair hanging out front or back or very heavy makeup and I wonder what their motivation is? It is my understanding that the whole concept of hijab is modesty and NOT standing out. I guess it's between them and their GOD, but I still often wonder if I should politely mention something or just let it go?
Khalissa
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March 2, 2005
Asalamu alaikum. Yes the situations you've mentioned are even more common than the one that I mentioned. I also wouldn't say like "If you're not going to wear hijab properly, don't wear it at all".They are likely young girls who are doing this but as they learn more about Islam, they will evolve and feel that what they're doing is wrong and stop insha'allah. Wearing hijab is a progression. There was one time i was taking the bus from college, I studied Business/Sales/Computers, she came on the bus wearing her hijab, but skin tight pants and a short top. Her stomach wasn't revealed or anything, which would look quite silly, but her clothes were definately tight. So when the bus stopped at south common mall, she got off the bus, and went inside the mall. But low and behold she came out with a long loose jean skirt. Her parents have no idea what she's doing. So my point is that its not enough just to wear the scarf, it must be accompanied with rememberance of Allah s.w.t.. One can do this with prayer, listening or reading to quran in english, going on the internet and learning about islam, listening to khodbas (www.islaam.com). Yahya Ibrahim is my favorite, his khodba's are mixed with english and arabic.For those of you thinking of reverting to Islam, please know that you don't have to know everything before reverting. As long as you believe in your heart (There is no God but Allah s.w.t., and Muhammad s.a.w. is his messenger) & make a sincere vowe and promise to keep learning about islam and how to be a better muslim, this is sufficient insha'allah. Wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
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March 2, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters! Have you been looking for a source to listen to quran in english and are looking to do this for FREE? Please go to our polls/links section and click on the banner that says "Quran Auto Reciter", brought to you by www.searchtruth.com. It is so wonderful! I downloaded the software myself! With this softare you can download engish translations of all the surahs, and learn about Islam and what Allah s.w.t. wants for us. Wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
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March 2, 2005
A salaamu alaikum ,
I have read all the posts and I see many questions. I have been a Muslim since 1978. so I have a long experience with wearing hijab. In the time of the Iran hostage crisis we had similar problems to the post 9-11 problems. so nothing happening now is new, its just openly discussed, which it was not back in the early 1980's.
Stigma is a big issue psychologically. A good book titleD: "Stigma" by Irving Goffman illustrartes the problems of stigma. So that is what many people feel fear, in particular the siblings of converts. In particular those who have been exposed to the hate rhetoric in some churches or through the media and awful news. So stigma has to be removed. our enemies have been consciously creating it for us too!(The feminists ) The only way I know to neutralise stigma this is give the hijab and Muslims more public exposure and Muslims some good PR. The more we wear it the better it will get for all of us!!!
I had this one pink Hijab , a cotton gauze shayla. I used to be the only muslima to wear one , back in the days when people wore those tight gulf style hijabs that anchored behind the ears and then pinned toward the front.
Every time I wore it on the street I would get harrased, One guy yelled "Get a life!" I yelled back "Get a culture!"
Nowdays I'm Wearing black. I get absolute respect and defference , people step aside, say "excue me" , lower their heads. This is very different treatment than I got wearing pink! So I think it is a matter of projection and some styles project weakness and some project strength. Social class figures in treatment too. I am always well groomed in public because underclass grooming will make you appear defenseless, like you are too poor to fight back. You always want to dress just a bit better than the average KUFR in your town . But conservative. I hide the dark circles under my eyes so I don't look tired and down trodden. I cover flaws- but no added color or ornament -nothing flashy like red lipstick or dangleing earings. Your stature matters . Always be aware of your surroundings when you are out! Don't look at the ground it will make you a target for crimminals! Wear shoes that give you balance and agility . A woman in High heels is off balance an defenseless she can't run! Walk with confidence and keep the chin up! Be aware of your suuroundings. Generally go out with other people if you can.In traditional Islam women never go out alone.but many of us are isolated and so we must make a few concessions and invoke the rule of DARURA , that is- necessity permits it .
Chef Zaynah
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March 2, 2005
About tight hijabs
The clothing should not reveal the form. That means clothes have to be baggy.
Some hijab designers came up with the idea to create a business suit for Muslim women who worked. In it's context it was acceptable , you know for a bank teller or a sales clerk. But the same garment is completely unsuitable for makeing salat! You have to remember that our clothing is an integral part of our deen. So tight clothing just does not work for salat. Even long sleeved shirts I wear around the house are sometimes 2 sizes too big -just so when I make takbir my clothing moves with me!
Years ago it was common to see young men in the masjid in tight pants trying to make sujud. It was'nt working for them!:)! Men are also encumbered by suits ,ties and other non Muslim clothing they are forced to wear on the job.
The best attire is the traditional attire. I love those egyptian style fellah dresses that have a yoke and a full wide skirt with a ruffle. But according to today's minimalist fashionistas that would be hilarious compared to the tight polyester skirts and minimalist clothing of today!
You have to find what is comfortable for you -personally.
We need a style of Islamic clothing that is our own, not imported from another country. It has to work with driveing the car, big snow storms, tropical heat waves.
I would like to see women do some sewing and needle work.
It's a radical idea but I beleive self reliance is good for us. But we should not become worshippers of textiles. RIYYA is just the pits!
chef zaynah
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March 2, 2005
Assalamualiykum, i just wanted to say that the hijaabs
on this website, are very pretty
ma'salaama
Ayehsa
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March 2, 2005
Asalamu Alaikum! Thank you for telling us your story of what it was like to wear hijab way back then. 1978 eh', i was just born in that year! We will be carrying more hijabs and shaylas in the color black soon insha'allah. Thank you all for adding your blogs on hijabs. Inshallah it will be an inspiration to someone thinking of reverting to Islam inshallah.
Sister Deneer
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March 3, 2005
Asalamu alaikum. Maybe someone can add an opinion or two about the topic I'm about to address. It is about "putting hijab on our daughters under the age of 11". I remember being in the park one time and seeing this little girl, perhaps 3 years old, running around and playing with her friends with her cute white amirah hijab on. I also have a daughter, she is almost 10 months old now. And my husband and I plan to move to his homeland in Jordan one day, perhaps 5 years from now, or maybe more. I just wonder, if my daughter will be attending school here, a regular public school, perhaps I should have her wear a hijab; for her protection inshallah being in a mixed school environment. My husband made a good point regarding this topic, and he said that "even if she wears hijab to school, the teachers will not encourage her to wear it, and will allow her to take it off". I also named her "Islam" because I want it to be a "thikr"(rememberance) for herself and those around her, that Islam is her religion and she is muslim. But it seems it not enough for my family to realize and respect her as a muslim, which was why I was thinking of having her wear the hijab early. I want her the take the benefits of hijab earlier on in life so that, inshallah, she will be protected. I don't know what to do... Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
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March 3, 2005
ASLAMO ALYAKAM,
WELL, FOR ME I WAS CURIOUS HOW MANY WAYS TO HIJAB.. WELL, ALHAMDULIAH THIS SITE WAS VERY USEFULL AND I GLADLY PURCHASED A FEW OF THEM!! I LOVE CANADA!!
SISTER FROM USA
JUST CURIOUS TO KNOW././
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March 3, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! Thank you for participating in our previous Visitor Polls. We hold these polls so that we can gain a better perspective on what you, the customer wants inshallah. Based on your input and suggestions, inshallah we will offer a wider variety of hijabs and islamic clothing as a whole. Inshallah over the next 2 months there will be rapid changes here at The Canadian Muslim.Thank you for your trust and support! Wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
on
March 4, 2005
Assalamualaykum. I am also from a Christian family, and I accepted Islam 3 years ago. My friend sent me this site. The msg board is a great idea and the hijabs are very nice too. I can't wait to see abayas on here (a nice CANADIAN site) so shipping is finally cheaper. I wanted to say that I learned a way to use safety pins that is fool proof. I have ruined so many nice hijabs by using these pins but there is a trick: once you put the pin through both sides of the hijab(under your neck) turn it around and go through the first side again, but NOT both sides. So the pin goes through side a, side b, then side a ONLY one more time and it NEVER pulls or gets stuck. Hope this is helpful to someone cause it certainly was for me. To all sisters that are struggling with the decision to wear hijab: you will NOT regret it. Even if you do experience trouble down the road, that trouble is golden. Try to remember that you are LUCKY ENOUGH to suffer a bit for Allah (swt). We can NEVER repay Him for what He does, so we should grab on with both hands when we do have a small opportunity at jihad. And also to all girls who have muslim families that will let them wear hijab but still find some trivial reasons not to wear it: you don't know how lucky you are to have that freedom because many of us girls who are dying to wear it don't have that luxury and have to give up a lot. (alhamdulillah) Try and remember your position as compared to the position of others around the world. Wassalam.
Sr. Sylvia
on
March 5, 2005
salaam alaykum! I wanted to bring everyone's attention to an interesting article I've just found online. It was written by a doctor muslimah to refute some lies about the Islamic modest dress.
And in answer to sister Deneer's question above about whether or not she should dress her daughter in a hijab... I can't tell you what to to, it is of course your choice as it is your child. I can only offer you my perspective on the matter. Did you know that in the time (and before) of the prophet (saw) very young children were generally allowed to run about and play as naked as the day they were born, until something like age 4? At which point the adults started seriously dressing them and training them to clothes. It wasn't considered strange. It was basically letting the children have a freedom that they would never again have when they aged more and more. And I guess the warm climate made that a lot more possible than for those of us who live in much chillier climes. Children are not aware of the shyness of gender and the sexual aspects of the human body. They're just that sweetly innocent. And also I keep thinking of when I was a kid. Oh boy! was I an ACTIVE child! I was always losing my hairpins because I was always trotting about and grabbing things and being in blowing winds, etc. I also regularly climbed trees! Every one of my childhood pictures shows me with crazy tangled hair flying all about. If my parents had put a hijab on me in those toddler days of childhood, I really think it would have been off my head much more often than on it! and not really because of any prejudice or discomfort from it. Just because I was a kid and that kind of crazy activity just doesn't support keeping anything on the head. I had a few hats when I was a child but you know what? they were always coming off and so I mainly just left them off. The only time I remember wearing a hat and making an effort to keep it on, was when my mom got scared about ticks and insisted that me and my brother keep hats on while we played anywhere near (or on) the trees. But as soon as my mom's fear faded, I stopped wearing the hat. Keep in mind, back when I was a child, the stretchy elastic easy to put on al-amira had not really come into existence yet. Even if it had been there, I kind of doubt I would have been comfortable wearing it. I had to wear a hearing aid on each ear so very probably I would have found it uncomfortable and limiting to try to wear a fabric thingie on my head - especially since I needed sounds to get through to my hearing aids. Hey, that is something else that might answer one of sister Deneer's questions above - she asked why some muslimas seem to prefer letting the ears show. If the muslimas are deaf or hard of hearing, it might aid them in hearing things, and would make space for hearing aids and glasses frames. Also it has its roots in culture - particularly in African countries, they seem to dislike covering their ears and necks. I think exposing the neck is more of a practicality in Africa and also in other hot climate countries - the neck is one of the points of the body that has many blood vessels (consider the jugular veins in the neck - 2 of the largest of the body's veins). The skin is thin there, so the exposing of the neck doubtless helps cool off a person better than to cover it. Of course, for a person with paler skin that doesn't have so much melanin, avoiding the sun takes precedence over being a bit cooler. This is all guesswork on my part. I personally feel no antipathy toward the muslimas who choose to wear hijab in a different way. I don't want to incite hate or anger over such a simple matter as a square of cloth and how it's worn. Hijab, to me, is a personal choice of every muslima. Anyway... hijab is more than just a cloth. You must not forget, hijab is part of one's deen, and it is also a way of conduct, as well as a way of dress. I would venture to say that it is more about the conduct than about the dress. There are women whose conduct doesn't match their modest dress, and there are women whose modest behaviour doesn't match their not-so-modest dress. And there are women who dress sexily and act immorally, and there are women who dress modestly and act modestly. In my opinion, it seems to me that Allah would be more likely to judge us not on how we dressed but on how we ultimately behaved. I am not trying to say that dress is unimportant. I'm only saying that to me, I regard the people around me based on how they behave and not particularly on how they dress. And I always carry the hope that modest dress will become more and more the norm in westernized societies as they come more and more in contact with the ideas of people like us, the muslims, the amish, the quakers, the mennonites, the jews, and so on, who believe strongly in modest dress and present a good example to their peers. One final thought. If everyone in the world dressed alike, I'd be miserable! I love the incredible variety that is humanity. And I hate to blend in just because everyone thinks I should. That's why I'm a bit sad to hear that the lady who made a posting above, about living in the 1970's and wearing a pink hijab, now wears only black hijabs. And seemingly does it merely to please everyone so they'll respect her more. I think she was a trailblazer. It was people like her who helped make it acceptable to wear colored hijabs. It's a freedom I value greatly! Especially as I look pale and sickly in dark colors! I love the colors of the world! I firmly believe if Allah didn't want us to enjoy colors, He would never have given us, among his creations, one of the most complicated color processing capabilities in our eyes. If you read up on the science of optics and how humans can perceive an incredible range of colors, and then read up about how other creatures can see colors but their capacity is markedly less than what humans can see, you will be quite impressed. And did you know, it is beginning to be truly recognized among scientists that seeing colors makes humans more cheerful and happier than not seeing colors. Consider how you feel when you walk into a hospital where the dominant color is white, with maybe blue or green or turqoise being minority colors, and nothing else. I bet even just thinking about it makes you feel kind of depressed. So I feel sad when I see muslimas being scared to wear real colors that are not olive, black, or navy. I really believe one can be quite modest and wear nice colors as well. It's only things like sequins and flashy stuff that I don't support. I never wear clothing that flashes. I think the only time that can be acceptable to wear is when you attend a wedding where everyone else is also wearing flashing clothes. Ah.. I seem to be going on and on! my apologies if I've bored any of you! I'll post this now. Wa alaikum salaam, sisters.
Aisha
on
March 6, 2005
I want to clarify for you the situation as it stands in Turkey. Turkish women can wear hijab to the market, at home, in the streets, and so on, but when they want to wear it on propertythat is owned and/or run by the Turkish government -- that's when they have difficulty. Unfortunately, the majority of the colleges/universities in Turkey are government-controlled. It's only at the private Universities that the students can wear hijab without harassment, but unfortunately, the majority of Turkish women are too poor to be able to afford to get educated at a private university. and I've already mentioned that they can't work in government jobs with hijabs on.
There, now I feel sure I've made it very clear how things are in Turkey. I'm sorry if anyone misunderstood me in the earlier posting and assumed that hijab is totally banned in Turkey. It's only banned in the government-owned or government-run buildings/properties.
ne other thing I want to add. When the modern nation of Turkey was formed in the post-WW1 years, directly after the collapse of the Ottoman empire, the self-styled "Father of Turkey" Mustafa Kemal (better known as Kemal Ataturk which is just turkish for "Kemal, Father of Turkey") immediately made a very aggressive push to modernize Turkey and divorce it from its rich Islamic heritage. He decided that the new nation should be as completely different from the old nation as possible. He did everything he could to discourage Islamic behaviors, he kicked out the Arabic alphabet which the Turks had written their Turkish language in, and started using European letters instead. Now Turks of today no longer can read Arabic, unless they have very specifically dedicated themselves to studying it. My father studied at a college in Ankara, Turkey, from 1960-1962, and he once told me that on the facade of the oldest campus building, there is an inscription in Arabic letters. He and the other arab students could sound it out, but could not make sense of what it said, as the sounding was in Turkish language, so he asked one of the Turkish students what it meant. The Turkish student had to ask my father to sound it out because he could not read the arabic script! This was only about 30 years after the founding of the "modern Turkey".
For some decades, it seemed the government's efforts to stamp out Islamic behaviors was succeeding, but in the past 2 decades, there has been a big revival of interest in Islamic ways, and Turkish youth who were raised by a largely secular generation are seeking the knowledge their parents and grandparents lost. I recently read someone's statement that the youth in Turkey are more interested in living and learning Islam than the youth of Saudi Arabia! It just goes to show, (surah 2, aya 256)"There is no compulsion in religion; Truth stands out clear from error. Whoever rejects evil and believes in God has grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And Allah hears and knows all things."
Aisha
on
March 6, 2005
Salaam alaikum. This is for Sister Deneer, in regards to her attempts to discuss Islam with her sister:
Qur'an 17:53-54 And tell my servants that they should speak in a most kindly manner (unto those who do not share their beliefs). Verily, Satan is always ready to stir up discord between men; for verily; Satan is man's foe .... Hence, We have not sent you (Unto men O Prophet) with power to determine their Faith.
Aisha
on
March 6, 2005
Wa alaikum salam aisha, and thank you for your advice. You raised a good point about young children and hijabs. I will wait and see how it goes inshallah. May Allah s.w.t. give guidance on what to do inshallah. In regard to coverings for the muslimah, I've learnt that modest dress and hijab go hand in hand.Examples of modest modern dress, is long a-line skirts, loose fit collar shirts, layering, with a jacket, or cardigans of various lengths, long sleeve dresses. Inshallah we will be carrying a line of modest modern clothing, for those who are not comfortable wearing abayas or jilbabs (will be offered too, i love black abayas and jean jilbabs!). For younger muslimahs, from 4 up to early thirties, jean jilbabs are a great way to remain conservative and stylish too:) Jazakumallahu Khairan, Wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
on
March 6, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! Great News! Inshallah by the end of the week or less we will have a nice variety of abayas and jilbabs. We will run a weekly poll to see what colors, you as our valued customers and potential customers are interested in inshallah:) Looking to talk to someone about hijabs or another islamic issue. Check ou tour new HijabChat page, and chat clean for free! Happy Shopping! Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
March 7, 2005
As salaamu alaikum Sisters,
Nice to read some of the comments. Right now I just want to thank all the sisters worldwide who are wearing hijab, Alhamdilillah and for those sisters who cannot, May Allah(swt) make it easy for you. Years and years ago when I started wearing hijab, there was no internet, let alone internet stores, most sisters made their own hijabs, khimars, myself included. In 1999 there were only a handful of stores selling online, now, SubhanAllah, we can shop the world without even getting a visa. Allah(swt) is most merciful!!!
Sister Jenneh in New York
on
March 8, 2005
I would also like to add that the hijabs are wonderful Deneer. As far as your daughter i would think that very cafefully. Unfortunatley kids are cruel. Adults can also be of couse. I have cousins that are black Jews. they were beat up constantly at school because they had on those hat beeny thingys. We dont want our protection to work against us. I would dress my child modestly without the hijab at such an early age. She may not have the knowledge or words to express its purpose. I have a 19 yr old thats learning disabled. she still playw with dolls. I put a hijab on her when she goes out with me. She doesnt wear it to school and she doesnt even realize what its for. but she is a big girl and im hoping that men will get the message that one she is a baby at heart and two she is Allahs and off limits. I have been a muslim for 2 months. the 1st day i wore my hijab i felt a little odd. the second day i felt proud. the 3d day it as a must. i would feel naket if i went out without it. I am not at the stage where i am color conscious. I believe i can have nice color hijabs and be modest at the same time. plus i am tempted by all the color hijabs sold. i have over 40 scarves bought within a months period. lol.....im on a roll. And PLEASE remember me. I am six feet tall and had to buy dresses from eygupt. i can even spell it so i surely shouldnt have to shop there from NYC. NO ONE sells them long enough for me. :-(. I put in a order to saudi arabia and i havnt seen it yet. i have 500. out there somewhere and hope eventually i will receive the items i purchased. Well thats enuf from me for a first post.
Assalam alaikum
Paulette (Fatimah)
Fatimah
on
March 8, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! I'm happy you're pleased with our hijabs. I was just thinking, have you considered wearing jilbabs with pants combination? That way you shouldn't have to worry about your jilbab being too short. Inshallah we will be offering this soon for people of taller heights. I'm only 5"1, so alot of the things I buy are too long...hehehe Go figure eh' Take care:) P.S. Please excuse my "eh's" eh'. I'm a born Torontonian Canadian, its a cultural habit::) Wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
on
March 8, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters, we will be launching a line of abayas and jilbabs soon inshallah. So please, take some time to participate in our current "favorite color" poll, to help us assess what colors we should provide inshallah. Wanna talk about it or another nice topic? Join our HijabChat today, and have respectable chat with other muslims. Wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
on
March 11, 2005
I started wearing hijab a week ago , i always wanted to wear hijab but i coudnot do , i was hesitated , then a friend of mine sent me an article and i got the solution of all my reasoning for not wearing hijab . i just want to share that article with the ppl who want to wear hijab but r hesitated to do so .
Top Ten Excuses for Not Wearing the Islamic Hijaab
By Dr Huwayda Ismaeel
Among the pictures that point to the distance of society from the right path and that make clear the level of its deviation and separation from it is the open spread of women not just uncovering their faces but enhancing and making a display of their beauty. We find that this is manifested regretfully, in Islamic (Muslim) society despite that Islamic clothing is also widespread. So then, what are the reasons that have led to this digression?
We put this question to a varied group of women from whom we derived ten major excuses and upon examination and scrutiny, the frailty of the excuses became evident to us. Stay with us dear Muslim sister in these few lines so that we can know through them the reasons for turning away from the hijaab and then discuss each.
Excuse One: I’m not yet convinced (of the necessity) of hijaab.
We then ask this sister two questions:
1: Is she truly convinced of the correctness of the religion of Islam? the natural answer is: Yes she is convinced for she responds "Laa ilaaha illallah!" (There is no god but Allah), meaning she is convinced of the aqeedah, and then she says: "Muhammadun rasoolullah!" (Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah), meaning by that that she is convinced of its legislation or law (Sharee’ah). Therefore, she is convinced of Islam as a belief system and a law by which one governs and rules their life.
2: Is the hijaab then a part of Islamic Law (Sharee’ah) and an obligation? If this sister is honest and sincere in her intention and has looked into the issue as one who truly wants to know the truth her answer could only be: Yes. For Allah ta’aala, Whose deity (Uloohiyyah) she believes in has commanded wearing hijaab in His Book (Al-Qur’an) and the noble Prophet (alayhe salaat wa salaam) whose message she believes in has commanded wearing the hijaab in his Sunnah. In summary: If this sister is convinced of Islam, how then can she not be convinced of its orders?
Excuse Two: I am convinced of Islamic dress but my mother prevents me from wearing it and if I disobey her I will go to the Fire.
The one who has answered this excuse is the most noble of Allah’s creation, the messenger of Allah (SAWS) in concise and comprehensive words of wisdom: "There is no obedience to the created in the disobedience of Allah." [Ahmad]
The status of parents in Islam, especially the mother, is a high and elevated one. Indeed Allah ta’aala has combined it with the greatest of matters, worshipping Him and His Tawheed, in many aayaat. He stated:
"Worship Allah and join none with Him and do good to parents." [Soorah An-Nisaa 4: 36]. Obedience to parents is not limited except in one aspect, and that is if they order to disobedience of Allah. Allah said:"But if they strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not." [Soorah Luqmaan 31: 15]
The lack of obedience to them in sinfulness does not prevent being good to them and kind treatment of them. Allah said afterward in the same aayah: But behave with them world kindly. In summary: How can you obey your mother and disobey Allah Who created you and your mother?
Excuse Three: My position does not allow me to substitute my dress for Islamic dress.
This sister is either one or the other of two types: She is sincere and honest, or she is a slippery liar who desires to make a showy display of her "hijaab" clamoring with colors to be "in line with the times" and expensive". We will begin with an answer to the honest and sincere sister. Are you unaware my dear sister, that it is not permissible for the Muslim woman to leave her home in any instance unless her clothing meets the conditions of Islamic hijaab (Hijaab shar’ee) and it is a duty of every Muslim woman to know what they are? If you have taken the time and effort to learn so many matters of this world how then can you be neglectful of learning those matters which will save you from the punishment of Allah and His anger death!!? Does Allah not say:
"Ask the people of remembrance (i.e. knowledgeable scholars) if you do not know." [Soorah An-Nahl 16: 43]
Learn therefore, the requirements of proper hijaab. If you must go out, then do not do so without the correct hijaab, seeking the pleasure of Allah and the degradation of Shaitaan. That is because the corruption brought about by your going out adorned and "beautified" is far greater than the matter which you deem necessary to go out for.
My dear sister if you are really truthful in your intention and correctly determined you will find a thousands hands of good assisting you and Allah will make the matter easy for you! Is He not the One Who says:
"And whoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty) and He will provide him from sources he never could imagine." [Soorah At-Talaaq 65:2-3]
With regards to the ‘slippery’ one we say: Honour and position is something determined by Allah ta’aala and it is not due to embellishment of clothing and show of colors and keeping up with the trendsetters. It is rather due to obedience to Allah and His Messenger (SAWS) and holding to the pure law of Allah and correct Islamic hijaab. Listen to the words of Allah: "Indeed, the most honourable amongst you are those who are the most pious." [Soorah Al-Hujraat 49: 35]. In summary: Do things in the way of seeking Allah’s pleasure and entering His Jannah and give less value to the high priced and costly objects and wealth of this word.
Excuse Four: It is so very hot in my country and I can’t stand it. How could I take it if I wore the hijaab?
Allah gives an example by saying: "Say: The Fire of hell is more intense in heat if they only understand." [Soorah At-Taubah 9:81]. How can you compare the heat of your land to the heat of the Hellfire? Know, my sister, that Shaitaan as trapped you in one of his feeble ropes to drag you from the heat of this world to the heat of the Hellfire. Free yourself from his net and view the heat of the sun as a favor and not an affliction especially in that it reminds you of the intensity of the punishment of Allah which is many times greater than the heat you now feel. Return to the order of Allah and sacrifice this worldly comfort in the way of following the path of salvation from the Hellfire about which Allah says: "They will neither feel coolness nor have any drink except that of boiling water and the discharge of dirty wounds." [Soorah An-Naba’ 78: 24-25]. In summary: The Jannah is surrounded by hardships and toil, while Hellfire is surrounded by temptations, lusts and desires.
Excuse Five: I’m afraid that if I wear the hijaab I will put it off at another time because I have seen so many others do so!!
To her I say: If everyone was to apply your logic then they would have left the Deen in its entirety! They would have left off salaat because some would be afraid of leaving it later. They would have left fasting in Ramadan because so many are afraid of not doing it later…etc. Haven’t you seen how Shaitaan has trapped you in his snare again and blocked you from guidance?
Allah ta’aala loves continuous obedience even if it be small or recommended. How about something that is an absolute obligation like wearing hijaab?! The Prophet (SAWS) said: "The most beloved deed with Allah is the consistent one though it be little." Why haven’t you sought out the causes leading those people to leave of the hijaab so that you can avoid them and work to keep away from them? Why haven’t you sought out reasons and causes to affirm truth and guidance until you can hold firm to them?
Among these causes is much supplication to Allah (du’aa) to make the heart firm upon the Deen as did the Prophet (SAWS). Also is making salaat and having mindfulness of it as Allah stated: "And seek help in patience and the prayer and truly it is extremely heavy except for the true believers in Allah who obey Allah with full submission and believe in His promise of Jannah and in His warnings (Al Khaashi’oon)." [Soorah Al-Baqarah 2:45]
Other causes to put one upon guidance and truth is adherence to the laws of Islam and one of them is indeed wearing the hijaab. Allah said: "If they had done what they were told, it would have been better for them and would have strengthened their faith." [Soorah Al-Baqarah 2: 66]. In summary: If you hold tight to the causes of guidance and taste the sweetness of faith you will not neglect the orders of Allah after having held to them.
Excuse Six: If I wear the hijaab then nobody will marry me, so I’m going to leave it off until then.
Any husband who desires that you be uncovered and adorned in public in defiance of and in disobedience to Allah, is not a worthy husband in the first place. He is a husband who has no feeling to protect what Allah has made inviolable, most notably yourself, and he will not help you in any way to enter Al-Jannah or escape from the Hellfire. A home which is founded upon disobedience to Allah and provocation of His anger is fitting that He decrees misery and hardship for it in this life and in the Hereafter. As Allah stated: "But whosoever, turns away from My reminder (i.e. neither believes in the Qur’an nor acts upon its teachings) verily for him is a life of hardship and We shall raise him up blind on the Day of Resurrection." [Soorah TaHa 20: 124]
Marriage is a favor and blessing from Allah to whom He give whom He wills. How many women who wear hijaab (mutahajibah) are in fact married while many who don’t aren’t? If you were to say that ‘…my being made-up and uncovered is a means to reach a pure end, namely marriage’, a pure goal or end is not attained through impure and corrupt means in Islam. If the goal is honourable then it must necessarily be achieved by pure and clean method. We say the rule in Islam is: the means are according to the rules of the intended goals. In summary: There is no blessing in a marriage established upon sinfulness and corruption.
Excuse Seven: I don’t wear hijaab based on what Allah says: "And proclaim the grace of your Rabb" [Soorah Ad-Dhuhaa 93: 11]. How can I cover what Allah has blessed me with of silky soft hair and captivating beauty?!
So… this sister of ours adheres to the Book of Allah and its commands as long as they coincide with her personal desires and understanding! She leaves behind those matters when they don’t please her. If this was not the case, then why doesn’t she follow the aayah: "And do not show off their adornment except only that which is apparent" [Soorah An-Noor 24: 31] and the statement of Allah: "Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks all over their bodies." [Soorah Al-Ahzab 33:59]
With this statement my sister you have now made a Shari’ah (law) for yourself of what Allah ta’aala has strictly forbidden, namely beautification (at-tabarruj) and uncovering (as-sufoor), and the reason: Your lack of wanting to adhere to the order. The greatest blessing or favor that Allah has bestowed upon us is that of Eemaan (faith) and hidaayah (guidance) and among them is the Islamic hijaab. Why then do you not manifest and talk about this greatest of blessings given to you? In summary: Is there a greater blessing and favor upon the woman than guidance and hijaab?
Excuse Eight: I know that hijaab is obligatory (waajib), but I will wear it when Allah guidance me to do so.
We ask this sister on what plans or steps she will undertake until she accepts this divine guidance? We know that Allah has in His wisdom made a cause or means for everything. That is why the sick take medicine to regain health, and the traveller rides a vehicle or an animal to reach his destination, and other limitless examples.
Has this sister of ours seriously endeavored to seek true guidance and exerted the proper means to get it such as: Supplicating Allah sincerely as He stated: "Guide us to the Straight Path." [Soorah Al-Faatihaa 1: 6]; Keeping company with the righteous good sisters - for they are among the best to assist her to guidance and to continue to point her to it until Allah guides her and increases her guidance and inspires her to further guidance and taqwaa. She would then adhere to the orders of Allah and wear the hijaab that the believing women are commanded to wear. In summary: If this sister was really serious about seeking guidance she would have exerted herself by the proper means to get it.
Excuse Nine: It’s not time for that yet. I’m still too young for wearing hijaab. I’ll do it when I get older and after I make Hajj ( Pilgrimage to Macca)!
The Angel of Death my sister, is visiting and waiting at your door for the order of Allah ta’aala to open it on you at any moment in your life. Allah said: "When their term comes, neither can they delay it nor can they advance it an hour (or a moment)." [Soorah Al-An’aam 7:34]
Death my sister doesn’t discriminate between the young or the old and it may come while you are in this state of great sinfulness disobedience, fighting against the Lord of Honour with your uncovering and shameless adornment. My sister, you should race to obedience along with those others who race to answer the call of Allah tabaaraka wa ta’aala: "Race with one another in hastening towards forgiveness from your Lord and Paradise the width whereof is as the width of the heavens and the earth." [Soorah Al-hadeed 57:21]
Sister, don’t forget Allah or He will forget you by turning His mercy away from you in this life and the next. You are forgetting your own soul by not fulfilling the right or your souls to obey Allah and proper worship of Him. Allah stated about the hypocrites (Al-Munaafiqoon): "And be not like those who forgot Allah and He caused them to forget their own selves." [Soorah Al-Hashr 59: 19]
My sister wear the hijaab in your young age in opposition to the sinful deed because Allah is intense in punishment and will ask you on the Day of Resurrection about your youth and every moment of your life. In summary: Stop presuming some future expectation in your life will indeed occur!! How can you guarantee your own life until tomorrow?
Excuse Ten: I’m afraid that if I wear Islamic clothing that I’ll be labeled as belonging to some group or another and I hate partisanship.
My sister in Islam, there are only two parties in Islam, and they are both mentioned by Allah Almighty in His Noble Book. The first party is the party of Allah (Hizbullah) that He gives victory to because of their obedience to His commands and staying away from what He has forbidden. The second party is the party of the accursed Shaitaan (hizbush-Shaitan) which disobeys the Most Merciful and increase corruption in the earth. When you hold tight to and adhere to the commands of Allah, and among them is wearing the hijaab - you then become a part of the successful party of Allah. when you beautify and display your charms you are riding in the boat of Shaitaan and his friends and partners from among the hypocrites and the disbelievers and none worse could there be as friends.
Don’t you see how you are running from Allah and to the Shaitaan, trading filth for good? Run instead my sister to Allah and follow His way: "So flee to Allah (from His Torment to His mercy). Verily I (Muhammad) am a plain warner to you from Him." [Soorah Adh-Dhaariyaat 51: 50]. The hijaab is a high form of worship that is not subject to the opinions of people and their orientation and choices because the one who legislated it is the Most Wise Creator. In summary: In the way of seeking the pleasure of Allah and in hope of His Mercy and success in His Jannah and throw the statements of the devils among people and jinn against the wall! Hold tight to the legislation of Allah by your molars and follow the example of the striving and knowledgeable Mothers of the Believers and the female companions (radhiallahu anhum ajma’een).
In Conclusion
Your body is on display in the market of Shaitan seducting the hearts of men. The hairstyles, the tight clothing showing every detail of your figure, the short dresses showing off your legs and feet, the showy, decorative and fragrant clothing all angers the Merciful and pleases the Shaitaan. Every day that passes while you are in this condition, distances you further from Allah and brings you closer to Shaitaan. Each day curses and anger are directed toward you from the heavens until you repent. Every day brings you closer to the grave and the Angel of Death is ready to capture your soul. "Everyone shall taste death. And only on the Day of Resurrection shall you be paid your wages in full. And whoever is removed away from the Hellfire and admitted to Al-Jannah, is indeed successful. The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception (a deceiving thing)." [Soorah Aale ‘Imraan 3:185]
Get on the train of repentance my sister, before it passes by your station. Deeply consider my sister, what is happening today before tomorrow comes. Think about it, my sister - Now, before it is too late!
Maliha
on
March 12, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sister! Ya salaaam! Thank you so much for posting this. It is excellent advice for those thinking of wearing hijab. Interesting excuse how one may refuse to wear hijab to avoid covering what Allah s.w.t. has blessed her with. I've heard this one before. And also afraid to wear it in fear that they may stop wearing it later. I remember I was talking to one sister, and I expressed my opinion that women who wear hijab are more likely to be married to a muslim man than those who don't. She disagreed. One should not accept one as a husband who does not want his wife to wear hijab or sees it as an embarassment. It is a big "red alert", that when they marry, she will not get her rights and he will act and be as unbelievers do and will let her too. Thank you again sister for this article. Inshallah it will be an inspiration for sisters who wear hijab and not. Jazakallahu Khairan and wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
on
March 12, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! I have a little pet-peeve about size charts. Why is it that in size charts, the company does not mention the chest, waist, shoulder, and hip size together? From experience, most of the times, the measurements on the website are not what they actually are. Because of this, we will do our best to give you the most accurate of measurements possible on our abayas and jilabs that we'll be launching soon inshallah. This way you will know what to expect and will be pleased with your purchase. The selection has already been made and they are absolutely amazing. We are just tieing up a few loose ends in launching this new product line. Be sure you sign up for our newsletter so that you're first in line! And even more so, sign up for our Frequent-Buyers Discount program so that you can save again and again. Memberships are only valid if you reply to your confirmation email and not let it remain in "pending" status. Happy shopping! Wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
on
March 13, 2005
Salaam Sisters. I have been wearing Hijab now since this past Ramadan, and honestly it has been the best decision I have made in my life. I am more focused, and I feel closer to Allah. I must admit though that although I tend to get lazy with my prayers, I feel more like a Muslim now then before. I am 1 of 3 sisters, and I am the only one who wears hijab, but I am still treated the same by everyone. This was a decision that I made soley by myself after doing some research and reading what the Quran said about it. People have been generally nice about it. The one thing I wish I had though, were more hijabs!! If I had the money, I would totally buy from some sites. I have to find a way to get the really pretty ones, other than basic black. OK then, take care and talk to you soon.
Allah-Hafiz,
Miriam
Miriam
on
March 14, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sister, subhanallah for your staying steadfast in wearing your hijab! As far as fixing the problem with delaying prayer, it is important to gain more knowledge on the importance of prayer, and what it does for us inshallah. I did a search on www.searchtruth.com for the term prayer, and it quotes many ayat from the Quran about this topic. For reference paste the following link into your browser: http://www.searchtruth.com/search.php?keyword=prayer&chapter=&translator=5&search=1&search_word=all&start=30&records_display=10 Inshallah you'll find this helpful. Prayer is the only way to increase patience, iman, and prevent temptation of evil deeds. Inshallah, you're wearing hijab will be an inspiration to those you are close to and do not wear it yet.Jazakallahu Khairan and wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
March 15, 2005
Am so glad to find this website. especially this section, everyone share their experience about hijab.
I was juz back from my haj trip last month.People told me to wear jilbab for40th days, do not understand why but I did it. I was really look forward for the due date of my 40th day so that I can put it off. It is really strange feeling, in one side I feel comfortable but, some of my friends doesnt like that. They keep telling me, not necessary to wear jilbab as long as you do what ALLAH what you to do, and avoid what he forbid you to do! And your heart is clean from hate, jealousy etc. I actually agree with that. I saw a lot of good woman around me, doesnt wear jilbab. My sister wears jilbab, she is so happy when I came back from Haj that I wear it (She doesnt know yet that I already put if off). I am a single parents, got 2 kids which 22 and 13 years old. My youngest son looks disappointed when I took it off, when I ask him, do you prefer me wearing this all the time or you dont. He said up to me, since you are the one wearing it.
I am working with an expat boss, and I also think he doesnt like me wearing that. You know why, since that horrible terorism in the united states happen, most of expatriate look really down to the muslim women wearing jilbab. They thought of an extreem fanatic people.
I am really confused now, I really love to wear it, but i dont want to loose my job, friends, etc.
Muslim sister all over the world please help, pls convince me, why we got to wear jilbab? why?
What I need now is somebody
Riki Setiawati
on
March 16, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister, and thank you for sharing your experience with us. The first thing that I would like to add is that if you lose your friends because you wear jilbab (or did you mean "hijab"(the one for your hair)), then they really aren't friends to you? If you mean jilbab like the long dress like coat, then in surah 33:59 "Draw the Jilbab close around them when abroad", it is recommended to wear one. We are required as muslims to wear loose, unrevealing clothing and I don't know of any evidence stating that it is haram to wear loose clothing other than Jilbab. Also, if the God willed you to lose your job, it would have been determined for you even before putting it on and this is what i've learnt from a khodba by the world renound sheikh Yahya Ibrahim. I thought I would loose my job if I started wearing hijab too, but that didn't happen, and I've been working at my place of employment for almost 1.5 years after wearing hijab elhamdulilah. In general sister, do what you can to please Allah s.w.t. and nothing is wrong with trying to do more to please him. If it is jilbabs you are referring to we will be releasing a wide variety of them in 1 week inshallah so stay tuned and sign up for our new arrivals and discounts newsletter. Jazakallahu khairan and wa alaikum salam:)
Sister Deneer
on
March 16, 2005
Asalamu alaikum! If you're looking for some extra support our hijab chat is a great place to talk. Signing up takes less than a minute and you're approved instantly. We do reserve the right to remove memberships if necessary. To disable pop-ups, press and hold the shift-key as you click your "login" button. If you have a firewall, just temporarily disable it so that the chat program will be able to communicate with your computer so you can receive your messages. Simply enable the firewall again when you're done inshallah. Just click the link at the bottom of this blog to join or start chatting live with other muslims! Enjoy! Wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
March 18, 2005
Asalaam Alaikum,
I love how this blog is going, Mashallah! It seems like years ago since I've been wearing a hijab, but in reality it has only been three months. I feel like an old pro. For the Muslimas who complain of being hot or the hijab being itchy, try experimenting with different ways to wear it and different fabrics. Some of the light fabrics are not hot at all, and at the hottest, you can always go in the bathroom, wet your hair and put your hijab back on. I'm in Kuwait, trust me, it gets to be 50C (126F) in the summer. HELL is still hotter! I still struggle with what to wear to work-the jilbabs and abaya seem to dressy and where I work is too dirty, but I am in loose fitting clothes that covers all and I pray that ALLAH accepts my efforts. Also, have you considered accepting paypal? Thanks and take care,
Wasalaam, Khalissa
Khalissa
on
March 19, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister:) Kuwait eh', thats cool. Things can get kinda boring here down in Canada and cold too. We had snow just last week actually. Last summer was the best summer I've had since wearing hijab because I started wearing abayas (i love them!). I find chiffon or georgette is very breathable, and if there is wind it will penetrate through. Not to mention its also perfect maternity wear too because your clothes won't get tight as jilbabs and abayas are generally loose fitting. About paypal? Yes we do accept paypal, instant e-checks, and regular e-checks (take 5-7 days to clear), and pay with actual funds in your paypal account. We are also Paypal Verified too. Inshallah we will be launching a new variety of products this coming week. Wasalaam!
Sister Deneer
on
March 19, 2005
I really like this website it is really cool. The hijabs are beautiful mas'Allah.i live on an island in the caribbean, i can say that there are few muslim there. i am not a born muslim and the way of life practised here is definately not in accordance with islam. People here look at muslims here as if they are mad. and possibly most don't know what islam is about. Our society here is influenced greatly by the Western society and it is so sad to see young people here have no morals. not only that on this island what is considered to be right is wrong(in the site of Allah) and what is right wrong. In a society like this it is difficult to be muslim but by the will of Allah insha'Allah he will make it easy for the few of us that practice islam.
unknown
on
March 20, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister, Thank you for sharing your experience with us, in being a muslima in the carribbean. I'm sure its definately a trial, when those who look at us think we're mad, and are not the least bit interested in finding out why we do what we do. Inshallah the God will give us all the patience we need in this life. If your ever feeling alone and you need someone to chat with this is a great place to get the support you need inshallah. You can participate in our message board, where muslimahs get together and help eachother, or even our interactive live chat! You're not alone sister. Jazakallahu Khairan and wa alaikum salam:)
Sister Deneer
on
March 20, 2005
Assalamu Alaikum,
I reverted to Islam in 2000. I was 32 at the time and lived in Germany. About 2 months later I on advice from a Sister started wearing one. At first I felt strange wearing my Hijab. As time went on Allah made it easier for me to wear it. Allah directed me to information about different styles and a book about how to wear one. I get a lot of questions about why I wear it and it doesn't bother me to answer them. As a single woman at this time, I really get bothered less by men. It allows me freedom and protection at the same time. Allah introduced me to my future husband while I was wearing it and it didn't stop him from being interested. Alhamdulillah. I live in America and have never had to remove my Hijab for any jobs I have had, I thank Allah. I have learned that people are going to find someone to pick on, so my Hijab attracts them. That is until they find out what I really am about. Later they gain respect for me because they realize I have been Blessed from Allah with courage and Faith to deal with them. As an African American, I feel liberated from the stress of the contest women of all nations hold for best hair style, and hair length. I have truly benefited from wearing my Hijab. After reading one sister's comment, I feel really Blessed that I can wear one. Insha Allah laws will change to allow them to wear one in those countries with a ban. I will say that if I am Blessed with a child and it is a girl , I will not force her to wear a Hijab. I don't mean to undermine anyone, but no one likes to be forced. I will tell her about my experience and let her decide on her own. I believe Faith and real love for Allh is in the heart and is a strong foundation for growth. Without that love and understanding, it doesn't matter if you wear a Hijab or not. I have been Blessed with many experiences, without wearing one, good and bad, that have helped me be who I am today. Experiences based on decisions I made and not based on wearing a Hijab. May Allah Bless all my Sisters around the world with a stronger Eeman and Guidance. Truly Allah Knows Best in all things.
wa salaam,
Helen
Helen
on
March 21, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters! Inshallah you haven't experienced the situation I'm about to address but there is a very good chance that you have, especially if you're a busy person. Picture this...there you are wearing your nice hijab or shayla, with a co-ordinating colored jilbab or abaya and some nice modest boots or shoes...everything is cool...and you're about to run some errands and you need to take your wallet with you. So you grab your wallet and out the door with the kids inshallah. We all know it's not safe to put your wallet in your pocket or carry it in your hand at risk that some valueble items such as ID, coins or important notes you made to yourself might fall out. So elhamdulilah for the handbag. Inshallah the handbag that you do have goes with every color that you may wear, but maybe the style may not match, or maybe it does match but its quite worn out..or maybe it's more on the casual side and you prefer something a little more stylish or conservative. Well voila sisters! We here at The Canadian Muslim, formally known as ISHARS Online, have introduced the perfect accessory you can add to your personal woredrobe. We spoil our hijabs silly by buying wonderful pins and underscarves to accessorize it but what about ourselves? What about that perfect handbag to complete your full ensemble of lovely, hijab, and jilbab, and conservative shoes, and lovely handbag? There are several choices to choose from so go ahead, and treat yourself this time:) Happy Shopping;) Jazakallahu Khairan and wa alaikum salam!
Sister Deneer
on
March 23, 2005
Assalam-0-Alaikum
how are you all sisters? i am very happy to find this useful website.This message board certainly provides you with moral support that we really need in this time. I am muslim by birth ALHUMDULILLAH. I was born in Saudi Arabia and lived their (nicely covered) for 19 yrs. but when I came to U.S.A, satan got his way and i took off hijab and went with western clothing for 7 yrs (ashamed). ALHUMDULILLAH, ALLAH blessed us with a Great ALIMAH last yr who visits our local mosque once a month and gives us speeches about islam and women's role, rights and duties in Islam. After listening to her speeches, ALLAH gave me strength to put back my hijab ALHUMDULILLAH. I have been wearing it for 8 months now. and as many have mentioned that before , I feel naked without it.
i have many nice and beautiful hijabs. BUT I can't get the look that i like. That look of nicely wraped scarf. I have tried the ways you have mentioned on the site, but it still didn't work out. i always get that messy stuck out edges, and LOT of fabric gets mound under my chin and makes me uncomfortable. can some one send me link to a site where they show wearing hijab in detail because i just can't get the look
JAZAK ALLAH
Iram
on
March 23, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister,
Elhamdulilah you are now wearing hijab:) May I ask, what is the length of the hijab you wear? Is it square? or rectangle shayla? If there is alot of material under your chin then perhaps the shayla is too wide. 19" to 25" is a good width for a shayla(rectangle in shape) for beginners. For hijabs if you like more wrapping action then I would suggest hijabs above 40" inches square. If you are trying to wear a hijab neatly, the material should only wrap under your chin once after being tied under your chin with your oval pin. Another question is what kind of material is the hijab? I would suggest cotton, chiffon, non-shiny polyester, georgette hijabs or any material that would offer good friction when it comes in contact with material of the same kind. Also, there is a very descriptive "Bonus Hijab Tip", that explains the first difficult phases of putting on the hijab to get that perfect look inshallah. Practice as well as friction makes perfect:) Also you mentioned that the hijab sticks out somewhere or something like this? May I know what is the material of the hijab? If you want a more neat look I would suggest hijabs with drapeable material such as crepe chiffon, or georgette. Have you seen the crepe chiffon 2 piece shayla in black? I think every muslimah should have one because it's very lovely and looks nice with anything you wear:). The last advice I can give is, if you want to have material hanging on either the right side or left side of your head after wearing the shayla, from step one, place your head on 25%-30% of the hijab or shayla length. I always do this personally. If you have any other questions about this, email me, or use our live support or call us, as this is what we are here for; to let muslimahs be more confident in wearing their hijab, and strengthening your conviction that modesty is best:) Jazakallahu Khairan, and Wa alaikum salam:)
Sister Deneer
on
March 23, 2005
Asalaam Alaikum, Sister Daneer! Yes, Kuwait! I love it here, it's so beautiful and full of beautiful people. Ma shallah! It's the reason I was drawn to Islam in the first place! Al Humdillilah. Your handbags and accessories are fantastic, can't wait to go shopping! (UH OH! LOL!)
Khalissa
Khalissa
on
March 24, 2005
asalam alakum my name is kulasia i am new to being a muslim i would like to lear how to wear hijab please contact me at naughty9tray@aol.com thank you. wa alakum asalam
kulasia
on
March 24, 2005
I love Hijab. If someone does not want to cover just please DONT do it. Do not make up silly reasons and try to base it on Quran. The whole muslima Ummah for 1400 years have not been covering for their health. We cover because we follow the command of Allah and the example of the wives, daughters and shaba at the time of the prophet. Which is specified in hadith.
If someone wants to be a lawyer and find a loop hole they will, because its not a contract, its a choice. Those individuals will have to meet their lord and they may end up falling through that loop hole, so whats the point. Who are they fooling?
They know the truth, and I defy them to stand in the presence of Allah and relay that garbage.
Muslims are suppose to hear Allah's word and Obey. Remeber shatan is the one that descents. If one was to put hijab through their logical mind, it follows reason.
If the purpose of life is to worship Allah what value does looking like Britney Spear have. Its worthless, its a nil-value. Not only is it not contributing to your success and reason for being. Dressing to attract others in-and-of itself is an affront to your humanity. What is the point of attracting others that you do not know and may not even like if you did know them. You should show you are Muslim and be proud of that on the last day you would want to shine as a Muslim you would not want to be mistaken for a non-believer.
Tawba
on
March 24, 2005
Beautifully put, Tawba! I love Hijab, too, I consider it the supreme honor. Tomorrow will be my third month anniversary since I started wearing it to work, now I'd feel naked/weird without it. I'll admit it was hard and uncomfortable at first (had to experiment a little with different materials, ways of tying, one lacy pretty one had me itching all day.....BUT I will say again, it's an honor and we're blessed to be able to obey.
Khalissa
on
March 26, 2005
my experience has been that upon wearing the hijab and jilbab i feel completely modest and identifiable,very very comfortable and uplifted into another dimension as it were.as an african american.....the racist hated us and had us inside slavery...seeing us in hijab now he calls us terrorist. so i laughed and said to a friend of mine...yesterday a picaninny and today a terrorist..
sarah a. abdullah
on
March 27, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sister:) Elhamdulilah you are wearing islamic clothing. Its really the best way to go. I can totally relate with you being african american, and based on your joke..heheh, can I guess Jamaica? My mother is Jamaican, family from Manchester and my father from Trinidad, so I've been through it too:) My mother is just coming around now in me wearing hijab elhamdulilah. I've just added new instructions on how to wear one piece shaylas, so check it out, and maybe try something new! Jazakallahu Khairan & Wa alaikum salam.
Sister Deneer
on
March 27, 2005
Thanks Khalissa,
I am very happy for you that you can cover comfortably now. Its a really good idea to experiment as you did. I think it personalizes your hijab. I enjoy wearing my hijab and am also fashion forward in some ways. I think that it is okay for a Muslim women to look well dressed. I think that it is fine to look feminine, elegant, and sharp.
Thats why its kind of a bummer when I look for Islamic fashion on-line. This site is great fun for hijabs and I like it. I would also love a site that analyzes the colors and garment styles of the season and then puts them into an Islamic context. As well as the basics "black dress", "tweed suit", "linen suit", Well cut flowing skirts in basic colors like navy, black, brown, beige. You can find flowy skirts at the mall but they are always awful florals. If you like print hijabs it can pose a real problem. Does anyone out there know any muslim fashion designers that are represented online??! I want to see some muslima haute couture. Come on, YES I love hijab, and beautiful fabric too!!:)
Tawba
on
March 28, 2005
Wa alaikum salam Tawba, and thank you for your suggestions! We will also be having fashionable yet sharp looking islamic skirts in many kinds of fabrics including Jeans (my ultimate fave!). Be sure to sign up for our new arrivals newsletter so that you don't miss out. We do our best to bring the muslimah haute couture to you:) Have fun and wa alaikum salam
Sister Deneer
on
March 28, 2005
Thanks! You know what I also love. Duster style jackets (stops right above the knee/at the knee/and or just below the knee. They are such a modest option for any type of suit or casual coordinated set. Usually my suits consist of a hijab,a duster jacket, straight-wide leg pants and a long sleeved shell(usually of cotton/cashmere/satin/or a softer fabric. Some of them are not made to go together but I am making due for now. I would love to see your take on this idea Thanks again!
Tawba
on
March 28, 2005
Asalamu alaikum sisters! Paying for your items are even easier now @ The Canadian Muslim, formally known as ISHARS Online. When you are in the checkout and you see your total, you now have a convenient option to enter your Visa or Mastercard information directly onto the screen in our secure SSL (secure sockets layer) checkout! If you would like to pay with a non-visa or non-mastercard method, you can proceed to pay with Paypal or with certified cheque or international moneyorder (not issued from USPS because they can only be cashed in USA). Happy Shopping! Wa alaikum salam;)
Sister Deneer
on
March 28, 2005
Salam All,
I came across this site by accident, but I was happy to discover it! I was born Muslimah -- but I still do not cover. I'm 28 years old - and I honestly don't know what is holding me back! My husband keeps insisting that I wear it, but it seems the more he tells me to do so, the more I am drawn back! I wear it sometimes when we go out as "practice" - but I have been finding myself not being able to wait until I get home to take it off. Is there something wrong with me? I know it's our Deen and a Wajib - some days I think i'm really close to wearing it, while other days I can not imagine wearing it for the rest of my life. I don't know what is bringing this on - When I see a girl that is wearing Hijab, I feel such admiration towards her and can't help but to look down on myself for not being able to wear it. But at the same time, i don't have the courage to wear it! :( -- Any helpful advice? Anyone else in the same situation as I am?
~Malina~
Malina
on
April 12, 2005
Hello Malina,
I can relate to your situation to some degree all though my situation is somewhat different. I am a revert/convert to Islam, I am 33 years old, divorced with 2 children. I can identify with your feelings when you see a covered sister. I myself feel the same feelings of knowing that I should be covering, but feel hesitant to do so...but am not sure why. I know that part of my reasons for the hesitation is because of what my family and friends would think, and I know that I should not let that rule my mind....but it does, but hopefully not forever. I think everyone has different feelings and ideas in regards to this issue and it would be great to hear some more stories, hopefully it would give us some support on the matter.
Elysia
on
April 13, 2005
I understand what both of you have expressed about your reservation with wearing hijab. I think it was easier for me because there was no pressure for me to wear hijab. My father always explained that Muslims are those who submit to the will of Allah. And that to do an action and/or not to do an action, the only justification we as Muslims need is that Allah commanded us to do or not to do a thing. My father also in the same breath, told me that it was totally my choice (with no judgement attached). That all I should do was inform him and my mother of my choice.This is because he wanted it to be purely for the pleasure of Allah. I could not even bear for my father to even bring up the idea of me, in my mind, failing to do my duty. I had never considered not covering, for me it was a given. I just wanted to share my story, maybe it may help you to see the other side of the coin. If you looked at it from another perspective instead of "I should cover", you can think of it as "I should not be immodest". I hope this helps
Tawba
on
April 13, 2005
I just read my own post:) The last line may be very helpful for all of us hijab or non-hijabi. If we focused less on saying I should cover and more on saying I should not be immodest. If someone changed their way of dressing based on this statement their behaviour and attitudes would logically also change. The decision not to be immodest may be more profound.
Tawba
on
April 13, 2005
Asalamo alaiik sister:
How r u doing? thanx for ur support.
i really wished that ur chat room would have more people most of the times i come on to it check out (ur site) i can never get anybody in the chat room. It would be nice if there would be participants in the rooms. Sometimes i am bored and i feel like i want to talk to a muslim sister but i haven't been successful. I will keep on tryin insha'Allah.
unknown
on
April 18, 2005
Wa alaikum salam sis, and we do appologize for that..there are more than 200 members at the time being. What we will do is send out a mass email informing members that the room is open from 7-9 EST..and with increased popularity we will broaden this time range. Inshallah this will get more people to meet at the same time inshallah. Wish us luck..wasalam;)
Sister Deneer
on
April 29, 2005
Asalamu alaikum, Please post your messages on PAGE 2 as it is the page that visitors see first, and receives the most responses;) Wasalam
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